Long Distance Relationships

[theogt]

Once. Didn't work.

 

[cowboyeric8]

I'm currently trying to get in one. Though it is only an hour (Huntsville to Houston). She is really hung up on the distance and it isn't a problem for me. We are very busy during the week and both free during the weekends so we could easily see each other. But she can't get over it. So oh well.

 

[big dog cowboy]

I did a 800 mile one for about 6 months before she moved to my little slice of heaven. A little over a year later we got married. The only downside now is I have to make that trip annually so we can spend either Thanksgiving or Christmas with the In-Laws every year.

 

[CowboyMike]

I've been in two long distance relationships. One worked. One didn't.

After high school my then girlfriend moved an hour away and we tried to keep it going. We grew apart, had trust issues, and eventually she cheated on me.

My current girlfriend and I are completely different stories. We first met down here, and were acquaintances/friends. She moved back home about 1000 miles away for family reasons, but we stayed in touch. Over text, IM, e-mail, and phone conversations, we learned a lot about each other and grew much closer. It got to the point where we decided to give a relationship a go, as we had both fallen for each other. Eventually she moved back down here and we've been happy ever since.

I honestly just think that if it is meant to be, it is meant to be. The biggest difference between the two with me was trust. If you can trust her and she trusts you, it shouldn't be a problem. Don't start thinking things up in your mind that she probably isn't doing. If you let each other live your own lives while keeping some sort of togetherness as well, it is good. Don't suffocate her with calls and texts and don't try to keep tabs on her all the time. But do talk at least once daily and try to meet up in person as often as you can.

 

[CowboyMcCoy]

From your experience, why didn't it work? I could use this as advice as well. Thanks

OK... it's tough to be away from someone and communicate like in short-distance relationship. You can't be there for each other and it's only human nature to get "lonely". Once that happens, it's usually a game of hide and seek. But that's my experience. That, and no procreating.

 

[TellerMorrow34]

It looks like, from what I've read here, that we've got some great examples of people who made it work and that's awesome.

I'll agree 100% that it's possible if the two people involved have the time and want to put forth the effort to put in the great deal of time and work it takes to make a relationship like this work. I do believe, without a doubt, it's a lot more work and effort than even a regular relationship, which are hard work to begin with.

From what I've seen personally they don't generally work out well. I've never personally been in one, and I know that I likely wouldn't even attempt one.

I'll be honest in that I'm very much into the physical part of a relationship. If I can't be around, touch, and all that stuff then my interest in the relationship, and the person, is going to fade very very quickly.

Now that's just me, that certainly doesn't apply to everyone. But from what I've seen from friends and family who've tried it the amount of work you have to put in, and the absolute 100% trust you just have to be willing to unconditionally give, is usually just far to much for most people.

It's tough to not have the person you're with around for long periods of time and then you've got friends and stuff going out and you either have to stay home alone or you go out and try to have fun but eventually you become very needy in those enviroments when everyone else is with someone.

It's a tough road my man. Best of luck to you.

 

[CowboyMcCoy]

It looks like, from what I've read here, that we've got some great examples of people who made it work and that's awesome.

I'll agree 100% that it's possible if the two people involved have the time and want to put forth the effort to put in the great deal of time and work it takes to make a relationship like this work. I do believe, without a doubt, it's a lot more work and effort than even a regular relationship, which are hard work to begin with.

From what I've seen personally they don't generally work out well. I've never personally been in one, and I know that I likely wouldn't even attempt one.

I'll be honest in that I'm very much into the physical part of a relationship. If I can't be around, touch, and all that stuff then my interest in the relationship, and the person, is going to fade very very quickly.

Now that's just me, that certainly doesn't apply to everyone. But from what I've seen from friends and family who've tried it the amount of work you have to put in, and the absolute 100% trust you just have to be willing to unconditionally give, is usually just far to much for most people.

It's tough to not have the person you're with around for long periods of time and then you've got friends and stuff going out and you either have to stay home alone or you go out and try to have fun but eventually you become very needy in those enviroments when everyone else is with someone.

It's a tough road my man. Best of luck to you.

Good post.

 

[dreghorn2]

I was in a relationship where i met a person online who lived 3600 miles from my home town -- and in a different country.

We communicated via e-mail and phone for almost a year before i met her physically for the first time -- we were married 27 days later.

That was 15 years ago, we are still married, and i have never been happier.

Life is a strange and wonderful thing.

 

[CowboyMcCoy]

I was in a relationship where i met a person online who lived 3600 miles from my home town -- and in a different country.

We communicated via e-mail and phone for almost a year before i met her physically for the first time -- we were married 27 days later.

That was 15 years ago, we are still married, and i have never been happier.

Life is a strange and wonderful thing.

Wedding photos?

 

[Staggerlee]

I once had a long distance relationship. Depending on the traffic, it took me about 25-30 minutes to get to her house.

Never again.

:laugh2:

 

[jnday]

Me and my wife are in a long distance relationship . She is back in the bedroom watching her tv . I am up front in the den watching mine . I wouldn't suggest it . Anything over 50 feet , is too much trouble . As you grow older , you will know know what I'm talking about .

 

[casmith07]

I met my wife at a Dallas Mavericks game in 2003. (she has NBA connections, and my company sponsored the Mavericks) She is from NY and obviously at the time I lived in D/FW.

We kept in touch (almost daily) and I happen to be traveling to NY once a month on business. When I went to NY she would always come see me and we would hangout or whatever.

We got closer and closer and one month I had to work in Chicago instead of NY. She flew to Chicago and we hung out. (that's when I knew it was getting serious)

Anyhow. Around Oct 2004 she said I should move to NY. I laughed and we talked about it. On December 3rd 2004 I applied for a job in NY that I thought was interesting. I got it, resigned my position in Dallas and set my last day to be New Years Eve 2004 and started my new job Monday Jan. 10th, 2005 in New York.

I married my wife on a beach on August 19th 2007 in Grand Cayman, Cayman Islands.

Can it work out? Yes it can. Though that isn't always the case.

Interestingly, Sam, the Grand Cayman idea has been floated between me and mine.

 

[CCBoy]

Interestingly, Sam, the Grand Cayman idea has been floated between me and mine.

Although I would not be able to attend, I hope that Ann and I will receive an invitation...

 

[dreghorn2]

Wedding photos?

Married by the Clark County Marriage Commissioner of Las Vegas Nevada who, following a small gratuity, will be happy to snap photos of any newly married couple that graces his office.

LOL.. yes we have a few, not to be shared here of course, i can only imagine the ridicule and scorn that would follow that post -- :

 

[CowboyMcCoy]

Married by the Clark County Marriage Commissioner of Las Vegas Nevada who, following a small gratuity, will be happy to snap photos of any newly married couple that graces his office.

LOL.. yes we have a few, not to be shared here of course, i can only imagine the ridicule and scorn that would follow that post -- :

Nah, not here bro.