Depression and Anxiety

[MichaelWinicki]

Spend some time volunteering...

Work with the elderly.

Work with your local ASPCA as a dog walker or foster an animal (no long term commitment necessary).

Become a Big Brother.

Offer to teach someone a skill that you have.

Feeling good about oneself starts with idea that you have something to offer others.

By giving of yourself and giving a little bit of joy to someone or something will help you realize your own sense of self worth.

Being able to love and accept ourselves often starts with others showing us that we do provide something meaningful to them.

 

[lukin2006]

This is huge and awesome. If both of you have open minds and are committed, how awesome. Good stuff, Lukin.

Thank you Trouty, I think we have an open mind...

What has helped is all the positive responses of support from the greatest fans on earth, here at the CZ...this place is awesome.

 

[lukin2006]

Spend some time volunteering...

Work with the elderly.

Work with your local ASPCA as a dog walker or foster an animal (no long term commitment necessary).

Become a Big Brother.

Offer to teach someone a skill that you have.

Feeling good about oneself starts with idea that you have something to offer others.

By giving of yourself and giving a little bit of joy to someone or something will help you realize your own sense of self worth.

Being able to love and accept ourselves often starts with others showing us that we do provide something meaningful to them.

All great suggestions, the volunteering I am looking into, I am looking into volunteering at our local legion (veterans).

 

[lukin2006]

I went to a psychiatrist, and found the right combination of meds. It helps tremendously. If it gets worse, I'd look into that route.

I’ve met with a phsychiatrist and was diagnosed as suffering from depression....it’s a battle, everyday...

 

[vlad]

I'm sorry to hear you're suffering, but know that can will get better. As others have said, exercise, eating well, and activities will all be part of the solution. Great advice!

I suffer and I've been fortunate to have a friend become a mentor teaching me mindful meditation - and I'm telling you its great. I'm happy to tell you what he's taught me so far (I've just started), if you ever like.

This friend got married, and in less than a year he discovered his wife was hiding anti-social personality disorder and after she got drunk and unloaded on his family at his brother's wedding (while he had long been asleep), long story short she came into the room, started beating on him and said as he's trying to hold her down from beating him (other more crazy **** had happened before) "I'm going to have my boyfriend beat you up"...that's how he found out and 3 weeks later she's living with this guy and took his dog. He's said meditation turned it all around - teaches you to be present and grateful and well its not easy but its worthwhile.

I wish you the best and again if you ever want to learn what I'm learning so far, I'm more than happy to help in anyway.

 

[MichaelWinicki]

All great suggestions, the volunteering I am looking into, I am looking into volunteering at our local legion (veterans).

A big thumbs up!

While it may seem trite, it's true– No matter how bad you have it, there's someone out there who has it worse. You bring a little joy to their life and you'll make a deposit in your own bank of self worth.

 

[Fletch]

Anyone else suffering? I am recently diagnosed as suffering from depression... a little back ground that has led to my depression...in the last 5 years, my brother passed away, 49, and my mother passed away after breaking her hip, and then last night I fell a sleep on the couch and when I woke my wife had left me...just to much loss, very, very tough dealing...thanks for reading.

Not gonna preach. Though I’ll leave ya with this.

“I sought the Lord, and He heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.”
Psalms 34:4

 

[lukin2006]

Everyday is a battle ... I take any small positives as a victory...

Peace

 

[Melonfeud]

I deal with depression. I have it under control now, but 2 years ago I swallowed a handful of sleeping pills when I was drunk. I didn't care if I woke up, or not. I used to self medicate with marijuana, which made it 3x worse. Marijuana being good for depression is completely false. Hang in there. I woukdnt wish this **** on my worst enemy.

Hey,Dancer! Man,I go the sleeping pills& booze avenue pretty regular, if I liked smoking weed I'd probably indulge, maybe some mild sucker leaves wouldn't be all that invading, but it's just not where I want to go .

