Discussion in 'NFL Zone' started by joseephuss, Apr 24, 2014.
Pretty standard stuff these days. No big deal.
Two years is not giving it a chance, especially when it is something that you vowed to do for 40, 50 years, or until death do you part.
They had been together since high school.
So what if they hit a bump or two in the road, ... man up and work through it. That's just it, they didn't work on theirs long enough or well enough. They should still be married after two years.
I've been with the same woman for 43 years, ... and we are best friends and happier than ever. But thanks for the great advice.
And yes, our society has negatively impacted the institution of marriage.
It is pretty standard stuff these days, .. sad but true. You are right on that one.
And that is a perfect example of how our culture has negatively impacted the institution of marriage.
But you are wrong on your other point, it is a big deal.
I think we can agree to disagree
On why you shouldn't offer condolences when someone gets divorced:
"Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it's true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and ... they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times."
None of us knows why Wilson chose to divorce his wife. It could've very well been infidelity on her part, which happens frequently with wives who don't spend a lot of time with their pro athlete husbands. People just always assume the husband cheated or it was about money.
Yea that's true. I'm female but in this case we don't know that it's something she didn't do.
This is so wrong. It may be true a large part of the time, but if you are going to throw phrases around like, "divorce is always good news" and "they had a great thing and then got divorced has happened zero times", ... that is not accurate.
I have know people that later regret getting divorced. They realize later that they had a great spouse and let it slip away because of silly little differences and misunderstandings.
But pride, ego, money issues, in-laws, kids, job demands, etc. etc. and on and on make life difficult at times, especially early in a marriage. And instead of clinging to each other, younger couples turn on each other, .. or back to their parents. Because of immaturity.
They are just confused, .. being married is not something that they have experience with.
And our culture just says, "think of yourself first, you are No. 1, .. if you aren't happy just get divorced and find another one."
Divorce can be a bad thing, it can be an ugly thing. And if there are kids involved, it never goes away.
I wish everyone could know and enjoy the wonderful comfort and security of a great marriage. Knowing someone is always there for you, and always has your back is an awesome thing.
I would just like to see more kids work at it a little longer than two years.
That very well may be true, .. but I think that probably at least 80% of failed marriages are because the guy did not man up and be a husband, and remained a selfish little boy.
Drinking, gambling, playing ball, hanging out with his friends, etc.
Be a husband, .. or don't get married.
Maybe they both regret getting married in the first place. Perhaps they knew their relationship wasn't strong, but decided to get married anyway. You just don't know, but you judge so harshly something that doesn't really impact your own life and your own marriage.
Maybe, just maybe the two weren't in love and they married because they thought they were, not to mention they were/are young......who knows.
It might be better to call it now rather than spending 20 more years trying to figure it out. Sometimes it is better to be single and happy rather than married and miserable.
That is likely true in cases where the wife filed for the divorce, but Russell did. Again, I'm not assuming what the cause is. I agree with you, and prefer all married couples to stay married and work through their issues. Even in some cases, when adultery has occurred.
Who knows? It's a private thing which he stated in his press release.
I said in my very first post in this thread, .. they should not have gotten married in the first place.
And now you have come to that conclusion ???
I'm not judging anything, or anybody, .. I'm just stating my opinion on marriage. Which I said in my second post in this thread.
You can relax and stop jumping on your keyboard now.
My point is if you are going to get married, ... take it seriously, .. do it for the right reasons, .. make sure you understand what you are doing, and be committed to making it work .... longer than a year or two.
Is that too much to ask or expect?
I dont know Russell, but everything I read or hear about Russell is that he is a good dude. Sometimes, people just fall out of love and it does not have to involve cheating. Apparently, they dated in high school, so I do not really think gold digging applies here because she has been with him before any of them knew he would be successful.
At least they realized they were not meant for forever, before children were involved.
Why do you have to ask or expect something of others and their marriages? Is it any of your concern? Would you appreciate it if someone questioned your marriage?
You've said plenty of judgmental things in this thread. Saying guys who don't work on their marriage are just boys reeks of judgement.
Be happy with your own marriage, which is something that does effect you and you can work on. Congrats on your successful, long lasting relationship.
All of that is speculation. She could've been boinking every Tom, Dick, and Harry in Seattle. We don't know.
Gotta man up and keep em in the kitchen, right?
This opinion is old world, man. They call marriage an institution for a reason - it ain't mandatory.
I could be wrong, but I am pretty sure in filing for divorce she can ask for potential wages. But, I could be totally be off base on that.
No, but might be eligible for alimony, either rehabilitative or indefinite.