Depression and Anxiety

[lukin2006]

I have some health problems and anxiety is the result of them. I sympathize with anyone who is going through anything like I am. I have a one year old and three year old that are my life. I have to provide for them despite the daily struggles... it isn't easy. Places like this help serve as a worthwhile distraction. I'm always here to talk, just PM me.

You have my sympathy it’s tough, thanks for your kind words.

I too find this a great distraction...

 

[lukin2006]

Oh,Man! Fantastic post @lukin2006 ,it sounded like a real blast you & your Father had( whose his team?) I know that was a cool time together.
Ya,I'd broaden my search activities in finding that certain self help group sessions cuz' it's not sounding like your getting anything positive outta' that particular one,,,find one that helps & welcomes both men& women,,,all treated as equals in dealing with their problems and/or lack of coping skills, as the objective and honest insights from your equal fellows during the group therapy sessions are well worth any foreboding feelings & anticipated discomfort you might have harbored, I've been to a drug& alcohol 'wring-out' clinic a time or two,,,,a lot of the larger Churches
( in congregations) hold those types of meetings,,, but when you have an overlord of the type you're describing it's just a scheduled time filler IMO,,,the beauty of it is,,, you take away from it with you ,WHAT WORKS FOR YOU, not what some set in stone A-hole dictates,,,

He’s an indifferent Detroit Lion fan...he’d be pleased if they won it all.

 

[lukin2006]

Spent another great weekend with my dad watching football. So looking forward to the super bowl weekend with my dad. We’ll go out for breakfast the hit up a sports bar for dinner...

 

[Ranched]

Thank you Trouty, I think we have an open mind...

What has helped is all the positive responses of support from the greatest fans on earth, here at the CZ...this place is awesome.

I am truly heart broken with everything you have shared with your Cowboys family. With that said luk, I will continue remembering you in my prayers. PM me if you need to vent.

 

[lukin2006]

I am truly heart broken with everything you have shared with your Cowboys family. With that said luk, I will continue remembering you in my prayers. PM me if you need to vent.

Thank you, I really feel my marriage is over, and I’m heart broken at this point...

 

[lukin2006]

Super stoked for this weekend ... spending the weekend with Dad, going to a sports bar for the first half of the super bowl...

 

[Ranched]

He’s an indifferent Detroit Lion fan...he’d be pleased if they won it all.

"Collinsworth, who will broadcast Sunday's Super Bowl LII between the New England Patriots and Philadelphia Eagles, said Tuesday he expects the Lions to reach their first Super Bowl sometime in the near future."

 

[lukin2006]

"Collinsworth, who will broadcast Sunday's Super Bowl LII between the New England Patriots and Philadelphia Eagles, said Tuesday he expects the Lions to reach their first Super Bowl sometime in the near future."

I think I’d like to see that, I live across from Detroit...it’d be crazy if they do.

 

[Montanalo]

Thank you, I really feel my marriage is over, and I’m heart broken at this point...

Lukin, I am rather late to this conversation but want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I think it is amazing that you shared your heartfelt feelings so openly and honestly on this forum. Equally amazing is the outpouring of support from the CZ members.

I really don't have anything new or different to add to the list of suggestions. Having experienced the break-up of a long-term marriage, I can happily state: there is life after divorce.

All the best!

 

[lukin2006]

Lukin, I am rather late to this conversation but want you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I think it is amazing that you shared your heartfelt feelings so openly and honestly on this forum. Equally amazing is the outpouring of support from the CZ members.

I really don't have anything new or different to add to the list of suggestions. Having experienced the break-up of a long-term marriage, I can happily state: there is life after divorce.

All the best!

Thank you for your kind words...I’m not really sure why I shared here...but glad I did, the support from CZ members is amazing...we are truly blessed to be surrounded by not just great fan base but even better people...

 

[CouchCoach]

I haven’t posted here in a while...the wife and I are still a part, I expect it to take awhile...but we are talking, which is good. One good thing coming out of this is I’m spending time with my single father, he’s 83, very active though...so last weekend I decided to go spend the weekend and watch the NFL playoffs with him (big nfl fan, like me), I had a fantastic time, we went out to a sports bar for dinner for the early game and then finished the evening off watching the late game with a couple glasses of, then we went out for a fantastic breakfast Sunday, took my dog for a stress relieving walk before we settled in for the afternoon games...the thing is...my dad sent me emails this week about what fantastic weekend he had, and we are doing again this weekend...I loved it myself, it added so much to my self worth bank...just knowing from this day forward spending more time with my dad will be so good for me and my self esteem...thank you dad.

My predictictment...I joined a men’s support group(so I thought), but after a month it appears all they do is beat themselves up over every mistake (no discussion ensues on whether anyone learns from their mistakes, just beat themselves up), also it is run by a recovery alcoholic (who thinks anyone who has a drink or has a real nice time once awhile, is an alcoholic).

So at tonight’s meeting I did say that at “times I misuse alcohol”, so automatically I need to go to AA, is his response, I’m not even mentioning the response I got when mentioning I’m a medicinal cannibis user.