The positive is my wife has agreed to marriage counselling...we had our first session, it went well.

One day at a time is now my motto...

Thanks to all for the amazing responses...

All right,Lukin

There's a fantastic good bunch of guys here,huh bro?

I was going to add-to on the exercise part in that it seemed splitting up a bunch of firewood always seemed to be the best therapy for me in terms of contending with that waking up alone part

Hey,man! You never did tell me,that I recall, what the Social Security office is telling you?

 

[Melonfeud]

I'm sorry to hear you're suffering, but know that can will get better. As others have said, exercise, eating well, and activities will all be part of the solution. Great advice!

I suffer and I've been fortunate to have a friend become a mentor teaching me mindful meditation - and I'm telling you its great. I'm happy to tell you what he's taught me so far (I've just started), if you ever like.

This friend got married, and in less than a year he discovered his wife was hiding anti-social personality disorder and after she got drunk and unloaded on his family at his brother's wedding (while he had long been asleep), long story short she came into the room, started beating on him and said as he's trying to hold her down from beating him (other more crazy **** had happened before) "I'm going to have my boyfriend beat you up"...that's how he found out and 3 weeks later she's living with this guy and took his dog. He's said meditation turned it all around - teaches you to be present and grateful and well its not easy but its worthwhile.

I wish you the best and again if you ever want to learn what I'm learning so far, I'm more than happy to help in anyway.

Vlad, that story about your friends whack job spouse dog knapping his hound had me cracking up( I'm sorry,man!)
But pretty much the same thing happened to me as after I'd set into a place of my own ( I'm the one who split) I'd re-allocated my yellow lab, well, her& her long haired boy friend from her work re- dog knapped him,,,and needless to say, that didn't set for $#&t with me,so I went over and knocked on my 'old' front door and when her boyfriend answered the door , I proceeded to put the mobile homer trailer stomp to him,,&,re-re-allocated my dog,,& remarkably they held no further claims towards him after that,,,

(yeppers,good times man!)

 

[lukin2006]

Hey,Dancer! Man,I go the sleeping pills& booze avenue pretty regular, if I liked smoking weed I'd probably indulge, maybe some mild sucker leaves wouldn't be all that invading, but it's just not where I want to go .

All right,Lukin

There's a fantastic good bunch of guys here,huh bro?

I was going to add-to on the exercise part in that it seemed splitting up a bunch of firewood always seemed to be the best therapy for me in terms of contending with that waking up alone part

Hey,man! You never did tell me,that I recall, what the Social Security office is telling you?

They haven’t got back to me as now...

 

[alicetooljam]

My therapist has also said the same ...

I like to take my dog to the dog park ...

It’s hard doing that, we are in the mist of extremely cold weather.

I heard that, cabin fever doesnt help! Ready for the cold to move on out...I 3rd or 4th, exercise. Walking, jogging, working in my yard regularly, literally melts my stress, slows my mind down for a bit. Reading a good book is also good for times when you need to occupy your mind from wondering and worrying. Hang in there! This too, shall pass...

 

[Cowboys_22]

Anyone else suffering? I am recently diagnosed as suffering from depression... a little back ground that has led to my depression...in the last 5 years, my brother passed away, 49, and my mother passed away after breaking her hip, and then last night I fell a sleep on the couch and when I woke my wife had left me...just to much loss, very, very tough dealing...thanks for reading.

Hang in there Lukin. Pulling for you friend. Never give up. Keep looking up.

 

[Melonfeud]

They haven’t got back to me as now...

I think I'd be reminding them,friend! as it seems to be on the surface ,something not taking any great length of time to make a determination on,ya,know?

