The Toughest People I Know

Discussion in 'Off-topic Zone' started by Hostile, Mar 13, 2009.

  1. Hostile

    Hostile The Duke

    119,480 Messages
    4,198 Likes Received
    Some of you have heard me talk before about a friend mine, Davy, who has had 3 brain tumors in his very young life. He and his wife Carrie are quite possibly the toughest people I know. I go to Church with them.

    About 6 years ago Davy (24 or 25 at the time) asked several of us if we could meet in a classroom at Church to say a prayer for him. He told us all he had been having really bad headaches and that that the next day, Monday, he was having a CAT scan and he was really scared. We all were at that point.

    On that CAT Scan they found a brain tumor about the size of a golf ball. They scheduled him for surgery the very next day, Tuesday. The next Sunday Davy and Carrie were at Church. He had massive scars and staples in his head and he was clearly quite weak, but he was there. I was floored.

    Things would have been good except Davy got infections and they had to begin aggressive treatments and as you can imagine Davy went through hell. So did Carrie. They were so young and the cancer was so aggressive.

    In fact, about 6 months after the first tumor and in the midst of fighting the infections they found another tumor. This one was the size of a baseball. Right back in for surgery. Davy was only given a 25% chance to live. He was still in the hospital when 7 of us who had played church softball with him decided we would shave our heads and go see him.

    Seeing him laugh at us when we walked in that hospital room bald like he was made us all feel like he could beat the odds. One of the guys, Jared, contacted the LiveStrong Foundation that is Lance Armstrong's cancer research charity. Not only did they send Davy survival materials and information, Lance himself called Davy to tell him to keep fighting. I thought that was beyond cool.

    Davy was in such delicate condition that he couldn't have people touch him for risk of infections. I never once heard him complain.

    Davy did beat the odds and even enrolled in and got accepted to Medical School. He is studying Oncology. The local PBS station even did a story about him.

    Things were going good for 3 years and the 3rd tumor hit. This one was also about the size of an orange. I will never forget Carrie begging him that if he was going to leave her, leave her with a baby. That killed me.

    The thing was, because of all of Davy's chemo and radiation they knew he would would probably never be able to father children. Before the 2nd tumor and treatments they had donated sperm with the purpose of a future pregnancy for Carrie.

    We did not know if Carrie would go ahead with a pregnancy if Davy died or not. I don't think anyone could blame her if she lost him and didn't. I can't even imagine how hard that would be.

    The 3rd surgery to remove a tumor went better than the first two, and I am pleased to say that Davy looks like he finally has this horrible disease whipped. For 2 years after the final surgery they injected fluid into Davy's skull cap on a monthly basis to grow more skin. For two years his head was shaped really funny. It looked like he had another huge tumor on the back and right side of his head.

    Very conscious of how his head looked Davy wore a skull cap everywhere.

    Nothing slows him down. Barely a year after that 3rd tumor he was speaking at Medical Conferences. Here's an agenda where he did a presentation. You'll find his name at the 1:15 PM slot on July 25th.

    In late July of last year Davy finally got the surgery to have a normal shaped head again. He's growing hair back albeit in patches.

    33 weeks ago Carrie had invitro fertilization and they found out she was pregnant with twin boys.

    I just found out a few minutes ago that Carrie had the babies Wednesday night at 10:30 PM. The reason Davy could not call anyone to let them know...he had a major medical exam yesterday and couldn't afford the time to talk to anybody.

    Today he started calling people. Man, what a journey. They are still so young but they are both so tough. Carrie is being released tonight. The babies will spend at least 3 more weeks in the hospital. I can't wait to see them.

    Sorry for the long story. Hope it wasn't boring.
  2. FloridaRob

    FloridaRob Well-Known Member

    2,006 Messages
    174 Likes Received
    awesome story Hos. Sounds like it would make a good movie.
  3. Bob Sacamano

    Bob Sacamano Benched

    57,073 Messages
    2 Likes Received
    God works in wonders doesn't he?

    awesome, awesome story
  4. bbgun

    bbgun Benched

    27,868 Messages
    1 Likes Received
    What a fighter. A lesser man would have given up years ago. If there's one person entitled to do everything on the "what is your bail?" list--with no regrets--it's him.
  5. Bob Sacamano

    Bob Sacamano Benched

    57,073 Messages
    2 Likes Received
    I'd advise against that
  6. Jon88

    Jon88 Benched

    7,665 Messages
    0 Likes Received
    I had an uncle like that who died of colon cancer.

    He knew he was sick for a few months too long. He was just embarassed to say anything about it. He lived through hell for well over a year. He knew it was a losing battle, but he kept on going through it until his body gave out. I don't see how he did it.
  7. DallasFanSince86

    DallasFanSince86 Pessimism Sucks

    2,056 Messages
    0 Likes Received
    Great story. Glad everything turned out fine.
  8. the kid 05

    the kid 05 Individuals play the game, but teams beat the odds

    9,541 Messages
    3 Likes Received
    That man makes every one who i can consider tough look like a group of sallies, my best wishes to him and his wife
  9. Yeagermeister

    Yeagermeister Active Member

    47,596 Messages
    21 Likes Received
    Davy and Carrie :bow:
  10. big dog cowboy

    big dog cowboy THE BIG DOG Staff Member

    67,590 Messages
    23,401 Likes Received
    All I can say is :eek:

    Hopefully their tough times are behind them now.
  11. Hostile

    Hostile The Duke

    119,480 Messages
    4,198 Likes Received
    Thanks everyone. There's so much I left out that I could have told you. Like how after the 2nd tumor Davy had no peripheral vision for several months but refused to take time off school because he still had tunnel vision and could read. So 20 to 30 people from our church signed up to get him back and forth to school every day until his vision came back and he could drive himself again.

    Or like just a few weeks ago when Davy's Dad was having surgery in San Diego so he went to be there with him. Carrie went into premature labor and drove herself to the hospital. The stress and new medication caused Davy to have a seizure and they rushed him to the ER in San Diego. He got his meds stabilized and then checked himself out of the hospital and drove home 8 hours to be with Carrie.

    They named the babies Matthew and Kevin. I don't know which one is which yet. 3 pounds 11 ounces for the smaller baby. 4 pounds 11 ounces for the larger. I'm going to try and go see them today. I also have to attend a friend's 50th wedding anniversary. If I can get some pictures I will post them.
  12. HoleInTheRoof

    HoleInTheRoof Benched

    3,265 Messages
    0 Likes Received
    Misleading thread title. Im the toughest person Hostile knows.
  13. CowboyFan74

    CowboyFan74 Cowboys Analyst

    16,474 Messages
    2,602 Likes Received
    That is an amazing story of hope in dark times. We are all faced with different challenges in life and when you hear a story like this it gives you strength to push forward, thanks for sharing.
  14. xWraithx

    xWraithx Benched

    3,449 Messages
    0 Likes Received

    :laugh2: :laugh2:

Share This Page