Mom sends adopted 7 year old son back to Russia

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Two nations are in an uproar over an American woman who returned her adopted son to his native Russia as though he was a defective item to be shipped back to a department store.

Seemingly happily matched at a Siberian orphanage last year, authorities were stunned to find that Torry-Ann Hansen of Tennessee sent her adopted 7-year-old son Artem Saveliev back home to Russia by himself with a note demanding the adoption be annulled, the U.K. Daily Mail reports.

The pale sandy-haired boy got off the plane in Moscow with no idea why he had been sent back.

According to the letter he had in his hand, Hansen accused the orphanage of lying to her about Artem’s mental condition and cared only about finding someone to adopt him.

“He is violent and has severe psychopathic issues/behaviors,” she wrote. “After giving my best to this child, I am sorry to say that for the safety of my family, friends and myself, I no longer wish to parent this child.”

The Russians deny her claims, admitting that the boy was stubborn but that his only disability was that he was "flat-footed."

Officials say they are appalled that a woman would take a child all the way from Siberia to Tennessee, promise him a new life, change his last name to hers, only to change her mind and ship him back.

Authorities are investigating how American immigration allowed the child to fly alone. They believe Hansen may have paid a man to meet the child at the airport and put him on a plane to Russia.

The officials who had supervised the adoption were stunned, according to the Daily Mail.

They told the paper that Hansen spent four full days with Artem under the eye of adoption workers before she was allowed to adopt him.

"It was clear that there was mutual affection, and it was good," said Vera Kuznetsova, the chief adoption officer in the region told the Daily Mail.

Hansen’s actions may put the kibosh on future Americans adoptions in Russia for a long time.

"We have taken the decision ... to suggest a freeze on any adoptions to American families until Russia and the USA sign an international agreement" on the conditions for adoptions and the obligations of host families, Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov was quoted as saying.

While the authorities and diplomats attempt to sort out the mess of Artem’s citizenship and custody, he will be sent back into state care.

U.S. ambassador to Russia, John Beyrle, said he was "deeply shocked by the news" and "very angry that any family would act so callously toward a child that they had legally adopted."

The child's real mother was deprived of her parental rights because she was an alcoholic, officials said.
 

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I read the article when it first came out and said to myself that is really messed up. One must remember that some of these kids that come from orphanages in Russia are already psychological truamatized for what they have to encounter. Some have to fight for their food from the older kids and are deprieved of nurturing that other kids get. There is a reason why a baby is handed to a mother after it is born. These kids probably do not trust adults and have difficulty having any healthy relationships either with peers or adults. Some are diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder or PTSD. The child also made have had a difficult time assimilating to the American culture. Some foster care placements do not tell potential parents everything for fear that they will not adopt the child. Still, there could have been other options to help this child overcome any issues that he might had. Sending him back to Russia by himself shows no compassion on the mother part.
 

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Bigdog;3340894 said:
I read the article when it first came out and said to myself that is really messed up. One must remember that some of these kids that come from orphanages in Russia are already psychological truamatized for what they have to encounter. Some have to fight for their food from the older kids and are deprieved of nurturing that other kids get. There is a reason why a baby is handed to a mother after it is born. These kids probably do not trust adults and have difficulty having any healthy relationships either with peers or adults. Some are diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder or PTSD. The child also made have had a difficult time assimilating to the American culture. Some foster care placements do not tell potential parents everything for fear that they will not adopt the child. Still, there could have been other options to help this child overcome any issues that he might had. Sending him back to Russia by himself shows no compassion on the mother part.

I agree what she did was very wrong and the kid is probably going to be even worse now and grow up to hate Americans.

People over there really need to their act together and stop having kids they have no intention of taking care of.
 

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Jon88;3340905 said:
I agree what she did was very wrong and the kid is probably going to be even worse now and grow up to hate Americans.

People over there really need to their act together and stop having kids they have no intention of taking care of.


People over there, have you seen some of hte ones here?
 

