serious question i need answered (please respond)

[punit328]

Back on Monday my girlfriend and i broke up. She said she wasnt happy and she wants some time away as well as some space apart. We are still friends and we still talk and we still might get back together. I tried to do the best i can but for some reason it didnt work. I loved(and still love) this girl and still care for her. I am 22 and she is 20 but the age isnt really a big issue.


In the meantime, im taking it really hard-harder then i ever thought it would be. Im eating but not a whole lot, im lacking in the sleep department and the break up is all thats on my mind as i cant even concentrate in classes or studying and i would prefer to grieve alone.

I feel empty, lonely, upset and mad at myself and i didnt even laugh or smile the past two days. She said we could still be friends, but i fear that she will forget about me since there are only a few more months left in the semester.

I hope and pray every night that we will get back together again, but i dont have a crystal ball.So my question is can anyone please give me some advice on how to get her back? Because its been two days and i already feel empty and i dk how i would react if she didnt want to get back together.

I have even been crying and i dont usually cry unless its something big.

I know there are plenty of girls out there but im not ready to give up just yet, and i dk if i can go on without her. We even watched cowboys games together and she doesnt like the cowboys.

So if any of you have any advice then please share it, and please no mean or cruel jokes. Thank You.

 

[DFWJC]

No. You are for sure better off letting her go. You are 22. I promise and guarantee if you are strong here you'll be a better person and better off going forward...for what is 90% of your adult life.

Ann Landers (sorry)

Look for a girl next time who digs YOU and also enjoys the Cowboys!

 

[ScipioCowboy]

You're more than capable of going on without her, and I suggest you do. Although I don't know her, I venture she has no intention of ever rekindling your relationship. Let her go, and move on.

 

[bbgun]

No phone calls, emails or texts. That just screams "beta male." If it's gonna happen, she'll come back to you on her own.

 

[JohnnyHopkins]

Back on Monday my girlfriend and i broke up. She said she wasnt happy and she wants some time away as well as some space apart. We are still friends and we still talk and we still might get back together. I tried to do the best i can but for some reason it didnt work. I loved(and still love) this girl and still care for her. I am 22 and she is 20 but the age isnt really a big issue.

Sorry dude, but from what you posted I would think that your best option is to give her the space she requested for now. If she said she needs space, then crowding and trying to get her back two days later will push her further away. Respect her request and try to focus your mind on something else (that is usually a great time to work out because you can take out your aggression on the weights). She's twenty and you are twenty-two, it's not out of sorts for people to make this request in that age group.

 

[Doomsday101]

relationships are 2 way streets if she is going to move on then all you can do is the same. Not trying to make light of the situation breaking up is hard but it is part of life and you deal with it then move on.

 

[Danny White]

Better to find out now that it's not going to work out than to find out after you're married and/or have kids.

It's painful right now, but time heals all wounds and you'll find someone else.

Keep your chin up.

 

[Wimbo]

Sooooo.... what's her number?





KIDDING!!



Read what bbgun said. Dead on. I know it sucks, and remember going through something like that when I was in my 20's. It seemed unbearable. But, I kept doing the things I like to do, kept hanging out with my friends, kept going to school... just kept on. If she comes back, great. If she does not, then there is nothing you can do to make her come back (nor would you want to make her). It WILL suck. The pain WILL fade.

In my story, it is now 20 years later & I am married to a different woman, have a few kids, and love my family. I couldn't see it at the time, but the breakup ended up being a blessing for me.

 

[tomson75]

No phone calls, emails or texts. That just screams "beta male." If it's gonna happen, she'll come back to you on her own.

Although I usually wouldn't suggest following relationship advise from a virgin.....THIS. ^^^

If you get drunk, give your phone to someone else!!!

DON'T try to get her back. WORST thing you could do. If it's going to happen, she'll come back to you on her own accord....and ignoring a woman is usually the best way to get their attention. They're dumb like that.

You're very young. It might not seem like it now....I'm sure it doesn't, but this will likely be a forgotten memory in the long haul.

Go work out. Go fishing. Go get some strange. Do something other than sit around and mope. Cheer up.

 

[Khartun]

No phone calls, emails or texts. That just screams "beta male." If it's gonna happen, she'll come back to you on her own.

