Here's some tips for you.
1. Don't buy new clubs and do not start playing $100 courses until you are proficient at playing the game AND you know the rules AND you know the etiquette. I'm not trying to be a snob, but I really believe that those that become pretty good at the game AND love playing the game usually are brought up into the game gradually by getting a set of used clubs, learning on the driving range and learning the etiquette and playing on cheap courses until they get good enough and learn the etiquette and then start to play with new, custom fitted clubs and play great golf courses.
2. No matter what anybody says, when you miss the ball, hit it fat, hit it thin, shank it, etc....it has NOTHING to do with 'taking your eye off the ball.' Your eyes are looking at the ball even when you *think* they are not. If you hit a horrendous shot, it can be due to a multitude of things, but 'looking up' is NOT one of them. In fact, purposely trying to 'keep your head down' is more of a detriment than a positive.
3. I like what Tiger's dad told him when he was young 'swing as hard as you want to as long as you come to a balanced finish position.' Hitting the ball long is important to a degree and too many people get bogged down into 'staying down' and having a picturesque swing instead of figuring out how to swing the club with good velocity, but not too hard where they can't stay balanced. I see a ton of over-coaching going on in golfer's golf swings.
4. You will probably want to start off using a 'strong' grip (it's how the hands are oriented, not how force you use to grip the club).
5. I would advise learning how to hit chip and pitch shots early on and often because the impact positions are similar to what is needed in a full swing. There's a mental gap that beginners often don't comprehend until they use a chip swing as to what you need to do at impact.
6. On the driving range, use a full motion swing, but at a slow motion speed. The focus should be to go in slow motion, but to make sure you are doing the mechanics correctly. Get a mirror in your house if needed and check yourself there. As you get the mechanics correctly at say 10% speed, go to 25% speed and focus on the mechanics. Then move to 50%, then 75% and then 100% speed. The key here is to do the mechanics CORRECTLY. At this age, your ability to learn new movement patterns is not nearly as good as it was when you are younger. And the key is to avoid doing the mechanics incorrectly or it just makes the learning process a lot longer. And if you do this type of practice, you can start to swing without swing thoughts. Really, wish I had learned to practice this way 25 years ago.
7. If you get a lesson, makes sure the instructor understands what the D-Plane is (the correct ball flight laws). If they don't, there's too many mistakes that can be made due to faulty logic from not understanding how the ball flies.
8. When you get lessons it usually does get worse before it gets better. But, you should see better results *when* you take a 'good swing.' The part where it gets worse before it gets better is that you're going to revert to your old habits for a while before you get rid of them. But, when you take those swings where you don't revert to your old habits, the 'new swing' should produce better results. If it doesn't, find a new instructor.
9. Do NOT get a lesson every week. You should get a lesson, work on what the instructor taught you for 4-6 weeks and then go back to the instructor again if you want to.
10. With the irons, you are supposed to hit the ball FIRST and THEN take the divot.
11. Always remember Rule #2.
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