Depression and Anxiety

[lukin2006]

That's a lot of losses for anyone to take. You're not alone and there's several places to get help. Please reach out to talk to a professional

Thank you. Yes, I've been in counselling, it makes a difference ... with depression and anxiety it's important to put the effort in, just do not rely on medicine. I'm also happy to report that my wife and I have been apart about 6 weeks and I don't get anxiety attacks, that I contribute to counselling.

My wife and I are going out for dinner, so at least the of communication remain open.

The one piece of advice I can give...if anyone is suffering from untreated anxiety/depression and their significant other if truly important to them ... go seek help, my wife is the most loyal person I, I never imagined her leaving me...people with untreated anxiety/depression are tough to live with...that's why I am taking this break from our marriage to really work on myself...she has told me that she'll eventually move back in, she's just not ready at this point...

 

[BrAinPaiNt]

Continued support for you.

And continued support for others out there who are going through some tough times. You know who you are and you know I wish you the best.

 

[CouchCoach]

I went to a psychiatrist, and found the right combination of meds. It helps tremendously. If it gets worse, I'd look into that route.

I went to a psychiatrist and he started taking meds.

 

[kskboys]

Thank you. Yes, I've been in counselling, it makes a difference ... with depression and anxiety it's important to put the effort in, just do not rely on medicine. I'm also happy to report that my wife and I have been apart about 6 weeks and I don't get anxiety attacks, that I contribute to counselling.

My wife and I are going out for dinner, so at least the of communication remain open.

The one piece of advice I can give...if anyone is suffering from untreated anxiety/depression and their significant other if truly important to them ... go seek help, my wife is the most loyal person I, I never imagined her leaving me...people with untreated anxiety/depression are tough to live with...that's why I am taking this break from our marriage to really work on myself...she has told me that she'll eventually move back in, she's just not ready at this point...

Maybe it's time for you to really examine what she was getting out of the marriage and adjust yourself accordingly.

If she's loyal, as you say, then it's time for you to start appreciating and nurturing that loyalty instead of taking it for granted.

 

[CouchCoach]

Maybe it's time for you to really examine what she was getting out of the marriage and adjust yourself accordingly.

If she's loyal, as you say, then it's time for you to start appreciating and nurturing that loyalty instead of taking it for granted.

I cannot Amen this enough.

Take it from someone who had the best thing any man could ever want and still took it for granted far too often and regrets that every day of his life. The worst part of growing old is the memories I can't change. And my advice to every one I know is to make the best memories you can while you can because they will come back to visit you often, invited or not.

Make it all about that special person in your life and you will have less time to focus on your own issues. I have really good friends that have spent their lives searching for what I was given and while that will not make all the problems go away, you do have the strongest ally to help you face them.

 

[lukin2006]

Maybe it's time for you to really examine what she was getting out of the marriage and adjust yourself accordingly.

If she's loyal, as you say, then it's time for you to start appreciating and nurturing that loyalty instead of taking it for granted.

Thats exactly correct. I am working hard to better myself, and I am doing a much better job communicating with her, making my self more approachable and am very supportive of her decision...I may not like it, but i understand why we can't live together at this time...I also make sure I give her space, I avoid texting or calling for several days at a time...just to give her space...

 

[kskboys]

Thats exactly correct. I am working hard to better myself, and I am doing a much better job communicating with her, making my self more approachable and am very supportive of her decision...I may not like it, but i understand why we can't live together at this time...I also make sure I give her space, I avoid texting or calling for several days at a time...just to give her space...

Start making it about her instead of making it about what you want/need from her. Fine line, but you can do it.

Stop "not liking" it and realize that you caused it and it was necessary for her mental and emotional health. Start making everything about figuring out what she needs from you and work to give it to her. It might be hard, because it might be space she needs, but remember, it's not about you anymore.

Find some hobbies and some friends. Maybe volunteer for something. That would help both of you tremendously.

And remember, the harder you try to pull her closer, the more difficult it will be for her to come back. However, at the same time don't leave out the "I love you's", just don't go so overboard that you seem needy.

Wish I knew more about her, I could help you even more. Her responses, what's she actually saying now, how she looks at you. Don't be afraid to apologize if/when she sounds annoyed.

 

[lukin2006]

Start making it about her instead of making it about what you want/need from her. Fine line, but you can do it.

Stop "not liking" it and realize that you caused it and it was necessary for her mental and emotional health. Start making everything about figuring out what she needs from you and work to give it to her. It might be hard, because it might be space she needs, but remember, it's not about you anymore.

Find some hobbies and some friends. Maybe volunteer for something. That would help both of you tremendously.

And remember, the harder you try to pull her closer, the more difficult it will be for her to come back. However, at the same time don't leave out the "I love you's", just don't go so overboard that you seem needy.

Wish I knew more about her, I could help you even more. Her responses, what's she actually saying now, how she looks at you. Don't be afraid to apologize if/when she sounds annoyed.

Thanks for your response...we had a lovely dinner out and a nice visit this afternoon, she is coming over tomorrow...she continually tells me she wants the marriage to work ... I believ e her ... we are at talking about our living arrangements. She accepted a new job (over the road trucker)...long haul. I think that will be good for us. I am giving her space. She hugs me and kisses me like we haven’t in years...we both miss each other...I am really trying, but I do get sad at times...I am supportive of her new job.

 

[lukin2006]

My Aunt passed away Saturday. She had cancer, was diagnosed 6 years ago, was told she’d only live 1 year, but made it 6 years ...

She drank 2 cups of dandelion tea/day + cannibus oil...