L O L ! ... talk about speculation ! Those are your words, not mine. Don't know where you got that idea from anything I have said. I feel just the opposite actually. My wife and I definitely have different roles, .. but we are in this thing together. You may look at those roles as gender based, but they aren't. Just some things she is better at than I am, .. and vice versa. We each do everything we can to make this "marriage thing" work smoothly.