Ntegrase96;5083475 said:
With regard to the first part (I'm too lazy to break up quote blocks again), that's fair, but it doesn't change the fact that you, ultimately, don't care. That's not to say that you're an inherently evil or insensitive person.
You did your best to understand a logical reason why someone would be upset and you were unable to find a reason-- doesn't change the fact that that group is still upset.
It doesn't change that I don't care, but it DOES explain
why I don't. Putting my comments in context, strangely enough, is important to me lol...
It's a lot like having an unhappy girlfriend. You'll have no idea why they're upset, but they are and you just have to atone for it or admit that you couldn't care less because "whatever, she's just being dumb."
I'm pretty sure those aren't the only two options lol..."Either say you're sorry or say she's being stupid."
I don't have to do either. I could also just let her be upset with the belief that eventually the truth will solve everything. She could actually have an incredibly valid reason for feeling like she does, but doesn't realize she's not voicing it (I have found women tend to do that, actually lol...they
think they're telling you something when they really aren't). It could be that she misunderstood or perceived my words/actions completely wrong and is letting her emotions dictate reality.
I can't control what other people think or feel. So as long as I know I didn't do anything wrong there's no need to atone for anything and there's no need to sweep "her" and her feelings under the rug as irrelevant or "dumb". Just keep on going about my day/week/life and let her deal with what's really bothering her.
Now...if she takes me to COURT over these unexplained and confusing things bothering her, that's a whole different story lol...
For the second part... somewhat closely related to the first part. Someone who is upset is typically a bit irrational. Usually their claims and demands are a bit irrational.
Like the example girlfriend, I think that the NA community has the right to complain if they feel that they're offended, regardless of reason or lack thereof since they are in fact the subject at hand.
Whether or not higher authorities should rule in there favor is another story.
I've no problem with complaining. I do have problems with spreading false information as fact and seeing those "facts" be treated like carved-in-stone truths. I also have a huge problem when seeing someone trying to point out the inaccuracies being immediately dismissed as "blind follower" or "racist" or "unenlightened" or any other terms. I equally have a problem with people who won't let
facts sway them in their beliefs one way or another. The whole "I don't care about facts, all I know is..." mentality is incredibly frustrating to see people take on any issue.