What Move To Make?

[HoleInTheRoof]

I've been tempted to e-mail and ask because she's on a group e-mail list and I've written a recommendation for her kid for private school...but as much as I am tempted to do so, e-mail would be the ***** way of asking wouldn't it?

Damn, I'm not used to these kind of things when sober...but I'm determined not to make dating decisions when drunk, not anymore.

Most girls find being asked out on an Email to be very romantic.

Especially when you attach naked pictures.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

I've been tempted to e-mail and ask because she's on a group e-mail list and I've written a recommendation for her kid for private school...but as much as I am tempted to do so, e-mail would be the ***** way of asking wouldn't it?

Damn, I'm not used to these kind of things when sober...but I'm determined not to make dating decisions when drunk, not anymore.

I am not mocking you or making fun now...but how old are you?

I mean it seems you are acting all giddy and scared like a high school kid asking out a cheerleader or something.

Either ask her out in person or find someone that is close to her to see if they would float the idea to her to get an interest level she may or may not have.


Other than that, you could leave a note in her locker at school with secret admirer on it.

I would think you are too old to play silly games. The worst she can do is say she is not interested. I doubt she is going to kick you in the groin (the family jewels) and call you a name in front of all of your friends (taken from weird science).

If you like her and have interest in her...man up and ask her out...again the worse she can do is say no she is not interested.

 

[HogsRLegends]

Dress up as a Hoggett and tell her you want her to go out for a girls day of shopping.

lol maybe I should...she does know I'm a diehard Skins fan

 

[HoleInTheRoof]

Well she's about 5'8, dark brown hair, good figure and complexion. She smiles frequently and is congenial...but that could just be because she's polite, educated and sophisticated. She did get me a Mike Sellers jersey (along with some other parents) for Xmas. Its tough to find a time to really talk as I only really see her at the end of practice when she's picking her kid up, and other parents are around...

So the best way I'd describe her is

Simple, when she comes to pick her kid up one day, tell her you need to talk. Have said kid sitting to the side on the bench with a disheartened look on his face.

Then, tell her that her son isn't going to make the team... unless she agrees to go out with you.

That way, she can be romantical to you as well as being her sons hero.

 

[HogsRLegends]

I am not mocking you or making fun now...but how old are you?

I mean it seems you are acting all giddy and scared like a high school kid asking out a cheerleader or something.

Either ask her out in person or find someone that is close to her to see if they would float the idea to her to get an interest level she may or may not have.


Other than that, you could leave a note in her locker at school with secret admirer on it.

I would think you are too old to play silly games. The worst she can do is say she is not interested. I doubt she is going to kick you in the groin (the family jewels) and call you a name in front of all of your friends (taken from weird science).

If you like her and have interest in her...man up and ask her out...again the worse she can do is say no she is not interested.

30. I'm not scared of asking her out but its one of those deals where all the other parents will find out and it will be public knowledge one way or the other. That's my reservation.

When I'm not drunk (and I haven't been for a long time) I'm a good hard-working person. I just tend to consume myself in work and coaching and the club scene gets old after a while.

 

[Hostile]

I've been tempted to e-mail and ask because she's on a group e-mail list and I've written a recommendation for her kid for private school...but as much as I am tempted to do so, e-mail would be the ***** way of asking wouldn't it?

Damn, I'm not used to these kind of things when sober...but I'm determined not to make dating decisions when drunk, not anymore.

Face 2 face.

 

[HogsRLegends]

Face 2 face.

That's what I thought. BTW you have to see Gran Torino. I think it would be your kind of movie. It was one bright spot this weekend. Watching the playoffs is still fun but there is also some pain, seeing the two teams in the NFC Championship game are ones we went 3-0 against. Coulda, shudda, wudda...

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

30. I'm not scared of asking her out but its one of those deals where all the other parents will find out and it will be public knowledge one way or the other. That's my reservation.

When I'm not drunk (and I haven't been for a long time) I'm a good hard-working person. I just tend to consume myself in work and coaching and the club scene gets old after a while.

Dude who cares if they find out? Seriously. As far as it seems you are not some perverted stalker trying to prey on the weak. You are a single adult, she is a single adult and if the other people find out so what.

As long as you are respectful to her when asking, as long as you are doing a good job coaching and are not some kind of perv...than it is none of their business if you ask some lady out who is single.

If you worry so much about what the other parents will say or think than don't even bother. If you like this women than ask her out if you worry about what others will think more than the idea of taking the chance of asking her out....maybe you don't deserve to go out with her.

Not being mean but you can't let what others may or may not think about you get in the way when you are just doing something as innocent as asking someone out that you would like to get to know a little better. I mean it would be different if you asked her out to a swingers convention or something over the line but I would hazard to guess you just want to ask her out to dinner so you can get to know her a little better.