 

[lukin2006]

I haven’t posted here in a while...the wife and I are still a part, I expect it to take awhile...but we are talking, which is good. One good thing coming out of this is I’m spending time with my single father, he’s 83, very active though...so last weekend I decided to go spend the weekend and watch the NFL playoffs with him (big nfl fan, like me), I had a fantastic time, we went out to a sports bar for dinner for the early game and then finished the evening off watching the late game with a couple glasses of, then we went out for a fantastic breakfast Sunday, took my dog for a stress relieving walk before we settled in for the afternoon games...the thing is...my dad sent me emails this week about what fantastic weekend he had, and we are doing again this weekend...I loved it myself, it added so much to my self worth bank...just knowing from this day forward spending more time with my dad will be so good for me and my self esteem...thank you dad.

My predictictment...I joined a men’s support group(so I thought), but after a month it appears all they do is beat themselves up over every mistake (no discussion ensues on whether anyone learns from their mistakes, just beat themselves up), also it is run by a recovery alcoholic (who thinks anyone who has a drink or has a real nice time once awhile, is an alcoholic).

So at tonight’s meeting I did say that at “times I misuse alcohol”, so automatically I need to go to AA, is his response, I’m not even mentioning the response I got when mentioning I’m a medicinal cannibis user.

Anyways the point im trying to get at is that I’ve put myself on this path of rediscovery, and part of my journey is to get my self worth up, and I’m going to do that by spending as much time with my father, bring some happiness and joy to his life...and I started that this week, and the whole week I felt so good about myself, until tonight at my supposed support group...

My question, is this normal in support groups??? should look for better support.

This guy running the support group doesn’t believe in anti-depressents either, very preachy, very judgemental...

Im becoming very uncomfortable...

Any input is appreciated...

 

[Melonfeud]

I haven’t posted here in a while...the wife and I are still a part, I expect it to take awhile...but we are talking, which is good. One good thing coming out of this is I’m spending time with my single father, he’s 83, very active though...so last weekend I decided to go spend the weekend and watch the NFL playoffs with him (big nfl fan, like me), I had a fantastic time, we went out to a sports bar for dinner for the early game and then finished the evening off watching the late game with a couple glasses of, then we went out for a fantastic breakfast Sunday, took my dog for a stress relieving walk before we settled in for the afternoon games...the thing is...my dad sent me emails this week about what fantastic weekend he had, and we are doing again this weekend...I loved it myself, it added so much to my self worth bank...just knowing from this day forward spending more time with my dad will be so good for me and my self esteem...thank you dad.

My predictictment...I joined a men’s support group(so I thought), but after a month it appears all they do is beat themselves up over every mistake (no discussion ensues on whether anyone learns from their mistakes, just beat themselves up), also it is run by a recovery alcoholic (who thinks anyone who has a drink or has a real nice time once awhile, is an alcoholic).

So at tonight’s meeting I did say that at “times I misuse alcohol”, so automatically I need to go to AA, is his response, I’m not even mentioning the response I got when mentioning I’m a medicinal cannibis user.

Anyways the point im trying to get at is that I’ve put myself on this path of rediscovery, and part of my journey is to get my self worth up, and I’m going to do that by spending as much time with my father, bring some happiness and joy to his life...and I started that this week, and the whole week I felt so good about myself, until tonight at my supposed support group...

My question, is this normal in support groups??? should look for better support.

This guy running the support group doesn’t believe in anti-depressents either, very preachy, very judgemental...

Im becoming very uncomfortable...

Any input is appreciated...

Oh,Man! Fantastic post @lukin2006 ,it sounded like a real blast you & your Father had( whose his team?) I know that was a cool time together.
Ya,I'd broaden my search activities in finding that certain self help group sessions cuz' it's not sounding like your getting anything positive outta' that particular one,,,find one that helps & welcomes both men& women,,,all treated as equals in dealing with their problems and/or lack of coping skills, as the objective and honest insights from your equal fellows during the group therapy sessions are well worth any foreboding feelings & anticipated discomfort you might have harbored, I've been to a drug& alcohol 'wring-out' clinic a time or two,,,,a lot of the larger Churches
( in congregations) hold those types of meetings,,, but when you have an overlord of the type you're describing it's just a scheduled time filler IMO,,,the beauty of it is,,, you take away from it with you ,WHAT WORKS FOR YOU, not what some set in stone A-hole dictates,,,

 

[DakBringMeBack]

I have some health problems and anxiety is the result of them. I sympathize with anyone who is going through anything like I am. I have a one year old and three year old that are my life. I have to provide for them despite the daily struggles... it isn't easy. Places like this help serve as a worthwhile distraction. I'm always here to talk, just PM me.

