Don't mean to speak on somebody's behalf, but below is an AI definition of to pay attention. I don't think this is the case for most of us, just those who want to believe what they hear: It's what Jerry wants...
Paying attention to someone means focusing your mental, emotional, or physical energy on them by listening actively, observing carefully, and showing interest. It involves being mindful of their words and actions, demonstrating care, and, in relationships, providing quality, undistracted time to make them feel heard and valued.