Life's somewhat regretful mistakes

[Melonfeud]

I guess friends, fans & fellow members, that for most in life , more is said than done and this is pretty much the entire gist of this thread, yes! a post about the one that got away and/ or you escaped from (which really shouldn't be a regrettably memory) and/or passing up on that smoking, screaming deal when you took a pass on that classic muscle car back in the day or that (at least) 22lb. lunker large mouth bass you almost brought up to breaking the waters surface before it 'tinked' your line and was gone!,,,

Mine would be at this stage of the game in life would ,in all honesty,,, passing up on an offer of 65 acres 3 miles north of the Canadian river in Oklahoma for a flat 40k, I was hooked immediately, but didn't have that kind of capital it would've required to even 'lock' it down at the time right around 1990 or 91, it was owned by an older friend of mine who would've even carried it a little while, who ran construction 'iron' and well,him getting old,fat& lazy developed a bad habit of standing on top of the road grader blade he'd operate and reach in the cab, push& pull a couple of levers to alleviate that undue effort of properly mounting the equipment
Anyway he'd slipped while pulling this bone head maneuver, grasped the wrong levers and ended up losing his left leg in the process, he'd lived& died in a wheelchair after that
But that's when the ol' boy had shot me that deal,,, and I've pretty much been kicking myself over it ever since & every time the mention of the Canadian river is brought up in movies and such ,dredges up that faint flicker of "what if"

I'd love hearing any & all input you regretful fans might harbor,,,

 

[dallasdave]

I guess friends, fans & fellow members, that for most in life , more is said than done and this is pretty much the entire gist of this thread, yes! a post about the one that got away and/ or you escaped from (which really shouldn't be a regrettably memory) and/or passing up on that smoking, screaming deal when you took a pass on that classic muscle car back in the day or that (at least) 22lb. lunker large mouth bass you almost brought up to breaking the waters surface before it 'tinked' your line and was gone!,,,

Mine would be at this stage of the game in life would ,in all honesty,,, passing up on an offer of 65 acres 3 miles north of the Canadian river in Oklahoma for a flat 40k, I was hooked immediately, but didn't have that kind of capital it would've required to even 'lock' it down at the time right around 1990 or 91, it was owned by an older friend of mine who would've even carried it a little while, who ran construction 'iron' and well,him getting old,fat& lazy developed a bad habit of standing on top of the road grader blade he'd operate and reach in the cab, push& pull a couple of levers to alleviate that undue effort of properly mounting the equipment
Anyway he'd slipped while pulling this bone head maneuver, grasped the wrong levers and ended up losing his left leg in the process, he'd lived& died in a wheelchair after that
But that's when the ol' boy had shot me that deal,,, and I've pretty much been kicking myself over it ever since & every time the mention of the Canadian river is brought up in movies and such ,dredges up that faint flicker of "what if"

I'd love hearing any & all input you regretful fans might harbor,,,

Good stuff, thanks for sharing.

 

[The Dark Bishop]

Well my friend, lets see how this grabs you. While no where near the heart breaker of some great property, here is a hard luck story for you. Back in 2011 I was moving back home from Vegas after a messy divorce that left me with some clothes, a computer, and $50,000 in dept. Mind you the $50,000 had nothing to do with the divorce. That was a child I though was adopted at the age of 2 where the mother decided to hit me up with 16 years of child support instead after the fact. Regardless I went back home expecting jail time as soon as I crossed the state line. Instead I was given 2 months to find a job and pay $500 a month so all worked out there.

Then came a relationship I was involved in for almost 4 years. Not really sure I can call it a relationship being she was legally separated, then not, then legally separated, then not. lol Seems you must remain separated for a year to make the divorce final in NC. Funny thing is her hubby would move to his boat 9-10 months of the year, and since a boat is not a legal residence, he was allowed to move back in to her home which killed the separation. She really did try fighting it but to take that to court she would have to pay for both their lawyers just on that part.

Anyhow while dating or whatever you shall call that 4 years, I managed to not only knockout $26,000 of that child support but managed to save $10,000 for a down payment on a house for us if the divorce was ever to be finalized. Needless to say that didn't happen and while reeling from such I had a decision. I could buy a good car clean and clear, or try for a loan with that money as collateral. See I was part of the e-cig scene from Vegas over 8 years ago. There was not a single shop in Northern VA or Eastern WV until 2 years ago. While $10,000 could get me a place it was not enough for stock and such. Sadly after 3 tries to get a loan for another $15,000, I chose to get my mothers 2009 Kia Optima with 50,000 miles on it in 2015. I can't really complain, the car went to 168,000 miles before hitting a dear at 70 mph and being called a loss.

