AbeBeta;4178443 said:
Dude, I hate to tell you this... if you get something on the house, it isn't someone tossing you a freebie. That money, or at least a huge chunk of it is expected to come back in tip. that isn't even about tipping, it is about you and the staff making a deal to keep the transaction between you.
I don't think this is a "one size fits all" situation.
Most often when I get something on the house, it's because the restaurant is slow or screws up. Usually they just waive the cost of my appetizer and really, it doesn't happen all that often. Maybe a couple times per year at max.
In this situation, I don't think they expect anything to come back their way. I've already paid them more than enough for taking too damn long to do whatever it was they were doing. But, because I realize it's the waiter or waitress who has to go to her manager and say, "these people have been here and hour without food" I acknowledge that she/he is doing a good job and tip her the difference.
Secondly, the freebies at bars and such aren't solely for the purposes of the bar tender to pad his pockets. If he throws you a free drink, he knows damn well you'll likely get something else anyway. And if he throws you another drink, he knows damn well you'll probably keep drinking and buying more and more stuff, increasing his tip. Additionally, I'm not buying into the expected kickback as some automatic unwritten law. Tip Code still applies. If you're a ******** of a bar tender and you pass out a couple freebies looking for a greater tip in return, you're barking up the wrong tree. You're a jerk, don't expect a free beer that costs next to nothing for you to give away to earn you some sort of latitude when the check comes. Shouldn't have been an jerk.
Lastly, establishments know if you treat someone right they will come back. If I go to a place and the service is awesome, the food is good and the environment is good I will go back. They get you liquored up, you have a good time and come back.
In the case with my friend who was bar tending, he wasn't expecting me to throw him the difference. He was doing it because he was my friend. A simple tip would have been fine for him. I wasn't expecting anything free just because I knew him and I would have been totally fine with paying the total I was expecting. I suppose if you are a regular at some bar that you frequent and you have such an arrangement that you guys have informally worked out over time, then yes it is okay to expect a tip.
But, if you are some random bar tender and give a free beer to someone without any sort of prior transaction with that person, don't get pissed if the tip doesn't come.
A tip may be on the bar tender's mind but so is getting you liquored up and generating repeat customers. Me spending more in that trip by coming back at a later date is compensation enough.