Death is a rude visitor...

[WV Cowboy]

Death is like a rude visitor. It sometimes arrives unannounced. Other times, we see it coming. It does not care about our feelings. It takes no concern for the inconvenience it brings. It wants only to be served and to be answered. It takes who it wants and all we can do is sit helplessly by as it stomps through our lives making a mess of our emotions, wreaking havoc with those who are left to pick up the pieces. Death brings discomfort and inconvenience. It injures our hearts, robs us of joy, and takes from us our loved ones.

My mother-in-law found out she had lung cancer on Aug 6th, 1993. They told her she had 3 months. She passed Nov. 5th.

Lung cancer is a nasty thing.

I have compassion for Coach Paterno's family, .. they are hurting.

Death is a rude visitor.

 

[Hostile]

Nov. 5th of that year or this last year?

I am sorry, I don't ask to be a pest. Just wondering if she beat it back that long or if it was that fast.

 

[WV Cowboy]

Nov. 5th of that year or this last year?

I am sorry, I don't ask to be a pest. Just wondering if she beat it back that long or if it was that fast.

They told her 3 months, .. it was 3 months almost to the day.

Lung cancer can be brutal.

She took the chemo, so even those three months sucked.

I think of her often, but especially when my boys, her grandsons, have big events.

Graduations from high school, graduations from college, marriage, birth of her great-grandson.

She would have loved that stuff! She missed it all.

Many times when my wife laughs a big, hearty laugh, .. I hear her Mom.

 

[YosemiteSam]

If I found out I had cancer, I wouldn't fight it unless it was extremely early stages. Chemo is one thing I definitely don't want to mess with. If I'm going to die, I want what time I have left to be comfortable. Chemo and other treatments like that make quality of life absolute ****. I have zero interest in living like that.

My mother died of cancer in 2007 and she did every thing possible to survive it. It was a full year of pain and suffering and she died anyway. Watching her suffer like that for a year was worse than her passing away. I hated that she was gone when it was over, but I was relieved at the same time.

My grandfather was diagnosed with cancer in 2009. He said no chemo and do not resuscitate. He lived for 8 months and died peacefully. They did give him pain killers towards the end.

 

[WV Cowboy]

I hated that she was gone when it was over, but I was relieved at the same time.

And grateful that she was not suffering any longer, .. I know the feeling.

 

[CliffnDallas]

Everyone dies. I do not understand how people can be shocked by it. Once he was found to have cancer it was only a matter of time.

 

[WV Cowboy]

Everyone dies. I do not understand how people can be shocked by it. Once he was found to have cancer it was only a matter of time.

I don't see where anyone said they were shocked by it, .. and as far as it being only a matter of time, .. that was sort of the gist of the OP.

 

[phillycard]

They told her 3 months, .. it was 3 months almost to the day.

Lung cancer can be brutal.

She took the chemo, so even those three months sucked.

I think of her often, but especially when my boys, her grandsons, have big events.

Graduations from high school, graduations from college, marriage, birth of her great-grandson.

She would have loved that stuff! She missed it all.

Many times when my wife laughs a big, hearty laugh, .. I hear her Mom.

Good post WV. Something to think about. Sounds like your mother in law was a special person.

 

[Khartun]

Good post WV. My mother died 3 1/2 years ago from Melanoma. We were all shocked when the doc said she had 3-6 months to live, and completely devastated that it was only 6 weeks.

 

[WV Cowboy]

Good post WV. Something to think about. Sounds like your mother in law was a special person.

She was a pretty quiet, unassuming lady, .. uneducated, unworldly but a heart of gold.

My wife was an only child and she was hard on her, .. but loved her grandsons to death. I am sure she just wanted the best for my wife, to do things she was unable to do.

I was not her son, but I was the closest thing to a son that she had, .. and I always liked that she was proud of me. Maybe she wasn't right at first but as time went on.

I liked that.

When her side of the family would get together she would always brag on me. She didn't have to do that.

And since she had no son, she always liked to cook for me. I liked that too.

Now her Dad, .. was not too sure about me. I came from another town.
We have been together now 40 years and I joke with my wife that, "I think he is starting to like me."

But yea, she was special.

 

[WV Cowboy]

Good post WV. My mother died 3 1/2 years ago from Melanoma. We were all shocked when the doc said she had 3-6 months to live, and completely devastated that it was only 6 weeks.

So sorry to hear about your Momma.

6 weeks is too quick.

 

[CanadianCowboysFan]

Death is like a rude visitor. It sometimes arrives unannounced. Other times, we see it coming. It does not care about our feelings. It takes no concern for the inconvenience it brings. It wants only to be served and to be answered. It takes who it wants and all we can do is sit helplessly by as it stomps through our lives making a mess of our emotions, wreaking havoc with those who are left to pick up the pieces. Death brings discomfort and inconvenience. It injures our hearts, robs us of joy, and takes from us our loved ones.

My mother-in-law found out she had lung cancer on Aug 6th, 1993. They told her she had 3 months. She passed Nov. 5th.

Lung cancer is a nasty thing.

I have compassion for Coach Paterno's family, .. they are hurting.

Death is a rude visitor.

not sure I would describe it as a rude visitor, more an unwanted but inevitable one.

 

[WV Cowboy]

not sure I would describe it as a rude visitor, more an unwanted but inevitable one.

Rude in that it doesn't ask to be invited, it just shows up, comes in, takes over and ruins everything.

If someone did that in your house that would be rude.