 

[HogsRLegends]

Dude who cares if they find out? Seriously. As far as it seems you are not some perverted stalker trying to prey on the weak. You are a single adult, she is a single adult and if the other people find out so what.

As long as you are respectful to her when asking, as long as you are doing a good job coaching and are not some kind of perv...than it is none of their business if you ask some lady out who is single.

If you worry so much about what the other parents will say or think than don't even bother. If you like this women than ask her out if you worry about what others will think more than the idea of taking the chance of asking her out....maybe you don't deserve to go out with her.

Not being mean but you can't let what others may or may not think about you get in the way when you are just doing something as innocent as asking someone out that you would like to get to know a little better. I mean it would be different if you asked her out to a swingers convention or something over the line but I would hazard to guess you just want to ask her out to dinner so you can get to know her a little better.

You're right. I have a tendancy to worry about things that really don't matter that much in the big picture.

 

[CowboyWay]

Face 2 face.

No doubt. Don't do it via email.

 

[JohnnyHopkins]

I teach and am wanting to ask a parent out...not of one of my students, but a parent of a team I coach. I know she is divorced and her kid is 10 years old. I'd like to invite her to a dinner at a friends I was invited to...but how can I extend the invitation to her and have her not think I want more then friendship? At this point I want to learn more about her but the only way to do so is to see her in a different type environment. I don't want to make things awkward or difficult for her kid but I feel like I will regret it if I don't at least try. What approach would you use here?

I haven't been in the game for the last twelve years, but it seems to me that you could simply tell her that your invitees suggested you bring a friend along with you and your invitees/said situation (whatever it may be) made you instantly think she would be the perfect friend to bring along.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

You're right. I have a tendancy to worry about things that really don't matter that much in the big picture.

Thing is I think you would hate yourself if you did not ask her out just because you were worried about what others might think. Again it is just asking someone out.

Would hate to think that she might be Miss Right and you let her go.

 

[Cajuncowboy]

If you are asking for help regarding dating on an internet forum, you are in deep trouble.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

If you are asking for help regarding dating on an internet forum, you are in deep trouble.

:laugh2: :laugh2:

 

[Cajuncowboy]

:laugh2: :laugh2:

PLus he's a skins fan and doing it on a Cowboys board.

Geez.............

 

[Hostile]

Gonna agree that you shouldn't care what others think when they find out.

Find out what?

That you had dinner at a friends? Ooh the scandal.

That 2 single people might actually have an interest in each other? 20 bucks says some of them have already discussed how to get the 2 of you together and would be thrilled.

 

[CowboyWay]

Not to sound like a jerk or anything, but most divorced or single woman with kids probably would jump at the chance that anyone asks them out (even a skins fan), just because there are alot of guys who won't do it, and the fact that they probably don't get out too often since they have kids.

My bet is she jumps at the chance to go out with you. You're single, she's single, you're obviously a pretty good guy since you are a coach. It shows you like kids. Her kid already knows you, so thats a plus.

Plus if she's smart, she knows that if she doesn't go out with you, you'll let her kid ride the pine the rest of the season.

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

Just go rent the Mighty Ducks movie. :laugh2:

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

Well she's about 5'8, dark brown hair, good figure and complexion. She smiles frequently and is congenial...but that could just be because she's polite, educated and sophisticated. She did get me a Mike Sellers jersey (along with some other parents) for Xmas. Its tough to find a time to really talk as I only really see her at the end of practice when she's picking her kid up, and other parents are around...

So the best way I'd describe her is

My approach(which really isnt an approach) its just the way I am is....

Let them know that you really want to get to know them... without moving too fast.... THEN back that up by holding true to it. No pressure, no expectations.

I have always found that my best relationships came about that way. Things are better on ALL levels with THAT approach.



Now the actual "asking" = If you really like her and your intentions are true - then ask via the kid. Ask here if its ok to take her kid somewhere with your kid and maybe invite her along or promise to look after kid and deliver back to her.

OR

just tell her next time you see her - "I want to see you" and she will ask what do you mean.... you reply, "somewhere other than just here"

(this actually worked for me one time and it wasnt premeditated - I just said "I want to see you" (to someone that I had know in passing for about 2 year) and she replied "you do?"(in a way that was - I feel the same way about you) but I didnt know that then.

To this day... she was my GREATEST complete love.

Most girls find being asked out on an Email to be very romantic.

Especially when you attach naked pictures.

LMAO
tsk tsk

 

[CATCH17]

Prediction.

The dude will get turned down because she has no one to baby sit.