Newy Scruggs: One Of My Toughest Days (Wife has miscarriage)

[WoodysGirl]

One Of My Toughest Days

Published June 20, 2008 Cowboys , NFL , Uncategorized 0 Comments


My last post was about Cowboys linebacker Demarcus Ware and how he and his wife endured three failed pregnancies before adopting a baby girl.
I had my wife read the story yesterday at breakfast.

Today, I am trying to deal with my wife’s miscarriage.

It is not easy, but we have two kids already. God’s given me two blessings, I can’t be mad I didn’t get the third.

A part of me is feels guilty because I would like to have a son. Maybe this is a sign that two children is all we should have, or maybe it just wasn’t the right time.

Thank goodness we have those two little rug rats that keep our minds off the loss. I haven’t had to time to have a small cry, but I think about Ware and his family, and that keeps me from tears.

They had a stillborn child two years ago and they lost another pregnancy before the Cowboys playoff game last year. I can’t feel sad knowing that.

I have a great wife. She lost the baby before I was to go on the air last night, she didn’t want to call me because I was supposed to do the 10 PM sports. I had taped the segment earlier in the night because things were not looking good. I feel bad I wasn’t there.

So today we move forward. A song by Gerald Levert called Made To Love You has gotten me through the day. I love the lyrics.

Cause I was made to love ya

My hands to touch ya, my arms to hold ya

My legs to stand, my time to spend

With you forever, I was made, made to love ya

This is a tough day. We have to respect God’s will and remember the blessings he has given our family.

Thanks for reading.

 

[Bigdog]

I understand the pain and sorrow that you and your wife are going through. My wife has had three miscarriages and none of them were easy for us. We have been blessed with twin daughters who are healthy and active. I am thankful for that. Four years ago my wife was 5 1/2 months pregnant with our third child. We were happy until we had a routine doctor's visit and he gave us some very bad news. He informed us that the child had spina bifida, advanced stage, and that there was less then 10% chance of the baby surviving outside the womb. If she does, she will be in the hospital for the rest of her life. This was devasting news to us and the baby died a week later as the brain just shut down and the heart stopped beating. We both cried and felt powerless. She still has some difficulty with it. I just wanted to let you know that you and your wife are not alone. You have my support if you want it and my thoughts and prayers go out to you and family.