Some women might do that and you not being a woman does not count.
Since we don't know her position we do not know if her reporting it was personal or she felt if Irvin would do that, what else is he capable of and she doesn't know him, according to him he told her to look him up on Google. And said he'd be back.
What if he did that to another female guest and it got out it wasn't the first time in that hotel? Think they are liable not addressing that when they could have?
While this is not sexual assault, could Irvin have been pegged as a sexual predator because that was a predatory thing to say to a stranger. That isn't come up to my room for a drink.
I've seen some guys say "well, the woman has the choice to walk away" but why should any woman have to make that choice? If he said that, that is not a come on line, that is the pure definition of sexual harassment.
And just how many women do you know that are OK with a total stranger putting their hands of them within 1.5 minutes of the conversation starting? You think that's OK? Go ahead and try that a few times but have a good dentist.
I didn't say that because I would act that way, that everyone else should too. The point was, simply taking it for what it was and moving on with your life was a perfectly good option.
I could "what if" the hell out of this too. What if she was the predator who made this all up after her advances were turned down? I'm not actually doing that, but just pointing out that "what iffing" our way through this is just ridiculous speculation.
There is no difference in motive and intention between "you're very pretty, would you like to come up for a drink", and "have you ever had a black man inside you". Yes, one is much more palatable to the sensitive but at the end of the day the motive and intentions are exactly the same. They. Are. Just. Words.
Why should a woman have to make that choice? Seriously? I can certainly understand some women not wanting to have to make that choice, but come on man. We could go all week going back and forth about what choices should anyone have to make. Having to "make that choice" is as much a first world problem as I've ever seen. If her job choice has her interacting with customers at a time of day when many will be partying then maybe she should choose a different position.
I don't know any women who would react in fear about being briefly touched on the shoulder or elbow during a short encounter in a very public place. I'm not a toucher, (although I had to learn to be a hugger) but some people are. Women and men. Whether it is ok or not is up to the recipient but it is not a mortal crime to touch a persons shoulder or elbow.
The bottom line is, if the conversation ended and both parties went on their way, nobody sufferers in any way, no kittens or puppies get killed. Everyone lives happily ever after.
Turning this into what it is over some vulgar words and a touch on the elbow is ridiculous. No matter how "inappropriate" we FEEL it is.