diehard2231;1670265 said:
my mom was diagnosed with acute lukemia,she is 65 and has battled lung cancer before(1998) beat that! and in 2002 she had her aorta valve replaced. They said she is too old for treatmant,and it wont be long,so she will go home and enjoy the rest of her life. She was a great mother and a very caring person. Please pray for her. Thanks
i'm closing in on one year since losing my own mother to pancreatic cancer. she beat cancer 10 years before and we thought the world would be fine. but the saddest part about life is, no one gets out alive.
before i found out "the news" i knew she was sick and in and out of the hospital just before thanksgiving. my grandmother lived with my mom and dad and i couldn't really go visit because i had that cold/congestion that just would never go away and i didn't want to pass that onto either of them. so i stayed on the phone, called a lot and just was on wait mode with the rest of the family.
a few weeks before thanksgiving she was moved to a hospital in oklahoma city. i finally decided to hell with it, i'm taking a day off work and driving up from dallas just to give her a hug and then i'd leave. i just wanted to see her and something was telling me not to play time games. my brother from austin was also driving up with his wife and we'd keep in touch on the phone and he's the one that told me the cancer was treatable but not cureable. till then i didn't even know the cancer was back - no one told me. it was one of the hardest things i'd ever been asked to do - walk into a hospital knowing it could be the last time i'd see her.
she was just as cheerful as she'd always been and amazed i'd take the time to drive up for a hug. we all talked for a bit then i had to head home and my brother to my parents house to help there.
on thanksgiving my grandmother fell in the kitchen and dislocated her shoulder. at 92 that's not easy to deal with. in a small town there wasn't much they could do till the following monday. the hospital let my mom out the day after thanksgiving and she told her mom what she was up against and it was only a matter of time.
that monday my dad took my grandmother to the hospital for her shoulder and when he got back, she passed away in the car while my dad was coming around to take her inside. i believe she just didn't want to see her last child go before her.
i'd talk to my mom and she'd keep telling me her favorite song at the time was "i get knocked down" by chumbawumba. i had her on the phone once during one of my radio shows and she listened while i dedicated it to her and she got such a kick out of that.
i was told by several friends the next few months would be rough and they knew by experience. if she didn't recognize me, don't be alarmed. things like that. one day i called and she was so tired sounding but she still made sure to talk to me for about 5 minutes. she then said she was cold and needed to get off the phone.
if there was one grace from God in all this it was the phone call i got an hour later - she passed away that night. we thought we had one last christmas and we thought we had some time but in the end, you never really know what you have while you're here.
i still can't talk much about it w/o the tears but i'm better. hoping no one comes to my desk right now and need something, though. : )
i know the news all too well. it sucks and the only thing worse is you can't do anything to stop it. i would have done anything for my mom but in the end all i could do was drive up and give her a hug for the last time i ever saw her alive. when ever i think about it i can't thank God enough for the foresight to go.
your family will be in my prayers and please, do all you can to spend time with her while you can. don't let any regrets come out of this one.
