There are alot of good decent people in this forum. I'm currently fighting a similar battle - though I'm 20 years older than you. What I'm finding to help me right now is keeping a journal with BOTH what I did to exercise and what exactly I ate that day along with the number of calories.
Personally doing this helps me limit the amount of binge/nervous eating I do. I do give myself one day a week right now to cheat...and its coinciding with Sundays during NFL season
Also if you drink alcohol/beer, try to cut back. I've found that that's a great way to add 2000 calories I don't need pretty quickly over a night.
Good luck. Oh, and for me, making a conscious effort to eat SLOWER and actually enjoy the food I eat has helped immensely as well. I have found that before I was just wolfing down food much the same way a dog does.