Happily Married?

[kimrose]

I've been married 7 years and we have been together for 12 years. We have a great marriage. I think the secrets to our success has been patience, friendship, and space. We didn't rush into marriage. I've see SO many people get that newness feel with a girl and want to rush right into it. Usually fails. Take your time people. Also, yes we are lovers, but we also maintain a great friendship, if that makes sense. Finally, I think space is good. My wife has always given me space to go out with the boys, watch football, go do dumb guy stuff. I do the same for her. Its been a great road so far and she puts up with me.

Great advice, Slammed. I hope you two last forever. You certainly have what it takes.

 

[TheKey]

Im newly married after being with my now wife for four years. One thing I will say is that you need to learn how to let things go. No matter how good of friends you are if you both cannot learn what is important and worth a discussion/argument over and what is a minor annoyance it will be difficult at first. Sometimes my wife will expect me to go somewhere with her and I had already made plans with other people and it will cause a discussion. Its definately an adjustment always coordinating with another person and not just planning for yourself anymore.

 

[DFWJC]

Marriage is great as long as you don't try to run her life....and you don't try to run your own life!.

 

[yimyammer]

Happily married for over 26 years. I give her credit for everything. She's been my inspiration and reason for wanting to succeed since the day i met her 27 years ago. If i had met her in my teens, I'd probably be president. We are exactly alike, but totally different, and it works great. Knock on wood!! I'll elaborate a bit more later as this thread gets going.
Fyi, i had no intention of getting married when i did. I was playing the field and enjoying it. I met her and fell like a ton of bricks. I knew within a few weeks that she was the one. Go with your gut, don't ask for to much advice, you might not like what other people say.

good for you buddy! You're a ten-percenter!*

* I have a theory that only 10% of those who marry find long term happiness, We know over half get divorced, the remainder stick together for a variety of reasons (religion, kids, finances, guilt, apathy) and then there are the lucky few who find happiness and the kind of love that allows them to stay happily side by side for their entire lives...these are the ones that usually die a few days or weeks after the other passes

 

[MWH1967]

One bit of advice... if its pissy or not. If you love your spouse don't go to bed without saying you love them or at least appreciate them. It's not worth the risk if it's the last thing you ever say. promise.