Anyhow there are now Vape shops at every other corner of Northern VA and Eastern WV. I can get to 4 of them within 6 miles from my house. Can you imagine if I was the first to open one 2-3 years before everyone else? What make it even worse is I also learned how to be a mixologist before leaving Vegas to bring in even more revenue seeing I could make my own juices and get corporate accounts for wholesale in product? Just goes to shows you, no matter how great an idea may be, no matter how profitable a business could be, it takes money to make money. If only business loans were given to dreamers instead of those rich enough that really don't need loans. I understand I am a risk which would explain high interest rates, but to be denied means missing out on my dream. Not just once with the business, but twice with the numskull that would never leave.

Well at least I have my pride and my health. Well pride anyways.... Hope this is what you were looking for Melon. I'm sure there are far better stories than mine, but this is mine... So

 

[TheKey]

Well my friend, lets see how this grabs you. While no where near the heart breaker of some great property, here is a hard luck story for you. Back in 2011 I was moving back home from Vegas after a messy divorce that left me with some clothes, a computer, and $50,000 in dept. Mind you the $50,000 had nothing to do with the divorce. That was a child I though was adopted at the age of 2 where the mother decided to hit me up with 16 years of child support instead after the fact. Regardless I went back home expecting jail time as soon as I crossed the state line. Instead I was given 2 months to find a job and pay $500 a month so all worked out there.

Then came a relationship I was involved in for almost 4 years. Not really sure I can call it a relationship being she was legally separated, then not, then legally separated, then not. lol Seems you must remain separated for a year to make the divorce final in NC. Funny thing is her hubby would move to his boat 9-10 months of the year, and since a boat is not a legal residence, he was allowed to move back in to her home which killed the separation. She really did try fighting it but to take that to court she would have to pay for both their lawyers just on that part.

Anyhow while dating or whatever you shall call that 4 years, I managed to not only knockout $26,000 of that child support but managed to save $10,000 for a down payment on a house for us if the divorce was ever to be finalized. Needless to say that didn't happen and while reeling from such I had a decision. I could buy a good car clean and clear, or try for a loan with that money as collateral. See I was part of the e-cig scene from Vegas over 8 years ago. There was not a single shop in Northern VA or Eastern WV until 2 years ago. While $10,000 could get me a place it was not enough for stock and such. Sadly after 3 tries to get a loan for another $15,000, I chose to get my mothers 2009 Kia Optima with 50,000 miles on it in 2015. I can't really complain, the car went to 168,000 miles before hitting a dear at 70 mph and being called a loss.

Anyhow there are now Vape shops at every other corner of Northern VA and Eastern WV. I can get to 4 of them within 6 miles from my house. Can you imagine if I was the first to open one 2-3 years before everyone else? What make it even worse is I also learned how to be a mixologist before leaving Vegas to bring in even more revenue seeing I could make my own juices and get corporate accounts for wholesale in product? Just goes to shows you, no matter how great an idea may be, no matter how profitable a business could be, it takes money to make money. If only business loans were given to dreamers instead of those rich enough that really don't need loans. I understand I am a risk which would explain high interest rates, but to be denied means missing out on my dream. Not just once with the business, but twice with the numskull that would never leave.

Well at least I have my pride and my health. Well pride anyways.... Hope this is what you were looking for Melon. I'm sure there are far better stories than mine, but this is mine... So

While an interesting read, I'm not sure that would have been as lucrative as you think. There are four stores now? What would the benefit to having been the first? There were no stores back then because the trend had not hit NC yet. You might have been top dog for a little bit, but that kind of business is brutal and there isn't much of a first mover advantage.

 

[Melonfeud]

Good stuff, thanks for sharing.

Well ,thanks a pantload pal!
You could've at least mentioned the regrettable fact that you wished you would've spent more time squeezing the Charmin toilet tissue while at the grocery store with yer' mom when you was a kid or something,,, SHEESE,,,

 

[The Dark Bishop]

While an interesting read, I'm not sure that would have been as lucrative as you think. There are four stores now? What would the benefit to having been the first? There were no stores back then because the trend had not hit NC yet. You might have been top dog for a little bit, but that kind of business is brutal and there isn't much of a first mover advantage.

