how do you guys deal with anger in the workplace

[Concord]

So it works on rats but not mice?

Exactly!

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[Faerluna]

That's what you get for turning to your co-worker and saying...

OMG Becky, Look at her butt, it is Soo Big

<cue music>

It was actually the last day of work for this girl in my department I hated. I said to a friend "If I were there I'd take that "c u next Tuesday" out to the parking lot and beat her *** for a going away present."

Her last day and she was still trying to make me miserable, and I didn't even work in the office anymore, having been remote for a year.

So my friend that I told, Alex, repeats verbatim what I said to the girl, who goes to our boss to start some shineola about it. My boss messages me and says "Stop talking to Alex! Immediately!"

He later told me what happened, and that he told the girl to just relax and enjoy her last day. Thankfully, she let it go.

Could have been bad, though!

 

[big dog cowboy]

I would say it depends on how well you like your job and if you can get another one?

If you don't like it and can get another job quickly tell your boss how you feel.

If you can't get another job let it go.

:signmast:

 

[vta]

It was actually the last day of work for this girl in my department I hated. I said to a friend "If I were there I'd take that "c u next Tuesday" out to the parking lot and beat her *** for a going away present."

Her last day and she was still trying to make me miserable, and I didn't even work in the office anymore, having been remote for a year.

So my friend that I told, Alex, repeats verbatim what I said to the girl, who goes to our boss to start some shineola about it. My boss messages me and says "Stop talking to Alex! Immediately!"

He later told me what happened, and that he told the girl to just relax and enjoy her last day. Thankfully, she let it go.

Could have been bad, though!

Some friend...

cu next tuesday... priceless.:laugh2:

 

[Danny White]

just now my boss had asked me a question from across the room and I answered... everyone else seemed to have heard me fine but he apparantly did not because he said "mumbling? can we have that in English this time?"

I answered again... but I've been fuming on the inside since

I feel like just turning off my computer and leaving for the day

A lot depends on what kind of person the boss is.

It could be that he fancies himself a "Michael Scott" kind of guy and thinks that he's hilarious and is creating a "fun, enjoyable" workplace environment with his jokes and wisecracks. If that's the case, then just brush it off as a bad joke.

Or it could be that the guy is a jerk and he's taking advantage of the fact that he's the boss to treat everyone around him like underlings who can't really fight back against him for fear of getting in trouble. If that's the case, it sucks to have to work for someone like that, but that makes it a situation where you REALLY have to ignore it because there's no way a person like that is going to take any lip back.

Either way, it's best to keep it to yourself, as you apparently have already decided to do.

Honestly, even if you decide to quit and find a new job, it's best to not blow up at the guy because you never know how something like that could come back to bite you someday. Either as a reference or just not knowing who else the guy might know.

 

[Joe Realist]

You have to " pick your battles " If you are young and entry level, you don't want to hurt your future options there. You can always get up, go for a walk and clear your head.

If it is constant, and he is approachable, you can have a on on one at a later time.

My 2 cents.

 

[Danny White]

Have you considered the possibility that maybe you mumble?

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

Buy some candy. Mix in ex lax. Offer it to him in a few days.


I have seen this executed brilliantly!!!!
(dam I cant take credit for doing it though... or I would)



Ok, so here is the story. This guy that I know used to work for a friend of my fathers. There was another guy that that used to bully the guy and take his candy from him.

So.

One day he mixed some ex law in with the candy and just like clockwork - here comes the bully. Gimme some candy mofo(and he takes a handful and scoffs it down).

At the end of the day, ironically enough all these workers walked home in the same direction.

This guys stomach starts rumbing, they are on a residential street. Cold sweats, hot sweats, you name it. He is looking frantically. He finally goes over and leans of the railing of a house and makes his deposit.

While EVERYONE watched and laughed there arse's off. He was never told. But he never did take candy again.

:laugh2:

 

[Rampage]

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[Dallas]

It was actually the last day of work for this girl in my department I hated. I said to a friend "If I were there I'd take that "c u next Tuesday" out to the parking lot and beat her *** for a going away present."

Her last day and she was still trying to make me miserable, and I didn't even work in the office anymore, having been remote for a year.

So my friend that I told, Alex, repeats verbatim what I said to the girl, who goes to our boss to start some shineola about it. My boss messages me and says "Stop talking to Alex! Immediately!"

He later told me what happened, and that he told the girl to just relax and enjoy her last day. Thankfully, she let it go.

Could have been bad, though!

Alex has a fat mouth. No offense but I hate friends who take things said in confidence and then run and blow them up.

Alex Fat Mouth!

 

[Dallas]

Have you considered the possibility that maybe you mumble?

 

[Danny White]

It must be hard to speak clearly when your mouth is full...







... of food, I mean. Get your mind out of the gutter!

 

[Hostile]

just now my boss had asked me a question from across the room and I answered... everyone else seemed to have heard me fine but he apparantly did not because he said "mumbling? can we have that in English this time?"

I answered again... but I've been fuming on the inside since

I feel like just turning off my computer and leaving for the day

Maybe give him the benefit of the doubt that he didn't hear you clearly enough? I have trouble hearing people clearly if there is background noise and a crowded office qualifies. I doubt I am the only person who has this trouble.

 

[Yeagermeister]

Maybe give him the benefit of the doubt that he didn't hear you clearly enough? I have trouble hearing people clearly if there is background noise and a crowded office qualifies. I doubt I am the only person who has this trouble.

Or you are just getting old

 

[Hostile]

Or you are just getting old

I don't deny that. Beats the alternative.

Hard for me to imagine getting upset because someone didn't hear you. Everyone else is supposed to be perfect and forgive you for your faults I guess. That kinda sucks.

 

[Jon88]

That's not that bad. I've had much worse. Just don't do what this guy does.

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[vta]

I don't deny that. Beats the alternative.

Hard for me to imagine getting upset because someone didn't hear you. Everyone else is supposed to be perfect and forgive you for your faults I guess. That kinda sucks.

I think the unnecessary 'in English' is what set our friend off.
Just for kicks, I would have answered in Italian after that remark, with a choice insult he'd never get.

 

[CF74]

just now my boss had asked me a question from across the room and I answered... everyone else seemed to have heard me fine but he apparantly did not because he said "mumbling? can we have that in English this time?"

I answered again... but I've been fuming on the inside since

I feel like just turning off my computer and leaving for the day

When the boss asks you a question from across the room you should walk over to him and answer the question, never try to shout back the response unless it's a blow off type job.







or the alternative is revenge.

Slip one of these in the door crack or under the chair, etc...


Class dismissed!!!!:laugh2:

 

[Hostile]

I think the unnecessary 'in English' is what set our friend off.
Just for kicks, I would have answered in Italian after that remark, with a choice insult he'd never get.

I guess I just don't get it then. That wouldn't have upset me even one iota.

 

[TheCount]

I guess I just don't get it then. That wouldn't have upset me even one iota.

It's not the issue of what was said, it's that his boss chose to grandstand in front of the entire office and it just struck a nerve.

It wouldn't have bothered me either, at my office we are very sarcastic to each other, but I can understand something like that just striking the wrong nerve.

Its like you're in a meeting and say, "Oh, I'd probably do it this way." and someone replies, "Oh, I bet you would." It's not really what was said, just the manner it was said.