Anyways the point im trying to get at is that I’ve put myself on this path of rediscovery, and part of my journey is to get my self worth up, and I’m going to do that by spending as much time with my father, bring some happiness and joy to his life...and I started that this week, and the whole week I felt so good about myself, until tonight at my supposed support group...

My question, is this normal in support groups??? should look for better support.

This guy running the support group doesn’t believe in anti-depressents either, very preachy, very judgemental...

Im becoming very uncomfortable...

Any input is appreciated...

I have read through the replies and all offer some great advice and I can relate to some of what you are going through. I lost my Dad 8 years ago, my wife 7 and my Mom 2 years ago. I felt, and and times still do, like an orphan.

I discovered something over this period of time, no one was going to help me get out of this depressive state of mind. It was solely up to me to stop feeding the "monster". And that's what it is and it doesn't need much nourishment to feed and grow and ultimately take over.

If you've been diagnosed with clinical depression, getting the drugs necessary to get balanced is a trial and error situation. It is also fluid and can change without warning. Do not mask your feelings or dull them, stay in tune with exactly how you are feeling and be most aware of the negative thoughts.

Sounds like you need a new group because having a facilitator that is judgmental is the last thing you need. That is the opposite of support. The way to judge if you are in the right one is to monitor how you feel while there and after you leave. Doesn't sound like you're feeling supported.

Working your way out is hard work because the monster is always there just waiting to pull you down to the pit in which it dwells, the pit of hopelessness. And it is a pit so slick on all sides.

lukin, you need some balance. Life is a scale and all the hardships it hands us are on one side and it is up to us to balance out the other side. You need to load up as much as you can and there are some great suggestions here and physical exercise is a great start, endorphins help load the scale in your favor.

Make a list of everything that makes you smile or laugh and feed yourself as much as you can take. Laughter starves the monster. At least, that has been my experience and I use this forum to self-medicate on laughter. The first place I come to now when I open up the computer is the Funny Cats thread in the Off-Topic Zone and it hasn't failed to deliver. I woke up this morning in a funk because I hate February, lost my wife and Mom and that rotten, stinkin', worthless Valentine's day, created by degenerate florists, jewelers, chocolate producers and Hallmark to rebound from a sucky January after a good December, comes to remind me I am alone. I hit the Funny Cat thread and laughed heartily and the funk subsided. Oh, it will be back, the monster never sleeps and we much stay on guard.

Here is where I apologize for the length of this but writing here is this thread is therapy and only I can decide how much I need. You started this seeking answers and support. I don't have a lot of answers for someone else's life, still working on that for my own. But, I want to thank you for this thread. I just reminded myself of how I need to starve my monster. And he is one hungry SOB. Do not feed yours.

 

[lukin2006]

I have read through the replies and all offer some great advice and I can relate to some of what you are going through. I lost my Dad 8 years ago, my wife 7 and my Mom 2 years ago. I felt, and and times still do, like an orphan.

I discovered something over this period of time, no one was going to help me get out of this depressive state of mind. It was solely up to me to stop feeding the "monster". And that's what it is and it doesn't need much nourishment to feed and grow and ultimately take over.

If you've been diagnosed with clinical depression, getting the drugs necessary to get balanced is a trial and error situation. It is also fluid and can change without warning. Do not mask your feelings or dull them, stay in tune with exactly how you are feeling and be most aware of the negative thoughts.

Sounds like you need a new group because having a facilitator that is judgmental is the last thing you need. That is the opposite of support. The way to judge if you are in the right one is to monitor how you feel while there and after you leave. Doesn't sound like you're feeling supported.

Working your way out is hard work because the monster is always there just waiting to pull you down to the pit in which it dwells, the pit of hopelessness. And it is a pit so slick on all sides.

lukin, you need some balance. Life is a scale and all the hardships it hands us are on one side and it is up to us to balance out the other side. You need to load up as much as you can and there are some great suggestions here and physical exercise is a great start, endorphins help load the scale in your favor.

Make a list of everything that makes you smile or laugh and feed yourself as much as you can take. Laughter starves the monster. At least, that has been my experience and I use this forum to self-medicate on laughter. The first place I come to now when I open up the computer is the Funny Cats thread in the Off-Topic Zone and it hasn't failed to deliver. I woke up this morning in a funk because I hate February, lost my wife and Mom and that rotten, stinkin', worthless Valentine's day, created by degenerate florists, jewelers, chocolate producers and Hallmark to rebound from a sucky January after a good December, comes to remind me I am alone. I hit the Funny Cat thread and laughed heartily and the funk subsided. Oh, it will be back, the monster never sleeps and we much stay on guard.

Here is where I apologize for the length of this but writing here is this thread is therapy and only I can decide how much I need. You started this seeking answers and support. I don't have a lot of answers for someone else's life, still working on that for my own. But, I want to thank you for this thread. I just reminded myself of how I need to starve my monster. And he is one hungry SOB. Do not feed yours.

Very sorry to hear about your loss’s in your life. Thank you very much for sharing. I will respond with a much better response after super bowl Sunday...I do find keeping busy helps. If you are watching enjoy the game...

