how do you guys deal with anger in the workplace

[vta]

I guess I just don't get it then. That wouldn't have upset me even one iota.

Me neither, but everyone's different.
Maybe some office hotties giggled and he felt embarrassed...

 

[CF74]

Or maybe he has an accent.

 

[DallasCowpoke]

how do you guys deal with anger in the workplace

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[Danny White]

Me neither, but everyone's different.
Maybe some office hotties giggled and he felt embarrassed...

He should have responded:

"Yeah, well the jerk-store called and they're all out of you!"

 

[Hostile]

It's not the issue of what was said, it's that his boss chose to grandstand in front of the entire office and it just struck a nerve.

It wouldn't have bothered me either, at my office we are very sarcastic to each other, but I can understand something like that just striking the wrong nerve.

Its like you're in a meeting and say, "Oh, I'd probably do it this way." and someone replies, "Oh, I bet you would." It's not really what was said, just the manner it was said.

I still don't get it. I don't see how that is grandstanding. Oh well.

 

[silverbear]

LoL...is that it?

Honestly, you really need to work on the thickness of your skin. I'm sure this will probably piss you off too, but don't let him see you cry when you walk out the door.

I may be misremembering, and if I am I'll apologize in advance, but I do believe that wraith has started threads in the past about the problems he's had at assorted workplaces...

If I'm correct, then I can only observe that if one person is having problems at a number of different worksites, the problem is probably with his attitude...

In this particular case, what's the big deal?? I would have made some kind of small joke, like English is my second language, I originally come from Mumblania, then I would have repeated what I'd said so that the boss could hear it...

My problem is the exact opposite, my boss is VERY soft-spoken, so that I often can't hear him, and have to ask him to repeat himself...

 

[Jon88]

Right after I read this thread I went to work. About 20 minutes later I did something the boss didn't like and he literally got 6 inches away from my face and was explaining what I did wrong and what he wants me to do from now on. Now 99% of the people who do that are being hostile, but he's just being ignorant and I hear he does it to everyone. He's in his 50's and still doesn't know about the 3 foot rule - if you get within someone's 3 feet of space they get uncomfortable. You just have to realize that some bosses can be stupid. Make quiet comments about them behind their back as they walk past if it makes you feel better and laugh it off.

 

[YosemiteSam]

A lot of you guys (and ladies) should read the Discrimination and Harassment section in your HR manuals.

You can complain if your boss is harassing you (ie repeatingly making you uncomfortable by his action or what he is saying) and your boss cannot do anything about it due to retaliation is a clause under Discrimination and Harassment liability too.

Even if the original complaint is rejected by the EEOC, the retaliation complaint can stand on it's own merit.

 

[TheCount]

I still don't get it. I don't see how that is grandstanding. Oh well.

I think you get it just fine, you just don't agree.

 

[CanadianCowboysFan]

Depends on the relationship you have with him. If you get along well, scratch your eye with your middle finger. If you don't, then complain to his boss that he is creating a poisoned work environment, go on stress leave and then claim long term disability from the post traumatic stress disorder that you suffer from as a result of his cruel comment on your speech impediment.

 

[CanadianCowboysFan]

Right after I read this thread I went to work. About 20 minutes later I did something the boss didn't like and he literally got 6 inches away from my face and was explaining what I did wrong and what he wants me to do from now on. Now 99% of the people who do that are being hostile, but he's just being ignorant and I hear he does it to everyone. He's in his 50's and still doesn't know about the 3 foot rule - if you get within someone's 3 feet of space they get uncomfortable. You just have to realize that some bosses can be stupid. Make quiet comments about them behind their back as they walk past if it makes you feel better and laugh it off.

I get within three feet of my modelesque secretary all the time, she doesn't get uncomfortable, she starts to play with her hair.

 

[CanadianCowboysFan]

I still don't get it. I don't see how that is grandstanding. Oh well.

maybe not grandstanding but definitely not an action to engender good master-servant relations.

 

[xWraithx]

I may be misremembering, and if I am I'll apologize in advance, but I do believe that wraith has started threads in the past about the problems he's had at assorted workplaces...

If I'm correct, then I can only observe that if one person is having problems at a number of different worksites, the problem is probably with his attitude...

In this particular case, what's the big deal?? I would have made some kind of small joke, like English is my second language, I originally come from Mumblania, then I would have repeated what I'd said so that the boss could hear it...

My problem is the exact opposite, my boss is VERY soft-spoken, so that I often can't hear him, and have to ask him to repeat himself...

assorted workplaces? lol, I have a good/steady job

probably wasn't me

by the way, this is a very isolated incident and was forgotten shortly after

the people who "don't get it" and are incessant about making that clear are making a bigger deal out of this than I initially did

 

[Doomsday]

He should have responded:

"Yeah, well the jerk-store called and they're all out of you!"

:laugh2: that was a good episode.

 

[Doomsday]

Not to be a jerk, but you really shouldnt let little stuff like that get to you or it is going to be a long life.

 

[xWraithx]

Not to be a jerk, but you really shouldnt let little stuff like that get to you or it is going to be a long life.

a rare isolated incident and I was already in a pissy mood

but thanks for the life lesson, you've changed my outlook on life and I am a better man because of it

lol...

EDIT: sorry, just seems like a small isolated incident at work that blew over as quick as it started has turned into a full blown intervention session with some people making assumptions on my life - past, present, and future....

 

[AbeBeta]

by the way, this is a very isolated incident and was forgotten shortly after

the people who "don't get it" and are incessant about making that clear are making a bigger deal out of this than I initially did

Your posts seem to suggest different. Fuming is pretty strong reaction to an event that most people would not even register. Hell, you even sought out advice for dealing with anger in the workplace. You've gotta not make blaming others your first reaction .... everyone heard you fine so your boss is therefore being a jerk to you... people in the thread are the problem b/c they are making more out of it than you did. I'd hate to see your reaction to something that was actually bad.

 

[xWraithx]

Your posts seem to suggest different. Fuming is pretty strong reaction to an event that most people would not even register. Hell, you even sought out advice for dealing with anger in the workplace. You've gotta not make blaming others your first reaction .... everyone heard you fine so your boss is therefore being a jerk to you... people in the thread are the problem b/c they are making more out of it than you did. I'd hate to see your reaction to something that was actually bad.

my reaction to this post: uke:

j/k

 

[Doomsday]

a rare isolated incident and I was already in a pissy mood

but thanks for the life lesson, you've changed my outlook on life and I am a better man because of it

lol...

EDIT: sorry, just seems like a small isolated incident at work that blew over as quick as it started has turned into a full blown intervention session with some people making assumptions on my life - past, present, and future....

No assumptions made, just offer a friendly piece of advice based on what you originally posted.