Being positive vs negative all the time

[Blackrain]

I think most people on this site want to be positive.
I think they yearn for a reason to be positive.

It's very tough to be positive when you are constantly being Hoodwinked hornswoggled and manipulated by an owner whose goal is different than everyone on the forum.

We fans want to win a Super bowl and we want to see our owner have the same desire to win that Super bowl that we do and make every effort necessary

We want to see that effort made every year not just when the spirit moves him and he decides to spend some money.

We want to see the effort made in every part of the game not just the parts that he likes the important parts like coaching.

The negativity on this forum and throughout this fan base stems from an owner who is taking for granted our loyalty and passion for this team.

No one likes to be made a fool of and that is what our owner has done to us more often than not in the last 30 years.

It's really pretty simple when our owner really goes all in every year and puts in the effort and resources necessary to create competitive team you will see a very positive response from this forum.

 

[DarkVader33]

You are the most negative poster on this site.

He could stand to lighten up a bit, maybe more lol but he’s not the most negative.

 

[plasticman]

If you asked 100 people to describe "negativity" then you would get 100 different answers.

When a person is frustrated by their team's 30 years of no championship game involvement, is that negativity? If that person decides he 's had enough and will no longer be a Cowboys fan or watch their games is that more positive?

No on is 100% negative and no one is 100% positive in their attitude towards being a Cowboys fan. We are all different degrees of both depending on the perspective of the person observing.

To be clear, being negative towards Jerry Jones involvement as a GM is absolutely not the same as being negative towards the team. Jerry is not the Cowboys.

In fact, I would go so far as to say that any criticism leveled at Jerry Jones is a positive approach to being a Cowboys fan because it brings pressure on him to one day do the right thing and give the team a legitimate opportunity to win championships again.

 

[GimmeTheBall!]

Being positive isn’t about pretending the Cowboys have been successful — it’s about protecting your sanity, your enjoyment, and your identity as a fan. Negativity feels “realistic,” but long‑term it drains you, narrows your perspective, and makes the whole experience miserable.

Being negative about the Cowboys doesn’t change the record, the roster, or Jerry’s decisions.
It just changes you — your mood, your enjoyment, your energy.

Positivity is the only mindset that gives you a return on investment:

• You enjoy the wins more
• You survive the losses easier
• You stay connected to the team without burning out

The always negative type think:
“If I expect failure, I can’t be disappointed.”

But here’s the truth:
They’re still disappointed — they just ruin the season in advance and they become bitter.

Positive fans get:

• Hope during the season
• Excitement during wins
• A buffer during losses

Negativity is just pre‑pain.

So that’s why I always preach, stay positive and go Cowboys.

Thank you, doctor for diagnosing our fans' moods and viewpoints.
I have your Famous Cheerleaders School diploma framed and was wondering where you placed your doctorate in BS diploma.
Be best!

 

[GimmeTheBall!]

Being positive isn’t about pretending the Cowboys have been successful — it’s about protecting your sanity, your enjoyment, and your identity as a fan. Negativity feels “realistic,” but long‑term it drains you, narrows your perspective, and makes the whole experience miserable.

Being negative about the Cowboys doesn’t change the record, the roster, or Jerry’s decisions.
It just changes you — your mood, your enjoyment, your energy.

Positivity is the only mindset that gives you a return on investment:

• You enjoy the wins more
• You survive the losses easier
• You stay connected to the team without burning out

The always negative type think:
“If I expect failure, I can’t be disappointed.”

But here’s the truth:
They’re still disappointed — they just ruin the season in advance and they become bitter.

Positive fans get:

• Hope during the season
• Excitement during wins
• A buffer during losses

Negativity is just pre‑pain.

So that’s why I always preach, stay positive and go Cowboys.

Nowhere in your cheery post did I see the words 30 years ....

 

[deerhunter11]

This is literally the dumbest thread I have ever read on here. Everybody deals with success and failures in their own ways, and nobody has the right to tell them how to face the ups and downs of being a fan of a certain team. To always be positive is to accept the status quo, so if you, as a fan, subscribe to this, then great. To suggest that a fan of a team who is negative at times is insane and lacks the enjoyment of the event is ludicrous and 100% shows that somebody who thinks that of others is being "negative" themselves, and shows uninformed judgment in their warped own way.

I have been a fan of this team for over 40+ years, and have lived through the misery of my MLB and NFL teams being a total disgrace on the success side of things for 30 of them. Last I checked, I haven't lost my marbles and enjoy the games as much as I did 40 years ago. Heaven forbid I engage with others of like mind in a public forum, only to be called a "hater", and "negative" because I can be critical LOLOL.