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ShiningStar;3340915 said:
People over there, have you seen some of hte ones here?

Yeah, but we don't have orphanages that are overflowing.
 

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Jon88;3340917 said:
Yeah, but we don't have orphanages that are overflowing.


Umm, thsi is a country that the people would rather pay big bucks to try and have a child of their own instead of adopting. If ours are not over flowing, its probably to do that we have more of them.

Now im not defending Russia, nor us, but i am saying, also thanks to another procedure, we are still messed up in some regards.
 

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Would you accept an appliance if it arrived damaged, or send it back?















Just being sarcastic. Poor kid will be even worse now.
 

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CliffnMesquite;3340939 said:
Would you accept an appliance if it arrived damaged, or send it back?















Just being sarcastic. Poor kid will be even worse now.
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I think some peopel think they can handle it, but they cant. I think some people get caught up in the moment and think they are doign the right thing but forget about the short term and long term affects they have and do to the children
 

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ShiningStar;3340945 said:
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I think some peopel think they can handle it, but they cant. I think some people get caught up in the moment and think they are doign the right thing but forget about the short term and long term affects they have and do to the children

These children from overseas espically Russia and that area have been through so much hell, it's lucky they are still alive. To adopt a child from there the people should have known he would need at least counceling if not serious theropy.
 

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CliffnMesquite;3340952 said:
These children from overseas espically Russia and that area have been through so much hell, it's lucky they are still alive. To adopt a child from there the people should have known he would need at least counceling if not serious theropy.

...I was adopted from Hong Kong by my parents in 1970. From what I found out eventually, as a 40 yr. old, I was in a orphanage that housed almost (5000) kids.

Hong Kong had experienced a spike of refugees during the cultural revolution. I was a by product of that situation.

If my personal experience is any indication of what happens to children who are housed in poor conditions what I can tell you is that I can't remember a single thing about my life prior to 6 years old.

I found out some surprising things about my personal health after discovering I was adopted. I suffer from serious scarring from tuberculosis. The doctors here believe it was contracted during my time in the orphanage and it's not uncommon to find people from poor orphanage conditions with health problems.

I feel bad about the kid. It's tough for children to make something for themselves in difficult conditions they can't control.
 

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CliffnMesquite;3340952 said:
These children from overseas espically Russia and that area have been through so much hell, it's lucky they are still alive. To adopt a child from there the people should have known he would need at least counceling if not serious theropy.



I agree, but you cant stop people from doing what they think is right, vs getting them to understand its a bigger situation that they can handle.
 

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ShiningStar;3340924 said:
Umm, thsi is a country that the people would rather pay big bucks to try and have a child of their own instead of adopting. If ours are not over flowing, its probably to do that we have more of them.

Now im not defending Russia, nor us, but i am saying, also thanks to another procedure, we are still messed up in some regards.

That is what we did. My wife had surgery when she was younger and it ended up blocking her tubes. We looked into adoption but damn the birth moms basically want you to pay for their children while they keep visitation rights. I was having none of that but might have put up with it until the IVF clinic told us we could have a child of our own. $7500.00 later, CCF Jr came along.
 

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The problem with adopting children from a place like Russia is that there is lots of alcohol abuse. Many of the children who end up in orphanages probably suffer from fetal alcohol syndrome. They can have profound behavioural disturbances. When you couple these innate problems with a lack of a loving and nurturing environment and you have yourself a recipe for disaster.

I don't think the parents knew what they were getting into here.

However, I don't think that absolves them from a horrible lack of judgment and empathy shown in this situation. They ideally should have tried to work it out with the help of local community services. If that failed, he should have been relocated to another family in the USA. If that failed, someone who he knows should have personally taken him back to Russia.

This looks bad on everyone involved, but especially the parents.
 

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They told the paper that Hansen spent four full days with Artem under the eye of adoption workers before she was allowed to adopt him.

Shoulda stretched that visit out just a little more ....
 
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