I have to say that I'm really proud of my daughter, but not for the usual reasons. I'm not proud of her singing ability or her voice, there is nothing to be proud of in that regard - it would be like being proud that your child is tall. She opens her mouth and those sounds come out, it's freaky and weird, but in a good way.
What I'm proud of is her decision to do yet another operatic song. Last year she did an amazing job singing 'The Last Rose of Summer' at the talent show, and IMO she was the best of the 25 acts that night (although there were some that I wouldn't argue too strenuously against). They gave out 8 prizes that night, and my daughter didn't get anything. And we are pretty sure it's because she's doing songs that people don't know, or that people have only heard professionals sing. If you decide to do a Beyonce song most people in the audience probably know it, have tried to sing along to it, and have heard other people do likewise. So it's easy to appreciate when it's done well. If you perform an opera song or something that people only see performed by professionals, it's tougher for people to appreciate exactly how hard it is IMO. Now last year I saw her face when the last prize was given out and her name wasn't called, it only flashed, but my daughter was really disappointed. She did a terrific job and coming away empty handed wasn't easy.
Now fast forward to this year, as she was deciding on a song. She had chosen a wretched operatic piece (she switched to Ave Maria last minute because she never learned the other well enough). My wife asked her flat out,"Do you want to win the talent show?" She explained that it's tough winning with a song nobody has ever heard, or tried to sing along with. It's tough to win with something that slow. You just don't win high school talent shows with songs written in 1800. So she asked Xana if she wanted to win, because she wasn't going to win with one of those songs. Xana said she didn't want to win if it meant she couldn't sing her songs. She decided that even if she wasn't going to win with it, she was going to go up there and sing what she loves. That's what made me proud, she decided for herself and didn't change what she was doing to appease the masses.
It brought to mind my favorite Ralph Waldo Emerson quote (I might be off by a word or two, but it's close): It is easy in the world to live after the world's opinion, it is easy in solitude to live after your own. But the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.
That's my daughter, she thinks for herself. Even in the crowd she maintains the independence of solitude, and that makes me proud.