 

[DakBringMeBack]

I haven’t posted here in a while...the wife and I are still a part, I expect it to take awhile...but we are talking, which is good. One good thing coming out of this is I’m spending time with my single father, he’s 83, very active though...so last weekend I decided to go spend the weekend and watch the NFL playoffs with him (big nfl fan, like me), I had a fantastic time, we went out to a sports bar for dinner for the early game and then finished the evening off watching the late game with a couple glasses of, then we went out for a fantastic breakfast Sunday, took my dog for a stress relieving walk before we settled in for the afternoon games...the thing is...my dad sent me emails this week about what fantastic weekend he had, and we are doing again this weekend...I loved it myself, it added so much to my self worth bank...just knowing from this day forward spending more time with my dad will be so good for me and my self esteem...thank you dad.

My predictictment...I joined a men’s support group(so I thought), but after a month it appears all they do is beat themselves up over every mistake (no discussion ensues on whether anyone learns from their mistakes, just beat themselves up), also it is run by a recovery alcoholic (who thinks anyone who has a drink or has a real nice time once awhile, is an alcoholic).

So at tonight’s meeting I did say that at “times I misuse alcohol”, so automatically I need to go to AA, is his response, I’m not even mentioning the response I got when mentioning I’m a medicinal cannibis user.

Anyways the point im trying to get at is that I’ve put myself on this path of rediscovery, and part of my journey is to get my self worth up, and I’m going to do that by spending as much time with my father, bring some happiness and joy to his life...and I started that this week, and the whole week I felt so good about myself, until tonight at my supposed support group...

My question, is this normal in support groups??? should look for better support.

This guy running the support group doesn’t believe in anti-depressents either, very preachy, very judgemental...

Im becoming very uncomfortable...

Any input is appreciated...

I have substance abuse issues too.... been there my man. One day at a time. If you are a person of faith I think that's the only thing that will get you through. That; and you have to want it for you. No one else. This is coming from an ongoing addict.

 

[DakBringMeBack]

Want to also reiterate that volunteering is a good suggestion I saw earlier. When my fiance left me and I was diagnosed with something I'm still battling (my fiance ended up coming back and is now my wife) I became a big brother to a kid that needed it in Big Brothers big Sisters. It was really rewarding man. Look for opportunities to help others; you will realize through it that even with all the BS you are dealing with, there are others that might have it less fortunate... and you will feel better doing for your fellow man. I ask God to also bless you through these troubling times. You are beautifully and wonderfully made, always remember that and you are NEVER alone.

 

[lukin2006]

Oh,Man! Fantastic post @lukin2006 ,it sounded like a real blast you & your Father had( whose his team?) I know that was a cool time together.
Ya,I'd broaden my search activities in finding that certain self help group sessions cuz' it's not sounding like your getting anything positive outta' that particular one,,,find one that helps & welcomes both men& women,,,all treated as equals in dealing with their problems and/or lack of coping skills, as the objective and honest insights from your equal fellows during the group therapy sessions are well worth any foreboding feelings & anticipated discomfort you might have harbored, I've been to a drug& alcohol 'wring-out' clinic a time or two,,,,a lot of the larger Churches
( in congregations) hold those types of meetings,,, but when you have an overlord of the type you're describing it's just a scheduled time filler IMO,,,the beauty of it is,,, you take away from it with you ,WHAT WORKS FOR YOU, not what some set in stone A-hole dictates,,,

Thank you for your response...