It's Official. I'm about to become an honest man.

[WDN]

P.S. If anyone has any serious advice for me, I'm all ears.

Try to get her to agree to a Leap Day Wedding. That way you only have to get anniversary gifts every 4 years.

 

[Hoov]

Relationships are a two-way street. But every one of those unhappily married or divorced men were innocent and married to monsters?

I'd have to say that not only did this guy obviously get burned in the past - he was carpet bombed.

Yeah, sounds like the guy was pretty bitter. But i know so many people who get married and then the expectation is that their partner will change or adjust, it doesnt happen. This IS one peice of advice i can give regarding marriage and it goes for men and women.......If you cant live the rest of your life with someone as they are now, then dont do it. Dont expect that you will change them, or that the other person will wise up and see things your way in due time.

And also, its not fair to take another human being and treat them like a possession. You have to allow them the freedom to be themself and chase their dreams even if you think some of them are foolish.

here's some really wise lyrics from a grateful dead song......

a foolish heart will call on you to cast your dreams away, then turn around and blame you for the way you went astray....

 

[Mavs Man]

Yeah, sounds like the guy was pretty bitter. But i know so many people who get married and then the expectation is that their partner will change or adjust, it doesnt happen. This IS one peice of advice i can give regarding marriage and it goes for men and women.......If you cant live the rest of your life with someone as they are now, then dont do it. Dont expect that you will change them, or that the other person will wise up and see things your way in due time.

And also, its not fair to take another human being and treat them like a possession. You have to allow them the freedom to be themself and chase their dreams even if you think some of them are foolish.

here's some really wise lyrics from a grateful dead song......

a foolish heart will call on you to cast your dreams away, then turn around and blame you for the way you went astray....

I can't disagree with any of that. When you live with someone every day you tend to notice little things you didn't pick up on before. You do things that might drive your spouse crazy and vice versa - you just have to understand you're different people and let things lie if they really aren't that important. Just let it go. But the big things don't change - if they're like that now, they'll stay like that when you're married. Don't go into it thinking you can "train" someone.

I agree with allowing your spouse to chase their dreams. My wife has family ties to the Northeast and really wanted to live there after we were married. I'm a Texas guy. Born here, live here, plan on dying here. But I knew she really wanted to do it so she went to school up there for her Masters while I worked. All our family thought we were gone for good, but after a year my wife decided it wasn't for her and we came back much sooner than I had expected (I was thinking four or five years). I actually kind of liked it up there, but I wasn't going to argue about moving back. She'll sometimes say she wishes I had tried harder to keep us in Texas when we first got married, but I tell her I had to let her do it. If I had "put my foot down" most likely she'd always wished she had gone at least once. I had to at least give her the chance.

 

[the kid 05]

Just don't screw up your vows :bang2:

someones speaking from experience

dont let us know the date and location, other wise we might have a movie sequal Wedding Crashers: Cowboy Zone Version.

 

[SkinsandTerps]

I was teary eyed at my wedding last year. And I am quite a few years older than you.

Be patient and solid with what you want. You basically interview everyone that is technically working for you from music, to cake, to photos, etc, and so forth.

Although I am only a year in as far as technicalities are concerned...I have a Doctorate with the rest.

You love her and she loves you that's a good thing,
You respect her and she respects you... that is another,
You trust her and she trusts you...another,
You are honest and so is she..another,
You can talk about anything and so can she no matter how stupid,
You have the same opinions about family and raising one,
You have the same opinions about attaining personal goals,
You are sexually compatible...damn right its important.

Congrats bro. And as long as you are truthful with who you both are, you will not regret it. My wife and I still feel like a teen-aged couple most of the time.

 

[calico]

Oh you poor *******....







I kid, I kid.


Congrats man. I wish I could find a good woman who I would want to marry...God knows I am getting a little desperate now...I find myself in the same situation over and over again...I settle for women who are not good instead of waiting for someone who is honest and faithful.

Oh, and I "love" the women who claim to be cool with me watching college and pro football before we get serious only to become ball breakers during the weekends in the fall...and I am no ******, I give my woman all my attention and treat them like queens outside of those fall weekends :bang2:

 

[ROMOSAPIEN9]

I guess the only drawback is that she's an Eagles fan.

 

[trickblue]

I guess the only drawback is that she's an Eagles fan.

HOLY ...

 

[Mavs Man]

I guess the only drawback is that she's an Eagles fan.

Whoaaaaaaa - back up! What did you just say?

 

[Kevinicus]

my advice....

Get a smaller diamond. Spend the money on something useful.

No need for fancy rings.