 

[bbgun]

Although I usually wouldn't suggest following relationship advise from a virgin.....THIS. ^^^

Me and Mr. Kittington resent that.

 

[Concord]

I've always been the type of guy who if a girl said...She said she wasn't happy and she wants some time away as well as some space apart to me...no way would I go back with her...even if she wanted to give it another shot.

There are plenty of girls out there...that will be happy with you...go for them.

You'll get over this...it doesn't fell like it now...but you'll be better for it.

 

[CATCH17]

That feeling sucks but it happens to everyone at some point.

You might as well say "screw it" now because you will eventually.

Dont become like a hermit or anything because of it.

 

[peplaw06]

No phone calls, emails or texts. That just screams "beta male." If it's gonna happen, she'll come back to you on her own.

Although I usually wouldn't suggest following relationship advise from a virgin.....THIS. ^^^

If you get drunk, give your phone to someone else!!!

DON'T try to get her back. WORST thing you could do. If it's going to happen, she'll come back to you on her own accord....and ignoring a woman is usually the best way to get their attention. They're dumb like that.

You're very young. It might not seem like it now....I'm sure it doesn't, but this will likely be a forgotten memory in the long haul.

Go work out. Go fishing. Go get some strange. Do something other than sit around and mope. Cheer up.

This can't be said enough.

Stop contacting her. Change your mindset. You don't want her back (even if you really do).

If you do that, and it's meant to be, she'll contact you. Women think you're pathetic if you keep contacting them after a breakup. It's complete reverse psychology. If you move on, they inevitably end up contacting you.

Why would you want to be all dependent on her anyway? You're barely old enough to drink. Go do that instead.

 

[ethiostar]

Sorry to hear about your heartbreak.

You both are young, those of us who are a bit older can attest that you will break someone's heart and someone will break your heart several times before you will finally settle down with someone.

Having said that, if she wants space, give her just that. Contacting her and trying to convince her will make her distance herself further. If she is still interested she will come back, that is if you haven't moved on and still want her.

Use the time to find a way to concentrate on yourself. What you're feeling will pass, I know it probably doesn't seem that way to you right now but trust me it will pass. In the meantime do what makes you happy and what is good for you. Exercise, read, hang-out with family and friends, work on a project that you've been meaning to work on, etc..... There is no need for you to stew on this obsessively. Rely on loved ones to get you through this.

Good luck and be strong.

 

[Hostile]

Here's what you do. Find a local children's hospital and go read stories to terminally ill kids for a few afternoons. Take your mind off your sadness by realizing there are tougher things in the world to deal with.

Study in the evenings. Don't party. Focus on school.

Let her be the one to call. Time and distance are to love as they are to flame. They extinguish the small, they enkindle the great. If yours truly is a great love she will come back because you have granted her the space and time she asked for. If it is a one way street, you're better learning that now than 5 years down the road with two small kids, a mortgage, and other debts.

Last of all, don't feel sorry for yourself. I know that sounds tough or cruel, but I am serious. There are worse things in life than breaking up. A couple from my church got married in June. Two weeks ago he was on his way to school and a car turned in front of his motorcycle. He wasn't speeding. He had on a helmet. He died anyway. 25 years old leaving behind a 23 year old bride who found out 3 days after his death that she is expecting their first baby.

It's a breakup, not the end of the world. We all go through them.

 

[bbgun]

Whatever you do, don't do this:

http://img707.*************/img707/7168/056johncosack300x300.jpg

 

[JohnnyHopkins]

Whatever you do, don't do this:

http://img707.*************/img707/7168/056johncosack300x300.jpg

The South Park version was sooo much better (shock da monkey!).

 

[Bob Sacamano]

Better to find out now that it's not going to work out than to find out after you're married and/or have kids.

It's painful right now, but time heals all wounds and you'll find someone else.

Keep your chin up.

I think Chief needs to make an appearance here.

 

[Faerluna]

As a woman, I can complete get behind what all these guys are saying.

(Except for that Tomson part about women being dumb like that. )

If she's saying she wants space, chances are she just wants to let you down easy without destroying you as a person or as a friend.

If its meant to be, then it will come around down the road, but don't wait for the bus that may not be stopping there again.