Getting married October 9th

[Muhast]

Any advice as I start my life as a husband in less than 20 days?

 

[YosemiteSam]

The obvious. RUN! :

Okay, here are a few.

• If you and her have a different idea of what is livable clean, don't do it. (ie one lives in clutter and the other can't stand it)
• If you have nothing in common (I mean things you can do together and enjoy) don't do it.
• If you have ever gotten into a nasty fight where extremely mean things were said. Don't do it.
• Don't ever let a pregnancy force you into marriage. That is a major no-no. Marriage is about two people loving each other, not about your kids. You can take great care of your children without being in a miserable marriage. It will make everyone miserable including the kids.

Those are deal breakers and all four lead to a failed or miserable marriage.

For the good stuff.

• If you tell her you are going to do something, do it. Your word is extremely important.
• Help out around the house, don't wait to be asked. She will appreciate. Especially on the days that you don't!
• Always ensure that you are happy. If you ever aren't happy, do something about it. Sitting around won't fix it and you will just remain miserable until you do. Even if it means ending the marriage.

 

[trickblue]

Any advice as I start my life as a husband in less than 20 days?

Get all the sex you can. A recent medical study suggests that there is a food that decreases the sex drive in women... Wedding Cake...

 

[Duane]

Sign a pre-nup now.

 

[Muhast]

Lol so far the tips are:

Run, Sex, Pre-nup.

 

[JohnnyHopkins]

Lol so far the tips are:

Run, Sex, Pre-nup.

Write down your personal goals and a Financial budget together, then strive to point your path towards both. Revisit at least once a year, preferably more. Marriage is a commitment for the rest of your life and I've seen so many of them crash and burn due to ignoring these two things.

 

[YosemiteSam]

Write down your personal goals and a Financial budget together, then strive to point your path towards both. Revisit at least once a year, preferably more. Marriage is a commitment for the rest of your life and I've seen so many of them crash and burn due to ignoring these two things.

Yeah, I forgot to add the financial part into my deal breaker list. If you don't see eye to eye about financial matters, don't do it. (meaning one saves the other blows the entire check by the next payday)

 

[JohnnyHopkins]

Yeah, I forgot to add the financial part into my deal breaker list. If you don't see eye to eye about financial matters, don't do it. (meaning one saves the other blows the entire check by the next payday)

I know a lot of unhappy marriages due to that very thing. Being hopelessly in debt due to a spouse's irresponsible spending seems to put people in bad moods.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

It is very important to keep things fresh, fun and exciting. It is very easy to
fall into a boring routine.

To keep things fresh and spontaneous.

Once every 5-6 months try one of these...

Run into the living room wearing only chaps and a leather mask, run around the living room clapping your hands and shouting out...FUN TIME FUN TIME!

While in the store with her, in a voice loud enough that others can hear, say...Honey those fleet enemas you like are on sale, do you want to get a dozen.

Rent a cheesy slasher horror dvd. Turn out the lights, snuggle up to your woman. After the killer has went through a few people...sadly say, I feel sorry for him, I really know how he feels. When she asks you what you mean, just cover your ears with a look of agony on your face and say...Nothing, Never mind.


When in front of your family or hers, when there is some generic conversation going (say talking about the weather) say...Well she (put an arm around your wife) does like the peanut butter if you know what I mean (and give two exaggerated winks). Say nothing about it after you do it.

When she is at work. Call up and order some birthday balloons to be sent to her at work, make sure they don't say who they are from, but not on her birthday . When she comes home carrying the balloons, look all distraught and apologize for forgetting her birthday.

One weekend tell her to put on her best outfit and tell her you are taking her out to eat just because you are so happy being married and want to treat her to a good meal and show her how much you love her. Then pull into the drive through at McDonalds telling her she can have anything on the dollar menu.

When you come home from work and she asked you how your day went. Just say...It did not go unwell.