I don't think it is a dumb thread at all ,I do agree with some of your points though. Losing games are not as painful as in my younger days, this Dallas team is on the rise, and will very soon be a contender. It is amazing what happens to this team when Ol Jerry backs off and lets cooler heads prevail. Go Cowboys I am all positive, things feel very positive.

 

[Loso86]

Being positive isn’t about pretending the Cowboys have been successful — it’s about protecting your sanity, your enjoyment, and your identity as a fan. Negativity feels “realistic,” but long‑term it drains you, narrows your perspective, and makes the whole experience miserable.

Being negative about the Cowboys doesn’t change the record, the roster, or Jerry’s decisions.
It just changes you — your mood, your enjoyment, your energy.

Positivity is the only mindset that gives you a return on investment:

• You enjoy the wins more
• You survive the losses easier
• You stay connected to the team without burning out

The always negative type think:
“If I expect failure, I can’t be disappointed.”

But here’s the truth:
They’re still disappointed — they just ruin the season in advance and they become bitter.

Positive fans get:

• Hope during the season
• Excitement during wins
• A buffer during losses

Negativity is just pre‑pain.

So that’s why I always preach, stay positive and go Cowboys.

Lol this conversation isn't allowed here bro, most will find something to be negative about. We can go undefeated it wouldn't matter.

 

[kskboys]

That’s rich coming from you of all people. You need to make things up just so you can hate some more. It’s not good enough for you to just criticize and complain. You make ridiculous comparisons and false statements just for fun I guess.

This franchise and many players deserve the negativity and criticism. But you and a small group of others are the most vocal. Someone mentioned it in another post. You few make the whole forum seem miserable but it’s only you handful. It somewhat applies to the other extreme Tbf. Shabazz mentioned that most of us reside in the middle, and we do. But oh hell, let me say one little positive thing about Dak, and you miserables won’t shut the you know what up.

The ones that take up for Dak incessantly are no where near as annoying as you few. Take it down a notch and be more respectful of other posters and their opinions. Haha, what am I talking about, you aren’t capable.

Good post.

Only thing I disagree w/ is that one side is as bad as the other. There's maybe half a dozen or fewer on either side, and they do nothing but spat all day. Problem is, they're always trying to drag others into their spew. It's disgusting.

 

[Brax]

It also happens to be the truth. But you don’t like the truth so you mock. You doubled down on your low character.

When all else fails, insults. Like I said, “rich”.

 

[charron]

I try to stay positive without being delusional.

 

[Redsfan_83]

I don't think it is a dumb thread at all ,I do agree with some of your points though. Losing games are not as painful as in my younger days, this Dallas team is on the rise, and will very soon be a contender. It is amazing what happens to this team when Ol Jerry backs off and lets cooler heads prevail. Go Cowboys I am all positive, things feel very positive.

On paper, this team is on the rise...sadly, the game is played on turf/grass/fake grass, though. One can be positive on how things look, but one can also want to wait to see the final product....

 

[LouBrown]

I guess you are someone that thinks making the playoffs is all that is needed
which makes you a loser

Did I say that? No.

 

[LouBrown]

you are confused period

I am correct, you are just shortsighted.

The Chiefs went 50 years between Super Bowls.
The Eagles went 58 if you include their NFL Championship in 1960.
The Patriots were in the league 32 years before they won a Super Bowl.
Five teams have never won Super Bowls.

The idea that the Cowboys are on some historic Super Bowl drought, and therefore can't win again, is nonsense.

 

[LouBrown]

And Jerry won with Jimmy's leftovers.

This is so stupid. It is choosing to give Jerry no credit for Super Bowl wins and giving him all the credit for failing to get there again lol.

 

[nobody]

Being positive isn’t about pretending the Cowboys have been successful — it’s about protecting your sanity, your enjoyment, and your identity as a fan. Negativity feels “realistic,” but long‑term it drains you, narrows your perspective, and makes the whole experience miserable.

Being negative about the Cowboys doesn’t change the record, the roster, or Jerry’s decisions.
It just changes you — your mood, your enjoyment, your energy.

Positivity is the only mindset that gives you a return on investment:

• You enjoy the wins more
• You survive the losses easier
• You stay connected to the team without burning out

The always negative type think:
“If I expect failure, I can’t be disappointed.”

But here’s the truth:
They’re still disappointed — they just ruin the season in advance and they become bitter.

Positive fans get:

• Hope during the season
• Excitement during wins
• A buffer during losses

Negativity is just pre‑pain.

So that’s why I always preach, stay positive and go Cowboys.

A.I. Assisted or not, this was probably one of your best posts ever and wasn't patronizing or insulting. Thank you for sharing it, and it's a really good point regardless.

