Hello Again My Friends.

[Muhast]

You are one of my favorite posters. So sorry for the bad news, but really happy that you seem to have a plan and things will work out for you!

I'll pray everything goes smooth with the move and the custody battle!

[Dash28]

Originally Posted by SDogo

You guys rock, this is exactly why I came back and let my situation be known. Your support is much appreciated and the advice I have gotten in PM's is priceless.

Can't wait to get back posting more once the clouds have parted and things settle down!

Better be back for the draft talk!

[Bigdog]

It is great hearing from you again, SDogo and I am sorry to hear about your troubles. How are your kids doing with this change? My thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of need. Time does heal broken hearts and if you need anything just let me know. You and your kids will always be supported by me.

[diehard2294]

It sounds like you are headed in the right situation. Good luck

[Duane]

Best of luck to you going forward.

[Zaxor]

Originally Posted by SDogo

This post is very difficult as well as much needed, healing of sorts if you will.

I have received more then a few emails, PM's and texts over the last 5 months from many of you wondering if I was ok and where I was at. I apologize for the lack of response. The last 5 months have been a very trying and difficult time in my life and I have been on a self seeking mission of sorts.

Shortly after the season began my wife and I started to have some issues. I noticed something was wrong but working so many hours and being on the road a lot I was missing signs and missing facts. I soon found out my wife of 15 years had been having an affair and we seperated. It was very hard on myself and my 3 children. I went through a stage of depression, stopped caring about life and everything I enjoyed. I was just hanging on trying to make it. It stayed that way for a good time and then I decided I could let it control me or use it to my advantage.

[View Full Quote]I discovered a lot about myself again as a person and as a father. Finally right after Christmas I made a major decision. I'll keep that to myself but long story short, I moved back to NY from SC and I have my 3 children with me. My relationship with my wife is stressed at best and a resolution looks impossible but I have been blessed and I'm preparing to start over.

I'm currently in the process of trying to get permanent custody of my 3 children and starting to enjoy the things I gave up on. For a long time just coming to this board to check in was difficult, for the first time in my life I believe I may have caught a total of 3 hours of Cowboys football. None of it was important to me but I missed it.

The good news is while I still have a lot of healing to do I'm back. I have my 3 kids, I'm enjoying things again and I'm finding there is a life out there for a single father of 3! Matter of fact, having your crap together and being a single father is a bit of a bonus when it comes to the attention of the ladies.

I just wanted to stop in and thank all of you that have reached out for your concern and support and those that have offered prayers I ask that you keep me in mind and the journey and healing is not yet over.

Thanks again!

raised mine alone also...its harder on single dads...many programs are geared for single moms but not so for single dads..also I suffered in the work environment as taken off for a sick kid was like asking for the moon and you would get looks like you were from Mars...thats the bad....the absolute great part is you get to share in every aspect of their life I can't even begin to tell you the joy that will bring you. I had no social life really but I am really not into socializing alot anyway but I got to meet all the moms and dads at the school functions or other interests...in a way it cost me a career in another it has been a very rewarding experience...my 2 boys are big boys now well I guess they are men really but I am very proud of them...since than I got a different lady and we have 2 girls now the plan was for me to go out and work and her to take care of the kids but that was shot to heck when I got ill and forced into medical retirement so I am raising these 2 girls (with a bit of help from their Mom) but it was like putting on an old shoe slipped right into the routine...if ya need help my friend I will be glad to help ya out any time...just shoot me a pm

[visionary]

love your posts SDogo

hope all stabilizes in your personal life

I always say that there is nothing in this world like kids, enjoy them, they will help the healing

welcome back!!!

[JBond]

God Bless...It sounds like you are a terrific father. That is the most important role a man can have.

[RS12]

Every symptom you desribed is deep depression. Sounds like you have turned the corner and are doing the right things. Pulling for you.

[CowboyStar88]

Originally Posted by SDogo

This post is very difficult as well as much needed, healing of sorts if you will.

I have received more then a few emails, PM's and texts over the last 5 months from many of you wondering if I was ok and where I was at. I apologize for the lack of response. The last 5 months have been a very trying and difficult time in my life and I have been on a self seeking mission of sorts.

Shortly after the season began my wife and I started to have some issues. I noticed something was wrong but working so many hours and being on the road a lot I was missing signs and missing facts. I soon found out my wife of 15 years had been having an affair and we seperated. It was very hard on myself and my 3 children. I went through a stage of depression, stopped caring about life and everything I enjoyed. I was just hanging on trying to make it. It stayed that way for a good time and then I decided I could let it control me or use it to my advantage.
[View Full Quote]
I discovered a lot about myself again as a person and as a father. Finally right after Christmas I made a major decision. I'll keep that to myself but long story short, I moved back to NY from SC and I have my 3 children with me. My relationship with my wife is stressed at best and a resolution looks impossible but I have been blessed and I'm preparing to start over.

I'm currently in the process of trying to get permanent custody of my 3 children and starting to enjoy the things I gave up on. For a long time just coming to this board to check in was difficult, for the first time in my life I believe I may have caught a total of 3 hours of Cowboys football. None of it was important to me but I missed it.

The good news is while I still have a lot of healing to do I'm back. I have my 3 kids, I'm enjoying things again and I'm finding there is a life out there for a single father of 3! Matter of fact, having your crap together and being a single father is a bit of a bonus when it comes to the attention of the ladies.

I just wanted to stop in and thank all of you that have reached out for your concern and support and those that have offered prayers I ask that you keep me in mind and the journey and healing is not yet over.

Thanks again!

SD!!! I can relate!!! Man I am happy to hear that you are doing well! I am going through the samething minus the Childern as we didn't have kids. I am in the state of heavy deperssion and withdrawl from life so to speak. For anyone going through the same you know what I mean. I wish you the best SD stay strong!

[McLovin]

BEst of luck

I went through a prolonged custody trial in 2006. I understand "the hole"

Sent you a PM.

And yes, it does get better, date as soon as you can, but dont fall for the first based on sex alone.. (sorry if too graphic)

[McLovin]

Originally Posted by CowboyStar88

SD!!! I can relate!!! Man I am happy to hear that you are doing well! I am going through the samething minus the Childern as we didn't have kids. I am in the state of heavy deperssion and withdrawl from life so to speak. For anyone going through the same you know what I mean. I wish you the best SD stay strong!

you too brother, anytime you want to vent - PM me

[SDogo]

Originally Posted by CowboyStar88

SD!!! I can relate!!! Man I am happy to hear that you are doing well! I am going through the samething minus the Childern as we didn't have kids. I am in the state of heavy deperssion and withdrawl from life so to speak. For anyone going through the same you know what I mean. I wish you the best SD stay strong!

I'm here for you as well man. Maybe different stages, maybe not the exact situation but the pain is all the same.

[SDogo]

Originally Posted by McLovin

BEst of luck

I went through a prolonged custody trial in 2006. I understand "the hole"

Sent you a PM.

And yes, it does get better, date as soon as you can, but dont fall for the first based on sex alone.. (sorry if too graphic)

Got it and responded. Much appreciated brother.

[SDogo]

Originally Posted by RS12

Every symptom you desribed is deep depression. Sounds like you have turned the corner and are doing the right things. Pulling for you.

There is no doubt in my mind and I'm not going to lie, there was one day all I had was me and my truck and about 30 minutes where I was looking for a bridge.

Thanks for the support man!