How do you cope when your kid goes off on their own

[Ranching]

My daughter went off to college at 17 and graduated at 20.....she started a career in the insurance business and I'm hoping to get her, her own agency in a couple of years....I'm very proud of her, but I miss her very much....I remember when I went off to college....I would talk to my parents once a week because long distance call were very expensive....it's different now that it's my little girl.....do you feel the same or am I the only wuss?

 

[rags747]

When my daughter went off to college in 2013 I was sick about it, we had always been a family of 3. The wife and I would go out to dinner and I would see other young families with kids and I would be jealous as all hell. I have always had the mindset that change is good, but that was kinda tough to absorb. Life moves fast, enjoy every moment of it!

 

[JBond]

My daughter went off to college at 17 and graduated at 20.....she started a career in the insurance business and I'm hoping to get her, her own agency in a couple of years....I'm very proud of her, but I miss her very much....I remember when I went off to college....I would talk to my parents once a week because long distance call were very expensive....it's different now that it's my little girl.....do you feel the same or am I the only wuss?

Strong Dad's always want to make everything perfect for their kids. I had to let go when my son went US Army after 3 years of college I paid for. Best thing for him. Now SF and has a career. Now he is getting married next Saturday. Time flies. Enjoy the time.

If someone else catches my neighbors thread and want to help dispose of bodies, send me a pm.

This also goes for anyone that dates my 13 year old daughter. ; )

 

[Ranching]

Strong Dad's always want to make everything perfect for their kids. I had to let go when my son went US Army after 3 years of college I paid for. Best thing for him. Now SF and has a career. Now he is getting married next Saturday. Time flies. Enjoy the time.

If someone else catches my neighbors thread and want to help dispose of bodies, send me a pm.

This also goes for anyone that dates my 13 year old daughter. ; )

Thanks for the advice....its tough. I'm a big man and have done a lot.....but when it comes to her, I melt.

 

[JBond]

Thanks for the advice....its tough. I'm a big man and have done a lot.....but when it comes to her, I melt.

I get it. It is hard to let go, but at some point, we have to let them make their decisions. Hopefully we did our jobs.

 

[Ranching]

When my daughter went off to college in 2013 I was sick about it, we had always been a family of 3. The wife and I would go out to dinner and I would see other young families with kids and I would be jealous as all hell. I have always had the mindset that change is good, but that was kinda tough to absorb. Life moves fast, enjoy every moment of it!

Yes sir.

 

[Bigdog]

No you are not. I am the same way. My twin daughters are off to college. It’s quiet around my house. In fact one of my daughters went to see her boyfriend at West Point and I was extremely nervous because they were staying in NYC. I asked two of my friends if they would allowed their daughters to go and they both said you have to them go eventually and let them live their own. I tend to agree with them but it still tough.

 

[nobody]

Thanks for the advice....its tough. I'm a big man and have done a lot.....but when it comes to her, I melt.

Honestly, I know how you feel. My daughter is seventeen and I'm utterly terrified of the day she eventually moves out. I'm worried about when my son moves out and he's 19. I don't love him less but I feel he's better equipped. I still worry as a father.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

You are not a wuss. You are a caring father that misses his daughter. Nothing wussy about that.

With that in mind, now you have to be extra hardcore and vigilant.

GPS Shock Collars.

So you can tracker and if she does not return your call or texts, you can zap her to remind her.

 

[Rockport]

My daughter went off to college at 17 and graduated at 20.....she started a career in the insurance business and I'm hoping to get her, her own agency in a couple of years....I'm very proud of her, but I miss her very much....I remember when I went off to college....I would talk to my parents once a week because long distance call were very expensive....it's different now that it's my little girl.....do you feel the same or am I the only wuss?

Everyone’s different but I focused more on work.

 

[timb2]

My daughter went off to college at 17 and graduated at 20.....she started a career in the insurance business and I'm hoping to get her, her own agency in a couple of years....I'm very proud of her, but I miss her very much....I remember when I went off to college....I would talk to my parents once a week because long distance call were very expensive....it's different now that it's my little girl.....do you feel the same or am I the only wuss?

My divorce broke my spirit because my son and me were always together. My ex took him 5 states away.. He didn't understand at the time and blamed me which tore me up. Now as an adult he understands we talk several times a week now. It still hurts to this day.

 

[Creeper]

Not a wuss. When I dropped my little girl off at college I hugged her then watched her walk away back towards her dorm. I was an emotional wreck. But now I want both my kids to be independent, on their own, and prepared to take on the world without me.

 

[Bizwah]

It's really hard sometimes. There are times I'm up all night worrying about my kids. I just have to trust that they make the right choices. My wife and I raised them in a house where we loved and cared for them. I've told both my kids that they always have a home with us.

 

[shabazz]

Only one way to say this. Love the kids, but as soon as they left the house it’s been non stop sex here. Sacraficed a lot of our time and raised them right. Cut the cord, wish them well and having the time of our lives and having way too much fun without them here.

some marriages go south because they found that all they had in common was the kids. Once the kids left they acted like roommates instead of lovers. I’ve seen it too many times. Both kids know to always call before visiting here……some people don’t keep an engine running efficiently for years and then expect it to perform when they finally try to rev it back up.

 

[CouchCoach]

Empty nest syndrome is a myth. And they come back, they always seem to come back.

 

[CalPolyTechnique]

My divorce broke my spirit because my son and me were always together. My ex took him 5 states away.. He didn't understand at the time and blamed me which tore me up. Now as an adult he understands we talk several times a week now. It still hurts to this day.

That’s awful but it sounds like he has a better understanding and perspective which ia good to hear.

 

[MWH1967]

Every parent goes through something similar to varying degrees. Then, one day you begin to like the fact they have their own mailbox.