How far in front of a person do you have to be before you no longer hold the door?

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  1. CanadianCowboysFan

    CanadianCowboysFan Lightning Rod

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    Here's a question, how far in front of a person do you have to be before you no longer have to hold a door for him/her?
  2. WoodysGirl

    WoodysGirl Everything is everything... Staff Member

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    Made this a separate thread, because it didn't really belong in the other thread.
  3. baj1dallas

    baj1dallas New Member

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    Pretty far in front unless I'm in a hurry. Most of the time I hold it for at least a few seconds.
  4. BrAinPaiNt

    BrAinPaiNt Winter is Coming Staff Member

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    The real question is how far in front of a person do you have to be in order to slam the door closed enough to scare the person but without hitting them.
  5. trickblue

    trickblue Old Testament...

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    Especially if eye contact has been made...
  6. WV Cowboy

    WV Cowboy Waitin' on the 6th

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    If it's a guy, .. I'll push the door open and keep walking, .. if he makes it in time, then good.

    But if it is a girl or an elderly person I will hold it longer than I need to most times.

    Why not go the extra mile if it means helping someone, or just being nice.
  7. Lonestar94

    Lonestar94 Well-Known Member

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    Far enough not to make it awkward. Usually if its a woman I'll wait a second longer.

    I make exceptions for the elderly and people who have their hands full.
  8. joseephuss

    joseephuss Well-Known Member

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    Far enough where they can't hear me fart.
  9. CashMan

    CashMan Well-Known Member

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  10. jobberone

    jobberone Ginsu Wolverine Minion Staff Member

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    Should is not the proper word but I hold the door for everyone and speak to them as well. Make the day better than you found it.
  11. dargonking999

    dargonking999 DKRandom

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    But what if the day was going good until some random stranger forced conversatino upon you during your private thought collection while you walked through a door and ruined a perfectly summed up thought that you had?


    then you ruined a perfectly good day, and made the day worse then you found it and the world must cease to exist. That's what
  12. Phoenix

    Phoenix Well-Known Member

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    There are many factors in this decision!

    * Am I in a hurry?
    * Am I outside and it is hot/cold/rainy/snowy/etc?
    * Did I make eye contact?
    * Is she hot?
    * Is whoever coming someone I abhor?
    * Are they trying to rush me? If so I slam door in their face?

    these are just some off the top of my head :)
  13. DallasCowpoke

    DallasCowpoke Fierce Allegiance

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    I never realized there was a precedent for courtesy.
  14. jimnabby

    jimnabby Well-Known Member

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    Not so far that they feel compelled to speed up. At that point, a courtesy has become a burden.
  15. dexternjack

    dexternjack World Traveler Zone Supporter

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    This is something we inherit from our parents early on called common courtesy and manners. If someone was not raised to abide by these "door" rules, then chances are they would not as an adult IMO. I wrote a paper in sociology in college about human's mannerisms, et cetera and found out that simple society gestures relate to one's socioeconomic status, but will not go into that because a lot is speculation and not proven.

    For me, I always hold the door if they are within 20ft or so and longer if it is a female or an elderly person. We usually know when entering doors if someone is close and coming our way, so I will give a final assessment of the situation and abide accordingly.

    If I spot someone wearing Cowboys or Mets gear, then I definitely wait. On the flipside, if I see the enemy (Skins, Giants or anything Philly related), I hurry up inside and ignore them, might even try to lock it :)
  16. WPBCowboysFan

    WPBCowboysFan Well-Known Member

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    The answer to this question depends on where you live.

    I noticed in Texas people are far more considerate in this area.

    In the northeast if you hold the door, people might consider you a doorman and a line will just keep walking thru and nobody else takes over.
  17. speedkilz88

    speedkilz88 Well-Known Member

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    Yeah, but you're a greeter, what about the rest of us?

  18. phillycard

    phillycard Member

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    The worst is whan you go out of your way to stay or comeback and hold it, and the person doesn't so much as look your way. If I acted out the way I thought at that particular moment, there'd be a lot of gashes in the back of people's heads.
  19. rkell87

    rkell87 Well-Known Member

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    We had to observe this practice in sociology, it is funny how different people react and behave in this situation. Some of the women in our class from other countries are slightly offended by the practice because to them it is equivalent to a man saying to them that they are too weak to open the door so I need to hold this door for you.

    I usually hold the door for most people regardless of gender if the situation is appropriate. Example, I won't hold it if I am part of a group/line of people going in because it would be awkward to stop the line and try to get to the side of the door to hold it without impeding progress. Other times if it is a guy behind me in an informal setting like school I'll go through first and hold the door until he gets close enough to catch the door.

    Another question is if you get stuck holding the door longer than you intended to without a break in the crowd in sight, how long until you just step in front of someone and let everybody else get their own door?
  20. iceberg

    iceberg winter??? RUN AWAY RUN AWAY!!! Zone Supporter

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    how big are her.... um.... tracks of land??? : )

    like others have said, eye contact, hold longer.
    lady, a little longer regardless of how much "land" she has.
    and elderly person, however long it takes.

    otherwise i just try to be polite and wonder how close i have to be for them to hold it open for this old fat dude with HUGE tracks of land.

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