 

[lukin2006]

I have read through the replies and all offer some great advice and I can relate to some of what you are going through. I lost my Dad 8 years ago, my wife 7 and my Mom 2 years ago. I felt, and and times still do, like an orphan.

I discovered something over this period of time, no one was going to help me get out of this depressive state of mind. It was solely up to me to stop feeding the "monster". And that's what it is and it doesn't need much nourishment to feed and grow and ultimately take over.

If you've been diagnosed with clinical depression, getting the drugs necessary to get balanced is a trial and error situation. It is also fluid and can change without warning. Do not mask your feelings or dull them, stay in tune with exactly how you are feeling and be most aware of the negative thoughts.

Sounds like you need a new group because having a facilitator that is judgmental is the last thing you need. That is the opposite of support. The way to judge if you are in the right one is to monitor how you feel while there and after you leave. Doesn't sound like you're feeling supported.

Working your way out is hard work because the monster is always there just waiting to pull you down to the pit in which it dwells, the pit of hopelessness. And it is a pit so slick on all sides.

lukin, you need some balance. Life is a scale and all the hardships it hands us are on one side and it is up to us to balance out the other side. You need to load up as much as you can and there are some great suggestions here and physical exercise is a great start, endorphins help load the scale in your favor.

Make a list of everything that makes you smile or laugh and feed yourself as much as you can take. Laughter starves the monster. At least, that has been my experience and I use this forum to self-medicate on laughter. The first place I come to now when I open up the computer is the Funny Cats thread in the Off-Topic Zone and it hasn't failed to deliver. I woke up this morning in a funk because I hate February, lost my wife and Mom and that rotten, stinkin', worthless Valentine's day, created by degenerate florists, jewelers, chocolate producers and Hallmark to rebound from a sucky January after a good December, comes to remind me I am alone. I hit the Funny Cat thread and laughed heartily and the funk subsided. Oh, it will be back, the monster never sleeps and we much stay on guard.

Here is where I apologize for the length of this but writing here is this thread is therapy and only I can decide how much I need. You started this seeking answers and support. I don't have a lot of answers for someone else's life, still working on that for my own. But, I want to thank you for this thread. I just reminded myself of how I need to starve my monster. And he is one hungry SOB. Do not feed yours.

I went to funny cat thread...yes it did make me laugh, I will check out daily now...thanks for the tip.

 

[Ranched]

I think I’d like to see that, I live across from Detroit...it’d be crazy if they do.

Same here Lukin. More then the Egals that's for sure. I truly doubt it would be any crazier then it is here in Egals country. 6 months of nothing but Egals chants.

Local news first 10 minutes is all Egals. I literally haven't watched the local news for quite sometime now. Definitely Cowboys fans worse nightmare....which could turn out to be a wonderful dream should they lose.

 

[lukin2006]

Same here Lukin. More then the Egals that's for sure. I truly doubt it would be any crazier then it is here in Egals country. 6 months of nothing but Egals chants.

Local news first 10 minutes is all Egals. I literally haven't watched the local news for quite sometime now. Definitely Cowboys fans worse nightmare....which could turn out to be a wonderful dream should they lose.

I can be hard on Detroit fans .... but I’ve been to few cowboys game in Detroit, other than trash talking I’ve never felt unsafe...can visiting team fan going to games in philly say the same?

 

[cowboyec]

got married 4yrs ago...over night became a dad of 2...adopted them so they could take my name...our son is autistic so it can be a real challenge.
just dont know if Im doin any good at all.
wife keeps tellin me Im a great dad...sure dont feel like it.

 

[lukin2006]

got married 4yrs ago...over night became a dad of 2...adopted them so they could take my name...our son is autistic so it can be a real challenge.
just dont know if Im doin any good at all.
wife keeps tellin me Im a great dad...sure dont feel like it.

I’m sure your a great dad, I have no children, but I worked 23 years in a school, so I know children can be a challenge to raise and even far more challenging with an autisic child. Just be there for your wife and children and hopefully all works well.

 

[CouchCoach]

got married 4yrs ago...over night became a dad of 2...adopted them so they could take my name...our son is autistic so it can be a real challenge.
just dont know if Im doin any good at all.
wife keeps tellin me Im a great dad...sure dont feel like it.

You kiddin' me, eric? Your child with some issues wasn't born to you, you chose that. There are many worthless aholes that desert their blood born children and here you are taking that on. Both of your kids are lucky and so is your wife and I'd say you're doing good...and so are they.

 

[cowboyec]

You kiddin' me, eric? Your child with some issues wasn't born to you, you chose that. There are many worthless aholes that desert their blood born children and here you are taking that on. Both of your kids are lucky and so is your wife and I'd say you're doing good...and so are they.

thank you.

 

[GMO415]

Anyone else suffering? I am recently diagnosed as suffering from depression... a little back ground that has led to my depression...in the last 5 years, my brother passed away, 49, and my mother passed away after breaking her hip, and then last night I fell a sleep on the couch and when I woke my wife had left me...just to much loss, very, very tough dealing...thanks for reading.

That's a lot of losses for anyone to take. You're not alone and there's several places to get help. Please reach out to talk to a professional