BrAinPaiNt said:
First and foremost I am for the support of the troops and only want them out of harms way.
I believe that 100%, but it's because I know you BP. Albeit through the void of the Internet, but I know you. I have no reason to be skeptical of you.
Given what has happened in the past to our soldiers I feel they have every right to be skeptical of people they don't know. That's all I'm saying. I wouldn't want to hear these things if I were a soldier because it would remind me of the past and put me on guard immediately.
You put it extremely well. They "lost the point" and went too far. I can't say it any better than that. Sometimes losing the point is innocent and it can still hurt.
Let me give you an example, and I hope this makes sense. I have a friend named Jack. Jack's a Viet Nam vet. We were at a party about a year ago and someone brought up something about a Jane Fonda movie. Jack is a rather gregarious guy, but he got real quiet.
So someone asks Jack if he'd seen the movie. Jack replied that he would never watch a movie she was in. Turns out Jack was in the Hanoi Hilton. None of us knew that except his wife and daughter. He doesn't talk about it. His son-in-law, who is one of my best friend's, didn't even know.
One of our group of partiers, Laurie, is a sweet lady who wouldn't harm a fly. She is very much anti war, and similar to what you are saying she does care about our troops. Naturally people wanted to know about Nam. Laurie was no different. She asked what seemed like innocent questions, but the intent was to find out why Jack served in the first place.
It's like a light went off in my head that day. People actually think soldiers have the option of just walking away from their sworn duty with no repurcussions at all. I know Laurie's intent in asking the things she did and feeling the way she does is because at heart she is a good person. I'm not saying she would call Jack a baby killer. I know she wouldn't. But as tame and innocent as she is, her words and ideas and most of all her probing questions about why he was there hurt Jack.
The thought that wanting them home safe is the highest form of support is a great thought. In principle I agree, there is no higher thought. Not thoughts of honor or duty or praise. Those aren't higher. Sometimes our thoughts and actions don't measure up to our priciples.
I'd better stop talking about this. I worry I'll offend someone and I have no intentions of doing that.