In the middle of the night when she is a sleep. Start acting like you are having a nightmare and yell out...It's Burning, It's Burning for the love of god make it stop burning. When she wakes you up and asks what is wrong. Tell her you were dreaming that you were camping and roasting hot dogs and your hot dog fell off the stick, into the fire and you could not get it out.



Hope those help keep it fresh and exciting.

 

[DallasCowpoke]

Any advice as I start my life as a husband in less than 20 days?

1. Read ALL of this guy's posts.
2. Do EXACTLY the opposite.

 

[Muhast]

lol brainpaint and guys. I'm getting the worlds worst husband list of advice right now!

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

lol brainpaint and guys. I'm getting the worlds worst husband list of advice right now!

Most of the guys advice is actually pretty good.

Sure I was having fun and making jokes but it is also a good thing to play games and jokes once in a while just to keep things from getting boring.

And since I forgot to say it earlier...Congrats and hoping you have a long and wonderful marriage.

 

[Faerluna]

I'd have to agree with NYC about everything but the "RUN!" part. :

Some of my own thoughts...

You always both need to keep in mind that marriage is not easy. It's not something that just happens as life floats by. It is work and it is a partnership.

This doesn't mean that you have to do everything the other wants or split things down the middle evenly, but go the distance to find acceptable compromise on all issues.

Listen. Really listen. All the time, not just when it's convenient.

Don't try to fix everything. If you haven't figured it out by now, women complain about things just to get them off their chests. We don't expect you to solve all problems or to even try. We just want to get a hug and some support.

Be honest. About everything.

 

[Gemini Dolly]

Congratulations.

Dont *** up. Shes a cutie.

 

[Muhast]

Most of the guys advice is actually pretty good.

Sure I was having fun and making jokes but it is also a good thing to play games and jokes once in a while just to keep things from getting boring.

And since I forgot to say it earlier...Congrats and hoping you have a long and wonderful marriage.

I know! And thanks!

Congratulations.

Dont *** up. Shes a cutie.

Thanks

I'd have to agree with NYC about everything but the "RUN!" part. :

Some of my own thoughts...

You always both need to keep in mind that marriage is not easy. It's not something that just happens as life floats by. It is work and it is a partnership.

This doesn't mean that you have to do everything the other wants or split things down the middle evenly, but go the distance to find acceptable compromise on all issues.

Listen. Really listen. All the time, not just when it's convenient.

Don't try to fix everything. If you haven't figured it out by now, women complain about things just to get them off their chests. We don't expect you to solve all problems or to even try. We just want to get a hug and some support.

Be honest. About everything.

Good advice, some of this is in a few of the wedding counseling books we have been reading.

 

[Avaj]

Congrats!! It is my son's birthday on that day, he will be 5.

My advice is to keep date night. Just because your married doesn't mean you still can't date each other. What you did to get her do the same to keep her.

 

[Yeagermeister]

Always get the last words in any arguement.....

Yes, dear :laugh2:

 

[67CowboysFan]

When it comes to your children, they have two parents. BOTH of you have to remember this. It's best to plan a few things about them before you have them. Are they going to be baptized? What religion? Education - public, private or home school? It is amazing how simple things like this can cause a lot of friction.

 

[Bigdog]

Always get the last words in any arguement.....

Yes, dear :laugh2:

you took the words right out of my mouth. These words are very important because no matter what, you are always wrong. My best man (my older brother) during his wedding speech to me and my wife told me to put my hands on top of her and take a good look at it because this will be the first and last time that I will have the upper hand in the marriage. Boy, was he right. Seriously though, make sure you do everything you want before you get married and you and your wife do everything you want before you have kids. Arguments are going to happen; just compromise if you can and congratulations. I hope that you have many happpy years with your wife.

 

[KJJ]

Any advice as I start my life as a husband in less than 20 days?

If you have money make sure you sign a prenup. LOL I was the best man at my friends wedding last summer. I can never figure out the best man thing because if was the best man than what the hell was she marrying him for? Personally I think the groom should allow his 5 best friends to sleep with his bride to be a couple of weeks before the wedding and let her decide who the best man is. :