How many of you live away from your parents?

[YosemiteSam]

How many of you live away from your parents? By away, I mean you can't just jump in a car and be there in an hour or so.

My wife has a friend who was flying back to Russia today because her mother was about to pass away. She got the dreaded phone call this morning before she even woke up to go to the airport.

I really feel bad for her. I know how she feels. I live here in NY and my entire family still lives in a Texas. My mother had cancer and lived about a year before it overcame her back in 2007. The doctors called me at night. I immediately bought a plane ticket for 6AM flight to Texas, but my phone rang at 3:14AM.

Have any of you ever experienced this?

 

[TheCount]

I'm not sure what you're asking here, but condolences to your wife's friend and sad to hear about your mom passing a couple of years back.

I haven't lived with my parents since I was 17, they don't even live in the US anymore. I see them once a year if I'm lucky, and there are definitely some holidays when I miss gem badly and think about all the time we've missed spending together.

 

[JohnnyHopkins]

Really sorry to hear about you news NYC.

Most of my living immeadiate family is down in Florida from Orlando through the Keys. Sister is in Washington State. My Dad was ill a few years back so when I got the news I relocated my family to Texas be there for his final days, deal with his affairs, etc (and subsequently, my Stepmother as well).

My Grandmother is still over in Texas, but she refused to move over to Charlotte with me when I had to come back to this region for my job. I have to pay someone to care for her. I dread getting that call. Keeps me up at night sometimes.

 

[Phoenix]

Ya, I'm in the DC area nowadays. All my family is scattered over Texas...parents outside Dallas area.

 

[ajk23az]

I'm in Arizona and my parents are up in North Dakota. I make it back about twice a year so it isn't too bad.

 

[trickblue]

I now live over 4 hours away from my folks and it's hard as I am an only child...

My dad passed away last month and I couldn't get there in time to be with my mom...

Wish we could invent those Star Trek transporter thingies...

 

[big dog cowboy]

Lucky for me I only live about 7-8 minutes from my folks. My wife's family lives in Ohio so I am understand those who have to travel distances for emergencies.

 

[YosemiteSam]

I now live over 4 hours away from my folks and it's hard as I am an only child...

My dad passed away last month and I couldn't get there in time to be with my mom...

Wish we could invent those Star Trek transporter thingies...

My condolences trick...

 

[Kangaroo]

I am over 3 hours from my parents think the last time I lived near them was my 1 year of Junior college.

heck even in Highschool between my junior and senior year that summer I was in an armpit called Lawton, Ok anfd the next summer I was in Columbia, SC.

 

[ethiostar]

How many of you live away from your parents? By away, I mean you can't just jump in a car and be there in an hour or so.

My wife has a friend who was flying back to Russia today because her mother was about to pass away. She got the dreaded phone call this morning before she even woke up to go to the airport.

I really feel bad for her. I know how she feels. I live here in NY and my entire family still lives in a Texas. My mother had cancer and lived about a year before it overcame her back in 2007. The doctors called me at night. I immediately bought a plane ticket for 6AM flight to Texas, but my phone rang at 3:14AM.

Have any of you ever experienced this?

I now live over 4 hours away from my folks and it's hard as I am an only child...

My dad passed away last month and I couldn't get there in time to be with my mom...

Wish we could invent those Star Trek transporter thingies...

My condolences to both of you and your families.

I was fortunate enough not only because my mom was in the US (TX) when she passed away but i was in TX to spend X-mas with my family. I can't imagine what it would have been like if i hadn't made it to TX before she passed or worse still if she had passed away back home away from all of us.

 

[bsheeern]

Sorry to hear about that NYC. I live an hour from my parents. I'll never live more than 2-3 hours away unless I'm rich enough to fly there whenever I need to. I visit them at least 10 times a year if not more. I am the oldest of 3 children and we are all still within an hour from my parents.

I will say this and this isn't a comment that is meant to put down anyone else. Everyones circumstances are different and there's no way for me to say what someone else should do. There's no job(outside military or pro athlete), money or female that could make me move more than 2-3 hours away unless It was enough money to be able to visit at a drop of a hat. I'll only have one mom and one dad and one life here on earth to spend with them. My family is more important to me than anything and being able to be with them is one of my highest priorities in life.

Now with all that being said. NYC it seems as though what happened to your mom is still heavy in your soul as it should be. Shes your mom. You can only do what you can do though. Things happen for a reason. It wasn't meant for you to see her that day for a reason. I dont know what that reason was but i do know it wasnt to make you suffer or have pain in your heart. Be at peace with what happened and be a good man to your children(if you have them) and thats the best way for you to make your mother happy. She knows how much you love her and she always will. Dont know your religious beliefs but there is a purpose behind all of this. I was enough of a purpose for you to come here and talk about it. I don't know you outside of here but I can tell this is weighing on you. Dont let it. It's the last thing your mom would want. A lot of times when people are sick before death they don't want people to see them. They don't want you to see them when they are bad off or remember them that way because of the pain they know it will bring to you. Just remember it happened because it was supposed to. You'll understand why at some point in life and it might even help you to help someone else.

