I don't know. I've was never much been for dating Older women or younger women, then myself. I always kinda figured that I'd eventually like to grow old with one person and kinda grow together. Might sound stupid to some but to me, that's kinda always the way I looked at it. There is 4 years between my Wife and I. We don't agree on everything but mostly, we have the same core values and I think that that is why we have been lucky enough to be able to stick together. I love her and that makes up for a lot but man, I don't know how anybody could deal with an age difference of 30 odd years. To me, that would be really hard.
JMO
Same here and I don't know what I would have in common with a woman 30 years younger. The memories my wife and I had, basically growing up together although she helped raise me, are really what shaped our dynamic. Knowing so much about each other allowed us to better explain for some behaviors and accept that some things should just be accepted and not examined.
I've got this bud in Dallas that is a very successful lawyer and is on his 4th marriage and this one is headed where the others went. All have been real trophies but all have disintegrated. One night we were at dinner with him and I asked him "what do you want? What are you looking for"? He immediately looked at my wife and said "her, I want what you have". I was a little speechless and he explained "no, not your wife but what the two of you have. You look at each other after being married for 35 years like I want to look at another woman and have her look at me. I see the love, I can really see it but don't know that I have ever felt it".
My wife then began to explain to him how we had stayed married. As I sat there listening, I was astounded that we'd never had this discussion in all of our time together, we said I love you but didn't really explain why and I had often wondered why she did love me. My wife was beautiful on the outside but on the inside, that's where she really shone. She told him when we met, it was infatuation and lust that drew us together and we probably married too young, I was 20 and she was 22. We thought being married was cool and setting up house was just what we should be doing. We liked the idea of marriage as so many newly married couples do but that doesn't last for half of them.
We went through some rough times and instead of withdrawing, we drew each other in and before we knew it we were best friends. We were discovering what real love is after the infatuation, lust and newness wears off. We grew together in a bond that was like iron. She went on to ask him what did you really know about your wives and what did they know about you? He really didn't have an answer because he'd never been searching for what completed him because that was a sign of weakness to him. It's a corny line from Jerry Maguire but as true as any I've ever known.
So, I guess it doesn't matter about the age difference if it's really going to work out and I have doubt he will ever find what completes him because he doesn't want to admit what's missing. He's a bigshot partner wealthy lawyer at one of the most prestigious firms in the city and he will never be as happy as I was because he doesn't know what he's looking for.
