What Move To Make?

[HogsRLegends]

I teach and am wanting to ask a parent out...not of one of my students, but a parent of a team I coach. I know she is divorced and her kid is 10 years old. I'd like to invite her to a dinner at a friends I was invited to...but how can I extend the invitation to her and have her not think I want more then friendship? At this point I want to learn more about her but the only way to do so is to see her in a different type environment. I don't want to make things awkward or difficult for her kid but I feel like I will regret it if I don't at least try. What approach would you use here?

 

[Kevinicus]

So you want to ask her out (more than friendship) and you want to know how you could ask her out without her thinking you want more than friendship? Is this right?

 

[vta]

I teach and am wanting to ask a parent out...not of one of my students, but a parent of a team I coach. I know she is divorced and her kid is 10 years old. I'd like to invite her to a dinner at a friends I was invited to...but how can I extend the invitation to her and have her not think I want more then friendship? At this point I want to learn more about her but the only way to do so is to see her in a different type environment. I don't want to make things awkward or difficult for her kid but I feel like I will regret it if I don't at least try. What approach would you use here?

Just do it.
If you regularly talk to her casually, just put into the conversation. You're having dinner at so and so's would she like to come...?

If not and you intend to call her, which isn't something you normally don't do, then so be it. Don't worry about how she interprets it, you can't control everybody's thoughts. Besides you're inviting her to something that includes other people and won't be seen as intimate.

 

[big dog cowboy]

how can I extend the invitation to her and have her not think I want more then friendship? At this point I want to learn more about her but the only way to do so is to see her in a different type environment.

Hey I was invited to dinner at a friends of mine next ______. I can bring a guest and thought that if you were interested in going with me it would be a great chance to get to know each other a little better. You seem like an interesting person and I would like a chance to become better friends. I could pick you up around ____ and have you back home in ___ hours or so. Does that sound good to you.

Just remember to breathe.

 

[Tusan_Homichi]

Just remember to breathe.

No kidding. And not talking too fast is a good thing. That tends to happen when one forgets to breathe.

 

[ethiostar]

I would start out with "Do you eat?" to which the answer is always "yes".

I would follow that with "You wanna do it together?"

Just kidding, what vta and big dog cowboy suggested sounds pretty good.

 

[bbgun]

Chloroform and a rag outta do it.

 

[vta]

Chloroform and a rag outta do it.

I knew you wouldn't let me down.

 

[ajk23az]

This might be a first. A Commanders fan asking Cowboys fans for dating advice
Just playin' with ya Hogs..

 

[CowboyWay]

Hogs..... How well do you know her? If you have had several encounters with her, I would just mention it casually. Or wait until she says something, anything, like I like coffee, I like this actor, etc etc. Then its your time to pounce....

"Hey, speaking of that, they just opened up a new coffee shop, lets go check it out".
or
"Hey, XYZ actor, is in that new movie, I've been wanting to see, you want to come with me".....etc

 

[HoleInTheRoof]

Next time she picks her kid up, just tell her you love her.

Who knows... she might feel the same way.

 

[CATCH17]

You should be like I want to take you to a dinner party. Then moments later say I think we should just be friends.

It seems like you already want to break up before you even get this show on the road.

Its like Dan Snyders/Al Davis's relationship with Head Coach up in here.

 

[ologan]

This might be a first. A Commanders fan asking Cowboys fans for dating advice
Just playin' with ya Hogs..

Hogs is really a pretty smart guy,knowing not to throw this question out in the cesspool that is Extremeskins....Next thing you know,Art would be trying to find out where she lives to try to tap it himself (Providing 'Art' is a guy).

 

[Hostile]

I teach and am wanting to ask a parent out...not of one of my students, but a parent of a team I coach. I know she is divorced and her kid is 10 years old. I'd like to invite her to a dinner at a friends I was invited to...but how can I extend the invitation to her and have her not think I want more then friendship? At this point I want to learn more about her but the only way to do so is to see her in a different type environment. I don't want to make things awkward or difficult for her kid but I feel like I will regret it if I don't at least try. What approach would you use here?

Honesty.

Say you were invited to a friend's for dinner and can invite a guest and wanted to ask someone you consider a friend you could be comfortable with.

No pressure on her that way, and you've been honest. If it leads to more because you hit it off, that's a bonus. If not, you've lost nothing and had a good meal.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

Dress up as a Hoggett and tell her you want her to go out for a girls day of shopping.

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

I teach and am wanting to ask a parent out...not of one of my students, but a parent of a team I coach. I know she is divorced and her kid is 10 years old. I'd like to invite her to a dinner at a friends I was invited to...but how can I extend the invitation to her and have her not think I want more then friendship? At this point I want to learn more about her but the only way to do so is to see her in a different type environment. I don't want to make things awkward or difficult for her kid but I feel like I will regret it if I don't at least try. What approach would you use here?

I need to know what the interaction with her is like.. currently?

She:

• friendy and playful?
• inviting smile?
• small talk and not showing much emotion?
• conversation is short(short answers)?
• looks interested or disinterested?

That will tell alot as to what approach to take.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

I need to know what the interaction with her is like.. currently?

She:

• friendy and playful?
• inviting smile?
• small talk and not showing much emotion?
• conversation is short(short answers)?
• looks interested or disinterested?

That will tell alot as to what approach to take.

It is probably him staring out her with lust in his eyes and drool on his chin.

J/K

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

It is probably him staring out her with lust in his eyes and drool on his chin.

J/K

Yeah... that hasnt worked for me yet... draws weird looks and fingerpointing.... :laugh2:

 

[HogsRLegends]

Honesty.

Say you were invited to a friend's for dinner and can invite a guest and wanted to ask someone you consider a friend you could be comfortable with.

No pressure on her that way, and you've been honest. If it leads to more because you hit it off, that's a bonus. If not, you've lost nothing and had a good meal.

I've been tempted to e-mail and ask because she's on a group e-mail list and I've written a recommendation for her kid for private school...but as much as I am tempted to do so, e-mail would be the ***** way of asking wouldn't it?

Damn, I'm not used to these kind of things when sober...but I'm determined not to make dating decisions when drunk, not anymore.

 

[HogsRLegends]

I need to know what the interaction with her is like.. currently?

She:

• friendy and playful?
• inviting smile?
• small talk and not showing much emotion?
• conversation is short(short answers)?
• looks interested or disinterested?

That will tell alot as to what approach to take.

Well she's about 5'8, dark brown hair, good figure and complexion. She smiles frequently and is congenial...but that could just be because she's polite, educated and sophisticated. She did get me a Mike Sellers jersey (along with some other parents) for Xmas. Its tough to find a time to really talk as I only really see her at the end of practice when she's picking her kid up, and other parents are around...

So the best way I'd describe her is