College

[Dawgs0916]

WG, thats exactly the point I have been trying to make. Its one thing of him being gay, its a whole separate thing altogether for us to have nothing in common.

 

[AbeBeta]

Abe, I respect you trying to get the guy to broaden his horizons, but if they really don't have anything in common, gay or not, the guy can't/won't be his wingman. They won't like each other enough to hang out with one another.

It's one thing to engage a friendship with someone you don't have much in common with, it's another when you don't have anything in common. There's gotta be a foundation of sorts for their "relationship" to go any further. Right now, there doesn't seem to be.

I'm sure through the course of the semester, they may have a conversation to really gauge what they have in common, but if I'm him, I'm not forcing the issue. I'd rather hang w/the people who I have a little bit in common with. establish a group of buddies, and then expand upon that.

And the point I was trying to make was not to be so quick to jump to the conclusion that they have nothing in common. In fact, at most universities there is a considerable effort made to place roommates together based on common interests rather than randomly. So it is very likely that they do match on several dimension indicated on their application and housing forms.

 

[WoodysGirl]

And the point I was trying to make was not to be so quick to jump to the conclusion that they have nothing in common. In fact, at most universities there is a considerable effort made to place roommates together based on common interests rather than randomly. So it is very likely that they do match on several dimension indicated on their application and housing forms.

First impressions are a mother, tho. They may find out in the future they have things in common, but based on his impressions of their initial meeting they don't. I also don't think he's suggesting that they won't...in the future. He's just saying that, right now, he'd rather spend time with people who has a little bit more in common with him than this guy and won't make his transition into college life a chore.

So leave the guy alone and let him figure it out on his own. I doubt he's that close-minded to meeting new people and engaging in new experiences. Otherwise, he wouldn't be in college hundreds of miles away from home...or posting on the Zone.

 

[AbeBeta]

First impressions are a mother, tho. They may find out in the future they have things in common, but based on his impressions of their initial meeting they don't. I also don't think he's suggesting that they won't...in the future. He's just saying that, right now, he'd rather spend time with people who has a little bit more in common with him than this guy and won't make his transition into college life a chore.

So leave the guy alone and let him figure it out on his own. I doubt he's that close-minded to meeting new people and engaging in new experiences. Otherwise, he wouldn't be in college hundreds of miles away from home...or posting on the Zone.

i wasn't hassling the guy - if you look at many of my posts, I'm trying to portray the advantages that his roommate might offer him. Why post if you don't want to hear what others have to say about the issue?

 

[WoodysGirl]

i wasn't hassling the guy - if you look at many of my posts, I'm trying to portray the advantages that his roommate might offer him. Why post if you don't want to hear what others have to say about the issue?

Goodness, I didn't think you were hassling him. I thought you took a minor rant about being roomed up with a Texan fan a bit too seriously, but I don't think you were harassing the kid.

The disadvantages of messageboards is that you can't see the person's expression on the other side of the keyboard. I'd hoped the smiley would indicate that I was teasing about leaving him alone.

Intellectually, I get the fact that you want him to keep his mind open to what he's about to see and experience at Tech. However, some things just aren't as deep as we adults like to make them out to be.

It wasn't that long ago that I was a new student in an unfamiliar city, at an unfamiliar school, where I all wanted was just wanted somebody I could relate to. That's all his OP was about...not about anything else.

 

[Hoofbite]

If he liked sports, or had any similiar interests, most definitely. Guess I made a mistake saying the gay thing. Sorry if you guys are uncomfortable or paranoid of someone being homophobic (which im not).

I guess its a crime to want a roomate with stuff in common or at least open to trying stuff.

Hes probably thinking the same thing about you.