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Anyone else suffering? I am recently diagnosed as suffering from depression... a little back ground that has led to my depression...in the last 5 years, my brother passed away, 49, and my mother passed away after breaking her hip, and then last night I fell a sleep on the couch and when I woke my wife had left me...just to much loss, very, very tough dealing...thanks for reading.
 
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That’s awfully tough, lukin.

I’ve dealt with grief on several occasions, but never piled up like that. Do you have access to counseling? It sounds like you’ve probably got medical options covered, right?
 
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lukin2006 said:
Im in counselling...I’m overwhemled
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It’s tough when It’s a mix of chemical and life being ****.

Excercise endorphins help a lot with staving off grief. Believe it or not, cheesey science fiction books help me. Anything to keep the mind from drifting back to the same old depressing thoughts. Talking to people helps.

Do you have support around you? Friends or extended family?
 
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I'm sorry you are dealing with all this seemingly one after another. You have to grieve because it's part of Life, but definitely try to surround yourself with friends and family. I know that I get depressed easily and it's hard for me to deal with loss and stress. It's not easy for anyone. But it does get better, it has to you know.
 
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Very sorry to hear you are going through such sadness. Stay as busy as you can. Surround yourself with friends and if you can, exercise. It truly works. I wish you the best moving forward, sincerely.
 
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Idgit said:
It’s tough when It’s a mix of chemical
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I'm sorry you are dealing with all this seemingly one after another. You have to grieve because it's part of Life, but definitely try to surround yourself with friends and family. I know that I get depressed easily and it's hard for me to deal with loss and stress. It's not easy for anyone. But it does get better, it has to you know.
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Thank you the positive comment
 
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yimyammer said:
Sorry to hear about the suffering you're going through, I want to reiterate the use of exercise, its the only thing that's ever helped with my depression and for me it did wonders almost immediately.
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My therapist has also said the same ...

I like to take my dog to the dog park ...

It’s hard doing that, we are in the mist of extremely cold weather.
 
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lukin2006 said:
My therapist has also said the same ...

I like to take my dog to the dog park ...

It’s hard doing that, we are in the mist of extremely cold weather.
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I hear ya, you gotta figure out what works for you. I joined a gym and what I slowly realized is the hardest thing about working out is simply taking the first step toward the gym. Once I started moving in that direction, I was basically already there, turned on a good podcast and did my routine.

I hired a trainer for a year as a way of committing myself to going. Because I'm a tight *** and knowing I had stroked a big check made me never want to miss. I'm not saying do as I do, just try to creatively use your unique character traits to your advantage---> another one I use is to not keep candies/sweets in the house because I know I'm too lazy to go get them when the urge hits me but if they're within reach, I'm in deep pucky!
 
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yimyammer said:
I hear ya, you gotta figure out what works for you. I joined a gym and what I slowly realized is the hardest thing about working out is simply taking the first step toward the gym. Once I started moving in that direction, I was basically already there, turned on a good podcast and did my routine.

I hired a trainer for a year as a way of committing myself to going. Because I'm a tight *** and knowing I had stroked a big check made me never want to miss. I'm not saying do as I do, just try to creatively use your unique character traits to your advantage---> another one I use is to not keep candies/sweets in the house because I know I'm too lazy to go get them when the urge hits me but if they're within reach, I'm in deep pucky!
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Thanks for your suggestions ...

The gym sounds like a good step ...
 
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I'm so very sorry lukin to hear of the many losses you're experiencing. Life can throw some serious curve balls at you and it tries your resolve. I think being depressed is a normal reaction but please realize life continues and things do improve. You will look back three, six and twelve months from now and see how far you've come where your lowest times seem like a lifetime ago.

I've been there including being significantly impacted by the Sandy hurricane, went through a divorce with a young child and lost my father in a 6 month period. You need to look within yourself, stay strong and know things do improve.

There are many good suggestions here from your CZ friends. If you're finding it hard to connect with others during this time, another avenue I might suggest is this website https://www.meetup.com/. You would not believe the many groups of people with like interests out there and it is a great outlet to meet new local folks and do things together that you enjoy. Just a suggestion and is a great way to keep busy........
 
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JackOfNoTrades said:
I'm so very sorry lukin to hear of the many losses you're experiencing. Life can throw some serious curve balls at you and it tries your resolve. I think being depressed is a normal reaction but please realize life continues and things do improve. You will look back three, six and twelve months from now and see how far you've come where your lowest times seem like a lifetime ago.

I've been there including being significantly impacted by the Sandy hurricane, went through a divorce with a young child and lost my father in a 6 month period. You need to look within yourself, stay strong and know things do improve.

There are many good suggestions here from your CZ friends. If you're finding it hard to connect with others during this time, another avenue I might suggest is this website https://www.meetup.com/. You would not believe the many groups of people with like interests out there and it is a great outlet to meet new local folks and do things together that you enjoy. Just a suggestion and is a great way to keep busy........
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Yeah, meetup is a great idea.
 
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This is our 2nd separtion in 6 months ... this is why I’m so anxious, I feel like somehow I ruined the marriage. I got to get those negative thoughts out of my head, deep down I know I’m not totally responsible...

And what complicates matters more is I’ve been off on unpaid disability and she is the only household income and benefits until I can get my disability established, the other problem that I will have no benefit coverage...and I’m on some must take RX.

So now I’m debating with myself about needing to return to my job...even though health wise it wood be hard.

Somrtimes life just sucks...
 
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