I was engaged once before I got married. She is a friend on Facebook. She is on her third marriage. The guy she dumped me for (I still can't believe he beat me out) treated her awful. She got divorced 9 months later and was 6 months pregnant when she got her divorce.
I am told her 2nd husband was abusive and she actually basically fled to other states to get away from him.
Her current husband is a good guy, but a common friend tells me they are having some rough spots. She has two sons with him, so three kids total.
One day last Summer, out of the blue she sent me a message on Facebook and apologized for dumping me and said it was the biggest mistake of her life. Remember, she is married right now, and she is telling me this.
I saw her one time after her first marriage ended and before I ever met my wife. If she had shown any interest at all I would have probably married her on the spot. I would have had an 18 month old step daughter, but I don't care about that.
She was almost cold. I was glad because I was finally able to close that door. Finding my wife was an answer to prayer. She's amazing.
I was floored by that apology. The first thing I did was tell my wife about it. I think that is what gets people in trouble. They hide something and think it is kind of exciting to be mysterious. I don't. I cherish what I have and would do nothing to damage it. She had her chances.
The same day she also talked to her 2nd husband on the phone and got out some bitterness she felt for him. Her daughter from the first marriage warned her about the dangers of talking to ex-husbands and old boyfriends and she mentioned that to me. I shut it down immediately. I said, "Put her mind at ease. I would never jeopardize my marriage. This is just an old friend giving you support."
I have not heard from her ever since. It was kind of surreal because I know she was fishing to see if I was still there.
I can easily imagine that there can be issues with things like this simply because of this circumstance.
