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SDogo · 01-13-2013

This post is very difficult as well as much needed, healing of sorts if you will.

I have received more then a few emails, PM's and texts over the last 5 months from many of you wondering if I was ok and where I was at. I apologize for the lack of response. The last 5 months have been a very trying and difficult time in my life and I have been on a self seeking mission of sorts.

Shortly after the season began my wife and I started to have some issues. I noticed something was wrong but working so many hours and being on the road a lot I was missing signs and missing facts. I soon found out my wife of 15 years had been having an affair and we seperated. It was very hard on myself and my 3 children. I went through a stage of depression, stopped caring about life and everything I enjoyed. I was just hanging on trying to make it. It stayed that way for a good time and then I decided I could let it control me or use it to my advantage.

I discovered a lot about myself again as a person and as a father. Finally right after Christmas I made a major decision. I'll keep that to myself but long story short, I moved back to NY from SC and I have my 3 children with me. My relationship with my wife is stressed at best and a resolution looks impossible but I have been blessed and I'm preparing to start over.

I'm currently in the process of trying to get permanent custody of my 3 children and starting to enjoy the things I gave up on. For a long time just coming to this board to check in was difficult, for the first time in my life I believe I may have caught a total of 3 hours of Cowboys football. None of it was important to me but I missed it.

The good news is while I still have a lot of healing to do I'm back. I have my 3 kids, I'm enjoying things again and I'm finding there is a life out there for a single father of 3! Matter of fact, having your crap together and being a single father is a bit of a bonus when it comes to the attention of the ladies.

I just wanted to stop in and thank all of you that have reached out for your concern and support and those that have offered prayers I ask that you keep me in mind and the journey and healing is not yet over.

Thanks again!

**jobberone** · 01-13-2013

It is so good to hear from you. I'm glad you are moving on and very happy you have your children with you. Hope to hear from you more often.

SDogo · 01-13-2013

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Originally Posted by jobberone

It is so good to hear from you. I'm glad you are moving on and very happy you have your children with you. Hope to hear from you more often.

Thanks man, once the kids are a little more settled and I get some other things out the way I plan on being around more often. The kids are the only thing that have kept me together and gave me a new focus.

Thanks for the support!

theogt · 01-13-2013

Sounds like you made the difficult choice that will ultimately make your life better. Kudos for that. Best of luck in your legal proceedings. Corny sayings aside, time does heal all.

SDogo · 01-13-2013

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Originally Posted by theogt

Sounds like you made the difficult choice that will ultimately make your life better. Kudos for that. Best of luck in your legal proceedings. Corny sayings aside, time does heal all.

It was not an easy choice at all but your right, the moment I put it into action I could feel the healing start and it was like a world of opportunity opened up. Sometime's hanging on is the worst decision. Holding off on filing divorce for right now, too much change and drama for the kids to start that right away. The Ex and I are "civil" at the moment and are agreeing on what is best for the kids so we are going to do mediation and keep it out of the courts for the near future.

That sounds corny and I heard it a million times, never wanted to listen but your right, each day gets a little easier.

burmafrd · 01-13-2013

Situation like yours is almost the same as a death in the family. The death of a marriage you thought a good one and to have it happen that way is about as bad as it gets.

Sounds to me like you thought things out and made a decision. That is the best thing to do; take time and think and ponder. Never make a hasty decision when its important.

Good luck and well as regards the Boys this year sadly you have not missed much.

**Reality** · 01-13-2013

I am glad to see you back around and I really hope things go well for you in your personal life!

/reality

vlad · 01-13-2013

Sorry to hear about those troubles but I can say it sounds like you've navigated them like a champ!

Best luck, welcome back to NY!

**BrAinPaiNt** · 01-13-2013

Best of luck to you going forward, really hope everything works out for the best

ShiningStar · 01-13-2013

Great to ahve you back but more importantly great to hear you found life again. It enjoy it again and live it while you can and find all the good is a joy upon itself.

Nice to see you posting again and hope to read your posts in the future.

Kangaroo · 01-13-2013

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Originally Posted by SDogo

This post is very difficult as well as much needed, healing of sorts if you will.

I have received more then a few emails, PM's and texts over the last 5 months from many of you wondering if I was ok and where I was at. I apologize for the lack of response. The last 5 months have been a very trying and difficult time in my life and I have been on a self seeking mission of sorts.

Shortly after the season began my wife and I started to have some issues. I noticed something was wrong but working so many hours and being on the road a lot I was missing signs and missing facts. I soon found out my wife of 15 years had been having an affair and we seperated. It was very hard on myself and my 3 children. I went through a stage of depression, stopped caring about life and everything I enjoyed. I was just hanging on trying to make it. It stayed that way for a good time and then I decided I could let it control me or use it to my advantage.

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I wonder what happened; I sorry that happen to you I will put you in my prayers as you continue to move forward in life. I am glad you still have a relationship with your kids that is very important for them and something to cherish.

**justbob** · 01-13-2013

Glad your back and hope to see more of you.... Best of luck..

Eskimo · 01-13-2013

We missed you here and I am glad that you have returned. I am so sorry for all the trouble you have had lately. I wish you the best of luck in your ongoing quest to maintain custody of your children and in your legal proceedings.

**big dog cowboy** · 01-13-2013

Great to hear from you again SDogo. I'm sorry to hear about your troubling times but it sounds like everything he heading in a positive direction now. Take care and post more often!

hutch1254 · 01-13-2013

Welcome back SDogo. Sounds like you've made some strides despite the situation. Keep your chin up and keep being a great dad!