Sorry to rant here but something told me to respond to you.

 

[baj1dallas]

My parents live in Michigan, brother and sister are in Chicago, I'm outside of Dallas. I get to see them all 3-4 times a year or more if I'm lucky. When my mom got cancer it turned out to be not that bad but otherwise I would have had a tough time to get back and see her if it was ongoing.

 

[SkinsandTerps]

My baby sister (Knoxcille) lives the closest to my parents (Nashville)about 2 hours away or so.
My other sister is in Connecticut.
My brother is in Colorado.
I am in Charlotte (haven't lived near my parents in over 20 years).

Sucked when we all had to go for my Dad's bypass surgery.

My condolences for you guys.

 

[Dallas]

My parents and I are very close. Without my folks being there to help me w/ my son after my divorce, I would have been a mess. I owe them so much and could never come close to giving back as much as I have been given by them.

Fortunately for me, it's not required. They are loving christian folks.

I live about 2 miles away from my folks. They still help me a lot w/ my son as far as getting him to school and picking him up from school. I work early morning hours so I drop him off at their house and they feed him breakfast and take him to class and pick him up. I then cruise by on the way home and get him.

It works out great and I am so thankful for them.

I am not sure what I will do when they are called home. It will be a huge adjustment in our lives for sure.

For now we enjoy all of our time w/ them.

 

[Cowboy Brian]

I've already spoken to my parents about this and my Father intends to retire to Florida ater my brother graduates in 4 years, i'll be living at home working full time while going to college to save as much money as possible during that time no rent/etc;.

 

[Faerluna]

My Dad is in Texas and my mom is in Nebraska. I don't see either of them as much as I'd like, but it was my choice to move so far away after high school.

It's definitely hard when it comes to getting home in a hurry. I've missed the passing of all of my grandparents, which sucked.

My brother still lives in my hometown so at least he is there for our Mom.

My Dad is alone now but there is a family he is close with that has him over for dinner on Sundays and has him to their home like a grandfather for their kids. They take good care of him and keep me informed of what's going on.

 

[notherbob]

You are all very lucky to have been born into loving families. I was not so lucky as my mother was the only sweet loving person in the whole family, all others were mean and hateful. I refused to attend the funerals of my grandparents and was glad when they died and I felt a great burden had been lifted from me.

I loved my mother and thought I just couldn't stand it if she were to die but when she did she had been suffering greatly and death was a welcome refuge to her and it made me feel good that she wasn't in pain anymore and adjustment was far easier than I ever thought it would be.

Had she lived she would be 100 next month. I may go to Tahlequah and put some wildflowers on her grave if I can find any in early March. She always loved the wildflowers.

Family has never been a very high priority in my life but I have a couple of brothers living in Denver and we tolerate each other OK at a distance. I haven't seen them for 10-15 years. I rarely go to CO and they never come to Texas.

Love your loving families while you can.

Life is good.

 

[Dallas]

You are all very lucky to have been born into loving families. I was not so lucky as my mother was the only sweet loving person in the whole family, all others were mean and hateful. I refused to attend the funerals of my grandparents and was glad when they died and I felt a great burden had been lifted from me.

I loved my mother and thought I just couldn't stand it if she were to die but when she did she had been suffering greatly and death was a welcome refuge to her and it made me feel good that she wasn't in pain anymore and adjustment was far easier than I ever thought it would be.

Had she lived she would be 100 next month. I may go to Tahlequah and put some wildflowers on her grave if I can find any in early March. She always loved the wildflowers.

Family has never been a very high priority in my life but I have a couple of brothers living in Denver and we tolerate each other OK at a distance. I haven't seen them for 10-15 years. I rarely go to CO and they never come to Texas.

Love your loving families while you can.

Life is good.

We are fortunate to have you as a member, and thank you for the kind advice regarding our families. Far to many times I hear stories likes yours. I have a very close friend who has nearly ZERO anything from her father, mother or siblings. It breaks my heart to see her hurt sometimes like during holidays and special occasions. I make sure to always invite her to everything my family does.

They are close w/ her.


Agree very much with your: "love your loving families."

 

[SC Cowboyfan]

My father passed away when I was nine and mom lives with me, my wife and two kids.

 

[YosemiteSam]

You are all very lucky to have been born into loving families. I was not so lucky as my mother was the only sweet loving person in the whole family, all others were mean and hateful. I refused to attend the funerals of my grandparents and was glad when they died and I felt a great burden had been lifted from me.

I loved my mother and thought I just couldn't stand it if she were to die but when she did she had been suffering greatly and death was a welcome refuge to her and it made me feel good that she wasn't in pain anymore and adjustment was far easier than I ever thought it would be.

Had she lived she would be 100 next month. I may go to Tahlequah and put some wildflowers on her grave if I can find any in early March. She always loved the wildflowers.

Family has never been a very high priority in my life but I have a couple of brothers living in Denver and we tolerate each other OK at a distance. I haven't seen them for 10-15 years. I rarely go to CO and they never come to Texas.

Love your loving families while you can.

Life is good.

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