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Shunpike;5046916 said:Thanks bounce.
Just an update
It is Friday night and normally this is my drinking night. I buy some appetizers on my way home, put the kids to sleep and drink 4-5 beers before I go to sleep.
Apparently I am craving beer. I am thinking about how I can fill the void. My Friday nights are mostly enjoying beer with appetizers and watching movie with my wife.
So what I am thinking now is if I am craving beer, I probably am on my way to becoming an alcoholic. Thank God my wife intervened on time and made me think about it. And thanks to all of you who commented about this topic.
One more time, much appreciated.
Shunpike;5046916 said:Thanks bounce.
Just an update
It is Friday night and normally this is my drinking night. I buy some appetizers on my way home, put the kids to sleep and drink 4-5 beers before I go to sleep.
Apparently I am craving beer. I am thinking about how I can fill the void. My Friday nights are mostly enjoying beer with appetizers and watching movie with my wife.
So what I am thinking now is if I am craving beer, I probably am on my way to becoming an alcoholic. Thank God my wife intervened on time and made me think about it. And thanks to all of you who commented about this topic.
One more time, much appreciated.
goshan;5047002 said:Man you guys need to lighten up. 15 total drinks a week (3 days a week) and more than half you guys are telling the guy he should enroll in AA.
Yeah you may crave a beer because it relaxes you and its something you look forward to.
FROM WIKIPEDIA:
Alcoholism is a broad term for problems with alcohol, and is generally used to mean compulsive and uncontrolled consumption of alcoholic beverages, usually to the detriment of the drinker's health, personal relationships, and social standing.
Are you exhibiting uncontrolled consumption? And dude, go back an ask your wife why she thinks you are becoming an alcoholic. Are you getting belligerent? Is it changing your personality? Are you slacking off? That is the key question to ask.
If you can't pinpoint a problem or definitive change (for the negative) it has created in your life, then you are probably ok. Its all about maintaining control...15 beers a week is not that much quantity.
muck4doo;5047038 said:It's not matter of how many you have, or how often. It's a matter of is it causing problems or not.
goshan;5047002 said:Are you exhibiting uncontrolled consumption? And dude, go back an ask your wife why she thinks you are becoming an alcoholic. Are you getting belligerent? Is it changing your personality? Are you slacking off? That is the key question to ask.
muck4doo;5047038 said:It's not matter of how many you have, or how often. It's a matter of is it causing problems or not.
jobberone;5046945 said:A last piece of advice. Get into AA as soon as possible and invite the wife to Alanon.
jobberone;5047066 said:That's not the main point. You are or are not an alcoholic. Going to AA not only gets you rolling towards not drinking but if you have a problem that's causing the drinking then you'll probably find it eventually. You'll have support and you'll be surrounded by people like yourself and people who know for sure they are alcoholics and have the experience to help you no matter what but especially if you're an alcoholic. There are many people who join AA and find out they aren't alcoholics. Working a 12 step program is not a bad thing whether you are or aren't an alcoholic as well. But you're the one who needs to make that decision. I wish you nothing but the best.
Shunpike;5047070 said:Thanks my friend. I wasn't very knowledgable about AA but from what you are saying it will definitely help me. I will try to find more about AA and act accordingly
jobberone;5046945 said:A last piece of advice. Get into AA as soon as possible and invite the wife to Alanon.
rynochop;5047344 said:Really, AA for someone that likes a few beers on the weekend? He's the definition of a social drinker. If the wife doesn't like it then that's between you and her. But certainly no alcoholic, by definition. I have a family member that can and will eat a half gallon of ice cream in one sitting and is morbidly obese, but anyone that drinks a few beers has a huge problem.
I also know people that have gone to AA just for attention.
Muhast;5047105 said:Strongly agree. Goto 1 meeting. Just tell yourself "Ya know what, I'm going to invest an hour and a half into this". Goto the meeting, listen to some of the stories. You may go and feel like you don't belong there, and you don't need it because your not "like them", but I'm willing to bet when you walk out the door you will find you have a lot more in common with a lot of them. You'll see teachers,managers,executives,parents,grandparents,soccer moms and all different groups of people that either have a problem, are starting to get there, or supporting a family member.
I got a DUI when I first turned 21. I was pulled over after having 3 beers, and blew right at the limit but still got a DUI. I felt like I was being punished for something that wasn't even that bad etc. I was ordered to probation and attending AA meetings, but it actually changed my life. At first i felt like I wasn't that bad, and that the other people had a problem, not me. And that I could control it. I considered myself a social drinker, and while I didn't drink daily, when I did drink, it was binge drinking. After going to the first few meetings and getting the stigma of being at alnon out of my head, I started to actually hear what the people were saying. I heard about the things that transpired in their lives and how it affected everyone that they knew and it just finally sunk in. I was being reckless(drinking more than I should in a single outing. Feeling like I could drive when I obviously shouldnt) thinking I was just being a normal college kid, but whether I was naive or thought I was invincible, it just never sunk in how much damage I could potentially do to myself or others. I changed my life after that, got rid of bad influences, matured, took responsibility for my action. I went to more than I was ordered to, and learned from it. I have talked to, and helped several of my friends with the same issues now. My life has done a complete 180 since then. I am so much happier now than I ever was before, and I am at peace now. Those people really helped me, and I think it would be worth at least going to 1.
That was my lesson from it, you may go and learn something completely different, but it really did change my life. Best wishes to you, and good for you for heeding your wifes word!
Shunpike;5045404 said:I was a non drinker up until 2004. Started drinking a few beers every other week.
Now I am drinking around 12-14 beers weekly.
I don't drink everyday. I mostly drink on Friday's and Saturday's and on Sunday's during football season. I don't drink more than 5 beers at a time and my weekly consumption is always below 15 beers a week.
My wife thinks I am becoming an alcoholic.
What is your take on this issue?