the rebound boyfriend

[Bob Sacamano]

Is this rebound boyfriend named Bob Sacamano?

She wishes.

 

[jimmy40]

Sorry, but I'm getting tired of the OP's sad-sack routine. Weeks ago he asked us how to get over a breakup, and we complied. Last week he asked for some good places to meet women, and we complied. Today he's back to obsessing over the old girlfriend and her new beau. ENOUGH. Write to Santa and ask him to bring you some balls next Christmas.

My approach to start with.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

My approach to start with.

bbgun has his limits though. you are just an ******* lol

 

[CF74]

The guys in his mid 20's ...... he is not a teenager.

bbgun is right.

I am 22 and she is 20

So if any of you have any advice then please share it, and please no mean or cruel jokes. Thank You.

Both are wrong, life isn't so simple.

Yes, we've all been hurt at one time or another, but we all don't badger others for relationship advice or walk around in a daze for weeks on end. Time to grow a pair.

Some people are prone to depression. I still have [strike]dreams[/strike] nightmares about my 1st. Only thing that helps is time, keeping busy, and good friends but even greater than all that a better woman. Get back in the saddle son and never look back....:stetson:

 

[Doomsday101]

Sorry, but I'm getting tired of the OP's sad-sack routine. Weeks ago he asked us how to get over a breakup, and we complied. Last week he asked for some good places to meet women, and we complied. Today he's back to obsessing over the old girlfriend and her new beau. ENOUGH. Write to Santa and ask him to bring you some balls next Christmas.

You did not have to tell him to get a tall chair and a short rope. :laugh2:

 

[DFWJC]

If she broke up with you, that is probably not a "rebound" boyfriend.

My thoughts too.
It's not a lock that she already knew him, but most likely she did. Hate to go negative on you, but she may have been seeing him before you broke up. Sorry.

Move on and keep your chin up.

 

[bbgun]

You did not have to tell him to get a tall chair and a short rope. :laugh2:

I'm more worried about him going the "Star 80" route.

 

[JohnnyHopkins]

Punit, in all seriousness, you need to figure out how to move on. Sit down and write out what you need to do to move forward if you have to, but do it. She aint comin back.

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Aint no sunshine when she's gawn.
It's not warm when she's away.
Aint no sunshine when she's GAAAHHH WN.

I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know

 

[Doomsday101]

I'm more worried about him going the "Star 80" route.

either way sucks. :laugh2:

Myself good times and bad keep on keeping on. Life is too short to wallow in misery and as much as breakups suck it is part of life feel lucky this is not a marriage with kids involved

 

[Chief]

Sorry, but I'm getting tired of the OP's sad-sack routine. Weeks ago he asked us how to get over a breakup, and we complied. Last week he asked for some good places to meet women, and we complied. Today he's back to obsessing over the old girlfriend and her new beau. ENOUGH. Write to Santa and ask him to bring you some balls next Christmas.

:laugh2: :laugh2:

 

[Bob Sacamano]

I'm more worried about him going the "Star 80" route.

What's that?

 

[Bob Sacamano]

So we could never be a couple, hun
**** love, all I got for hos is hard **** and bubble gum.

words to live by

 

[Doomsday101]

What's that?

Dorothy Stratten she was a playboy model who was killed by an estranged husband. A movie was made about it called Star80

 

[jimmy40]

bbgun has his limits though. you are just an ******* lol

well I thought the tough love approach would work best for this guy and I'd have to say I was right.

 

[Dawgs0916]

I feel for you bro, I went through a very similiar experience towards the end of summer, but these guys are right.

The only thing you can do is grow a pair and "On to the next one".

 

[Hostile]

well it happened....my ex girlfriend is already moving on to another guy and it hasnt even been a month yet. My fear of her seeing another guy came true and theres nothing i can do about it. Has anyone been in the same situation where their ex gf had a rebound boyfriend? Ive heard somewhere they they only do it for ego trips and that most dont last long anyways....is this true? can someone shed some insight please?

Okay, I've shared a lot in my time on the Net. I have never shared this as far as I know. I was madly in love with this girl when I was 22. That love started at 19 though. I was a freshman in College and she was a Senior in HS. Gorgeous girl and an absolutely great heart.

We were talking about getting married and I even had a ring. There was another guy on the side. I knew about him, but I wasn't worried. Vanity run amok. I was 22 and getting ready to play college football. I was in the best shape of my life and thought I was the be all, end all man for her. The other guy was 31. Not a good looking guy. Had other issues, including being a self professed communist. I thought I was in like Flynn.

She told us both she wanted 2 weeks to make up her mind what she wanted to do. I gave it to her. Jim called every day and threatened to kill himself if she didn't marry him. I said she had a good heart, well that sunk her. She eloped to Las Vegas with the idiot.

I was crushed. About 5 weeks later I suffered the knee injury that ended my football hopes for good. I thought life was over.

Life is not over at 22.

I took all of her letters, pictures, and whatever I could find that reminded me of her and went to a grill in a park and I burned them. Exercised her right out of my life. Cleared the air.

Due to the severe injury I didn't date much for the next year. The world did not end. I moved to another town so I could rehab my knee. Not quite 3 years later I got word from this girl's best friend that she was divorced and had an 18 month old baby girl. She got divorced after 9 months of marriage and was 6 months pregnant.

I got to go see her one more time and the truth of the matter is, I would have taken her back on the spot. Adopted the kid, beat up the ex, whatever she asked me. She was distant from me. I knew it was over. She had never loved me like I loved her and I was crazy about her. I had done my best and it was not good enough.

My wife is so much better I can't even tell you. I have been married 19 1/2 years to a wonderful woman. I do not regret for one minute that I lost out on a girl I was head over heels in love with.

As of a couple of months ago, that girl and I are now friends on Facebook after all these years. She is still beautiful. I knew she would be. She still has a good heart. I am not shocked. She is also on her 3rd marriage. I gather it is just an okay marriage. I have a great marriage. Not a good one, a great one. My wife is wonderful.

There's a song by Garth Brooks that means a lot to me. I think you will be able to figure out why when you read these lyrics.

Unanswered Prayers

Just the other night a hometown football game
My wife and I ran into my old high school flame
And as I introduced them the past came back to me
And I couldn't help but think of the way things used to be

She was the one that I'd wanted for all times
And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine
And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then
I'd never ask for anything again

CHORUS:
Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

She wasn't quite the angel that I remembered in my dreams
And I could tell that time had changed me
Inn her eyes too it seemed
We tried to talk about the old days
There wasn't much we could recall
I guess the Lord knows what he's doin' after all

And as she walked away and I looked at my wife
And then and there I thankedd the good Lord
For the gifts in my life

CHORUS

Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered...
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

*******

The best advice I can ever give you is to exercise her memory and move on. It is not easy, but take it from a man who has been there, it is worth it.

 

[DallasCowpoke]

can someone shed some insight please?

I can!

Your girlfriend left you 'cus she realized you're a *****, and she's not Ellen DeGeneres.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

I can!

Your girlfriend left you 'cus she realized you're a *****, and she's not Ellen DeGeneres.

Cold and mean...but I laughed anyway.

 

[bbgun]

http://cowboyszone.com/forums/showthread.php?t=179398

Four pages of replies and he never thanked anyone. He's a user.