I'm very much towards the conservative end of the spectrum when it comes to money.
The only debt I have is a $57k mortgage on my $275k house.
I own a credit card, the rate is about 16% last I checked but it has no annual fee and in the roughly 20+ years I've had it I have paid less than $10 of interest due to overlooking a payment due date once.
I have a couple auto-pays that are set-up to hit my card and use it whenever I need a couple weeks of float in my cash flow or when I want to more easily gather the costs of a particular project (like a vacation or back to school shopping). Otherwise, I don't use it. And again, its always paid off.
Since getting married (25 years this past week
) I have borrowed money 5 times. Original home purchase. Twice for used cars which I paid off within 12 months, once to invest in my employer (probably 2 years to pay that one off) and once when we took 15k out of home equity to finish our basement for our growing family.
Though I'm conservative, in each case I felt the borrowings were the appropriate balance to current situations. I am not an absolutist.
I am big into delaying gratification. The cars I borrowed for were to accomodate our growing family. One was a 1989 used van purchased in 1991. Its the only mini-van our family of 6 has ever owned. I drive it still today (both proud & embarrassed
). The 4 cars we've added since were all used cars paid with cash (8k, 5k, 12k, & 9k). I shopped forever it seems to find the right vehicles & deals since I knew they'd be long term purchases to equip my teen drivers.
We have always given 10% minimum of our income to our church in accordance with our beliefs. We sent our 1st 3 kids to private school for several years until we felt a transition was in order. We lived on one income for 18 years so my wife could be at home for our kids. Our family vacations have always been local but we have always been able to appropriately support the interests of our kids as they grew.
Saved college $ for each to the point their tuition & fees are covered for our local state university. They'll have to cover housing unless they stay at home or we can help further.
Its been a ton of saying no to the enticements screamed at our population daily by advertisers. Our kids have at times thought we were poor because of what they saw friends at school experience even while they got opportunities MANY others didn't. We weren't and aren't poor. We're disciplined. But I firmly believe we have struck the right balance for our particular lives and our kids (22, 19, 17, & 9) largely feel the same way. I explain our family finances to our kids whenever
We are thankful for the road we've been able to travel. Others I'm sure have had a far more difficult road with many fewer choices available through no doing of their own. Others have shipwrecked themselves, and still others have been able to have far more than us.
No two situations are identical. There are few absolute answers as a result. There absolutely are principles (like debt-free) that are very wise and incredibly helpful when you can put them in place. But debt-free by itself is NOT the best and only way to go.
Knowledge, wisdom, judgment and balance are great guides. But they are not always black & white.