 

[thunderpimp91]

This thread was made as nothing more than to bait fans who don’t agree with rockport into looking like they aren’t really fans.

Reality is very few people on here are always positive or always negative. Most on here are a very healthy hybrid of emotions who just want to talk about football. It’s not about bashing the team and it’s not about propping up any and every move just because the cowboys did it. There is nothing wrong with breaking down the pros and cons of the new players on the roster each offseason. Personally that’s the fun of the offseason for me and where I get a lot of joy from, not just blindly booing or cheering a move that’s made.

For me positively is for game day. Everything else is about honest conversation. There is nothing wrong with suggesting the cowboys are strong in areas A,B and C but have concerns about X, Y, and Z. Having those conversations also don’t mean you can’t be excited to root for the cowboys on Sunday.

The real issue here is the fact that a certain poster feels the need to tell other fans how they need to feel and how they have to root for the team. There is no wrong way to be a fan.

There are people on this board for a variety of reasons, but 99% are of the same rooting interest even if it looks different. Some want to come here to simply stay up to date on what’s happening, some want to feel encouraged for the upcoming year, some want to vent their frustrations, and others want to talk in depth Xs and Os. None of these things are wrong, but all these wants are valid and should be tolerated as long as people aren’t stirring up trouble and breaking rules. The ‘your with us or against us’ attitude is a cancer for the forum and labeling people as optimist or haters does nothing productive.

It’s like me telling my wife that she needs to calm down….

 

[thunderpimp91]

This is so stupid. It is choosing to give Jerry no credit for Super Bowl wins and giving him all the credit for failing to get there again lol.

Yep even if jimmy was the mastermind behind creating those teams Jerry was the one who made a very controversial decision to hire him.

That’s what a quality owner does. Jerry has gotten it wrong a lot but it doesn’t discredit everything.

 

[DallasEast]

This thread was made as nothing more than to bait fans who don’t agree with rockport into looking like they aren’t really fans.

Reality is very few people on here are always positive or always negative. Most on here are a very healthy hybrid of emotions who just want to talk about football. It’s not about bashing the team and it’s not about propping up any and every move just because the cowboys did it. There is nothing wrong with breaking down the pros and cons of the new players on the roster each offseason. Personally that’s the fun of the offseason for me and where I get a lot of joy from, not just blindly booing or cheering a move that’s made.

For me positively is for game day. Everything else is about honest conversation. There is nothing wrong with suggesting the cowboys are strong in areas A,B and C but have concerns about X, Y, and Z. Having those conversations also don’t mean you can’t be excited to root for the cowboys on Sunday.

The real issue here is the fact that a certain poster feels the need to tell other fans how they need to feel and how they have to root for the team. There is no wrong way to be a fan.

There are people on this board for a variety of reasons, but 99% are of the same rooting interest even if it looks different. Some want to come here to simply stay up to date on what’s happening, some want to feel encouraged for the upcoming year, some want to vent their frustrations, and others want to talk in depth Xs and Os. None of these things are wrong, but all these wants are valid and should be tolerated as long as people aren’t stirring up trouble and breaking rules. The ‘your with us or against us’ attitude is a cancer for the forum and labeling people as optimist or haters does nothing productive.

It’s like me telling my wife that she needs to calm down….

Good post. 'Othering' is an underlying issue with all communication. People label someone else as the other. Other = bad. Homer and hater are just two of many examples.

It is a practice that has been with humanity for a long time. I think it is so prevalent in present day because of all the different forms of communication, especially social media, and the exploitation of anonymity. I have been as guilty of it as the next person. An individual's task is acknowledging the practice and voluntarily addressing it. Truthfully, it is easier thing for some to do than others (no pun intended).

 

[thunderpimp91]

Good post. 'Othering' is an underlying issue with all communication. People label someone else as the other. Other = bad. Homer and hater are just two of many examples.

It is a practice that has been with humanity for a long time. I think it is so prevalent in present day because of all the different forms of communication, especially social media, and the exploitation of anonymity. I have been as guilty of it as the next person. An individual's task is acknowledging the practice and voluntarily addressing it. Truthfully, it is easier thing for some to do than others (no pun intended).

We are all guilty of it to some extent, and why we should also look to give each other some grace.

It’s the extreme examples like the creator of the thread who make their entire identity about being on one side while acting as if they’re called on my god himself to take down the other side. That creates nothing but fighting and divisiveness.

Disagreements are good and healthy. Being on a mission to out and belittle those you disagree with isn’t. Thats the behavior that truly needs called out instead of people who are simply on the other side.

 

[gtb1943]

Did I say that? No.

Your posts all but scream participation trophy