NorthTexan95;4630728 said:
I don't quite understand the uproar to my original post. I think y'all might be misunderstanding my point.
The girl outted the two kids because she feels her life is ruined. Is her life ruined? Of course not. She can still go on to accomplish all her dreams ... school, career, and a family.
My originally post was a reply to RoyTheHammer who posted "Her life was ruined". Hopefully her family and friends provide her with better advice.
When I posted "Hopefully, she quickly gets past this quickly" maybe the real misunderstood statement I made. I never meant she needs to "get over it". I just meant she needs to get past thinking her life his ruined, the sooner the better. Continuing to think that could only lead to a downward cycle.
Still not getting it, but trying at least... I think. Your first post came across as totally insensitive, IMO.
All of what you wrote — now in both posts — is monumentally easier said than done, no matter how well intentioned your comments were meant to be.
Her life has been forever negatively affected/altered, at the very least... so also ruined to a very great degree, certainly. The downward cycle you want her to avoid is not something so easily overcome or dealt with. She suffered the physically repulsive act of rape which will cause dark thinking and scarred emotional feelings, and are the combined fight she has to face for a very, very long time to come... if not for the remainder of her life.
I'd agree with what RTH said, here... still wishing her the very best possible recovery as she battles to overcome the often debilitating effects of the horrific crime committed against her.