Divorced hurts, being dumped by new girlfriend hurt worse

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I am 49, separated with pending divorce in October but I began a Bumble relationship with a woman and it was great for 3 months and she dumped me all of a sudden, she caught on that I had the "don't want to be with/don't wanna be without you" mentality and she called it quits, fair enough but I have had miserable periods of grief twice now in about 9 months, I went 2 decades without this "heartache" and man, I wasn't missing anything because this sucks.....Advice?
 
HeavyBarrel said:
I am 49, separated with pending divorce in October but I began a Bumble relationship with a woman and it was great for 3 months and she dumped me all of a sudden, she caught on that I had the "don't want to be with/don't wanna be without you" mentality and she called it quits, fair enough but I have had miserable periods of grief twice now in about 9 months, I went 2 decades without this "heartache" and man, I wasn't missing anything because this sucks.....Advice?
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Take a trip to Thailand. Seriously.
 
HeavyBarrel said:
I am 49, separated with pending divorce in October but I began a Bumble relationship with a woman and it was great for 3 months and she dumped me all of a sudden, she caught on that I had the "don't want to be with/don't wanna be without you" mentality and she called it quits, fair enough but I have had miserable periods of grief twice now in about 9 months, I went 2 decades without this "heartache" and man, I wasn't missing anything because this sucks.....Advice?
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Move to the keys. Get you a boat. Go out fishing like Jimmy in your avatar. Live the life.
 
BrAinPaiNt said:
Move to the keys. Get you a boat. Go out fishing like Jimmy in your avatar. Live the life.
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That’s not really good advice unless you’re young and well off. Salt water boats are expensive and hard to maintain. Not to mention fuel, bait costs. I had a boat in Rockport for years so have some history.
 
Rockport said:
That’s not really good advice unless you’re young and well off. Salt water boats are expensive and hard to maintain. Not to mention fuel, bait costs. I had a boat in Rockport for years so have some history.
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Way to try and smash someone's dreams. Why are you such a big bad meanie...

Something to get the good mood going...




Now cheer up, you are living the life. :cool:
 
BrAinPaiNt said:
Way to try and smash someone's dreams. Why are you such a big bad meanie...

Something to get the good mood going...




Now cheer up, you are living the life. :cool:
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Just trying to help out. Boats are very expensive. I didn’t even mention storage.
 
HeavyBarrel said:
I am 49, separated with pending divorce in October but I began a Bumble relationship with a woman and it was great for 3 months and she dumped me all of a sudden, she caught on that I had the "don't want to be with/don't wanna be without you" mentality and she called it quits, fair enough but I have had miserable periods of grief twice now in about 9 months, I went 2 decades without this "heartache" and man, I wasn't missing anything because this sucks.....Advice?
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Yea, it sucks out here bro. Hopefully things get better for you
 
Sorry for your circumstances. Relationships are hard. A lot of people suggest jumping into a new relationship right away, but sometimes that is the worst advice. I think people need time between relationships. Time for introspection. Time for healing. Time to decide what it is you want out of a relationship going forward. For some people being single sucks, but being in a bad relationship is torture.

At 49 it may be worth a warning to beware of women going into menopause. That can be a frightening experience for husbands and boyfriends!
 
Only 3 months long relationship? You'll be over that in no time. Don't let a speedbump in life get you down. There are a billion single women out there. Most of them are crazy, lol, but you'll sort it out. If she was that special to you, go win her back.
 
BrAinPaiNt said:
Way to try and smash someone's dreams. Why are you such a big bad meanie...

Something to get the good mood going...




Now cheer up, you are living the life. :cool:
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Thread side note: I absolutely love that skit. My wife and I sometimes say "Space Pants" to each other as an inside joke. :laugh:
 
HeavyBarrel said:
I am 49, separated with pending divorce in October but I began a Bumble relationship with a woman and it was great for 3 months and she dumped me all of a sudden, she caught on that I had the "don't want to be with/don't wanna be without you" mentality and she called it quits, fair enough but I have had miserable periods of grief twice now in about 9 months, I went 2 decades without this "heartache" and man, I wasn't missing anything because this sucks.....Advice?
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Try to remember how much it sucks having to listen to everything they say, visit their parents, share the TV, wait for the bathroom, give up the freedom to do what you want, when you want, pretend she's a good cook, etc, etc, etc. Living alone is much better. I always know where my stuff is, nobody wakes me up in the middle of the night over stupid crap, I play my music, watch my shows, eat my food, etc.

Maybe you're someone who needs to be with someone, but if you think about the pros and cons, maybe it'll ease your loneliness, at least.
 
Runwildboys said:
Try to remember how much it sucks having to listen to everything they say, visit their parents, share the TV, wait for the bathroom, give up the freedom to do what you want, when you want, pretend she's a good cook, etc, etc, etc. Living alone is much better. I always know where my stuff is, nobody wakes me up in the middle of the night over stupid crap, I play my music, watch my shows, eat my food, etc.

Maybe you're someone who needs to be with someone, but if you think about the pros and cons, maybe it'll ease your loneliness, at least.
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It’s so weird because she absolutely adored me in the beginning, she looked at me with puppy dog eyes constantly but i wasn’t ready for a long term commitment but she was absolutely falling in love with me, then all of a sudden dumps me and already has another boyfriend, im way too old for this crap lol
 
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