One of my best friends is dying and I'm a mess

Crazed Liotta Eyes

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I guess all of my posts lately are sad but today has opened my eyes. One of my best friends ever just got diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. It's in his lungs and his bones so he is obviously not going to make it. He was actually one of my older brother's best friends but he lived next door and what just a protector of me. Always treated me with respect and was probably the best person I've ever known. I don't even know the point of my post but you guys have a way of making me feel better about the **** that comes our way. Sorry if this is out of line.
 

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I'm so sorry to hear that, Crazed. Don't run from your friend. Be there for him. I'm sure he needs you now as he's probably overwhelmed. We're here for you as well. Just let us know. Our hearts and ears are open to you in CZ.
 

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I guess all of my posts lately are sad but today has opened my eyes. One of my best friends ever just got diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. It's in his lungs and his bones so he is obviously not going to make it. He was actually one of my older brother's best friends but he lived next door and what just a protector of me. Always treated me with respect and was probably the best person I've ever known. I don't even know the point of my post but you guys have a way of making me feel better about the **** that comes our way. Sorry if this is out of line.

sorry to hear buddy
Unfortunately sometimes bad things happen to good people
Hopefully you can find peace in helping him the way he helped you
 

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I guess all of my posts lately are sad but today has opened my eyes. One of my best friends ever just got diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. It's in his lungs and his bones so he is obviously not going to make it. He was actually one of my older brother's best friends but he lived next door and what just a protector of me. Always treated me with respect and was probably the best person I've ever known. I don't even know the point of my post but you guys have a way of making me feel better about the **** that comes our way. Sorry if this is out of line.
Keep your head up and think about how he'd want you to act and feel. Remember him for the good dude that he was and remember the good times.
 

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That's a good point about how he'd want you to act and feel.

Make sure he knows it's affecting you, but try not to make him more down than he is.
Years ago, a friend of a friend was dying from cancer. Got invited to something where she was. I was told unequivocally by the gal w/ cancer that she wanted me to be my usual clown self and make her laugh.

Mostly, the people in dire straits don't want you to be down and solemn.

I feel for you, Ray, turn to us, we'll always be here for what you need.
 

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Well, this is a "time on earth" thing Liotta. If you are lucky enough to last a few turns around this old Sun, you get to this point. You lose somebody that you don't want to or don't deserve to. It's the unfortunate part of life I guess.

I'm sorry Brother.
 

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Bro, you handle it the way YOU need to, never have to apologize for that. This is your grief and we are here if you need a sounding board. Cancer is a B.... Cherish the time you have left and carry those memories with you.

Sending positive energy your way.

I Just want to send you an article on Keanu Reeves about dying and his perspective.


https://www.___GET_REAL_URL___/s/ww...fe-and-death-is-an-inspiration-to-us-all/amp/
 

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I have watched someone close die from lung cancer, it isn’t pretty. If your friend can still get out and about, ask him to make a local bucket list and try to knock a few out. That is what we did with my best friends mom and she loved it and took her mind off things.
 

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Sorry to hear that. Losing the people we care about is so painful. We are with you.
sorry to hear buddy
Unfortunately sometimes bad things happen to good people
Hopefully you can find peace in helping him the way he helped you
Thanks you. I'm still trying to process it and trying to understand how he feels right now.
 

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Years ago, a friend of a friend was dying from cancer. Got invited to something where she was. I was told unequivocally by the gal w/ cancer that she wanted me to be my usual clown self and make her laugh.

Mostly, the people in dire straits don't want you to be down and solemn.

I feel for you, Ray, turn to us, we'll always be here for what you need.
Great advice man. You guys and I mean all of you are truly amazing. I'm not into the bickering about the team but when I ask for help, you are all there. I truly appreciate it.
 

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QUOTE="Tabascocat, post: 10347503, member: 29473"]I have watched someone close die from lung cancer, it isn’t pretty. If your friend can still get out and about, ask him to make a local bucket list and try to knock a few out. That is what we did with my best friends mom and she loved it and took her mind off things.[/QUOTE]
One cool thing about him is he's been doing that for years to the point that I'm jealous I'm going to ask if he has a few left on his list. I appreciate the comment man. I really do.
 

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QUOTE="Tabascocat, post: 10347503, member: 29473"]I have watched someone close die from lung cancer, it isn’t pretty. If your friend can still get out and about, ask him to make a local bucket list and try to knock a few out. That is what we did with my best friends mom and she loved it and took her mind off things.
One cool thing about him is he's been doing that for years to the point that I'm jealous I'm going to ask if he has a few left on his list. I appreciate the comment man. I really do.[/QUOTE]
I messed up the quote somehow. Been drinking all day so not surprised. Sorry man.
 
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