No there are 4 stores within 6 miles of my home. There are now over 50+ stores within 40 miles of me. They are like the newest fade. Eventually there will be nothing to be made unless the shop has their own mixologist or has a Chinese supplier that can make knockoffs of authenticate mods for far cheaper because it is getting over ran by so many companies. Sadly longevity of many of these shops will really come down to who has the biggest following. Most of the Mods these days last over 2-3 years, so why keep buying the newest, biggest, greatest thing? Eventually it will come down to enthusiasts, better quality juices, and cheaper mods to enjoy the juices. Only other saving grace will be building a repour with your clients and being first gives you that chance like no other.

 

[Melonfeud]

Well my friend, lets see how this grabs you. While no where near the heart breaker of some great property, here is a hard luck story for you. Back in 2011 I was moving back home from Vegas after a messy divorce that left me with some clothes, a computer, and $50,000 in dept. Mind you the $50,000 had nothing to do with the divorce. That was a child I though was adopted at the age of 2 where the mother decided to hit me up with 16 years of child support instead after the fact. Regardless I went back home expecting jail time as soon as I crossed the state line. Instead I was given 2 months to find a job and pay $500 a month so all worked out there.

Then came a relationship I was involved in for almost 4 years. Not really sure I can call it a relationship being she was legally separated, then not, then legally separated, then not. lol Seems you must remain separated for a year to make the divorce final in NC. Funny thing is her hubby would move to his boat 9-10 months of the year, and since a boat is not a legal residence, he was allowed to move back in to her home which killed the separation. She really did try fighting it but to take that to court she would have to pay for both their lawyers just on that part.

Anyhow while dating or whatever you shall call that 4 years, I managed to not only knockout $26,000 of that child support but managed to save $10,000 for a down payment on a house for us if the divorce was ever to be finalized. Needless to say that didn't happen and while reeling from such I had a decision. I could buy a good car clean and clear, or try for a loan with that money as collateral. See I was part of the e-cig scene from Vegas over 8 years ago. There was not a single shop in Northern VA or Eastern WV until 2 years ago. While $10,000 could get me a place it was not enough for stock and such. Sadly after 3 tries to get a loan for another $15,000, I chose to get my mothers 2009 Kia Optima with 50,000 miles on it in 2015. I can't really complain, the car went to 168,000 miles before hitting a dear at 70 mph and being called a loss.

Anyhow there are now Vape shops at every other corner of Northern VA and Eastern WV. I can get to 4 of them within 6 miles from my house. Can you imagine if I was the first to open one 2-3 years before everyone else? What make it even worse is I also learned how to be a mixologist before leaving Vegas to bring in even more revenue seeing I could make my own juices and get corporate accounts for wholesale in product? Just goes to shows you, no matter how great an idea may be, no matter how profitable a business could be, it takes money to make money. If only business loans were given to dreamers instead of those rich enough that really don't need loans. I understand I am a risk which would explain high interest rates, but to be denied means missing out on my dream. Not just once with the business, but twice with the numskull that would never leave.

Well at least I have my pride and my health. Well pride anyways.... Hope this is what you were looking for Melon. I'm sure there are far better stories than mine, but this is mine... So

WoW!
Reckon I'll take into consideration those jousting jabs the Putty has given you the crash course insider info on then,ya Man! them women are heaven & hell conjoined,,, but I'm not gonna go there tonight.
10k is pretty light (+15k you were angling at for the loan on the E-cig vape shop)
My buddy has one, I was with him out in the garage the night he ordered his first 30k of startup Chinese casing-liner's while we were still trying to find a lock on a suitable store front to lease/ modify, I just hauled a 55 gal drum of that sex lube glycerin oil in the back of my pickup for him a few weeks back, that market is totally over saturated & you're probably ahead of the curve( idk, but with the states& tobacco co. wanting it shut down or tax revenues from it real soon,,,it's a tough game to play,)my friend started this before his divorce & now just pretty much employs gals( who are prolly screwing him over in more ways than one,it being largely a cash bizzness and he don't show up there daily) and man them deer play hell on anything other than military armor at 70 m.p.h.,,, I was mechanically enslaved into a brother in laws trucking co. at one time that had fleet status so it was a couple dozen rigs and would replace a $300 front bumper on a freightliner some driver would hit a deer with and damned if the ol' boy wouldn't come back in for servicing & maintenance a week to 10 days later with another bashed/ dented in front bumper from hitting another deer,,over in your A.O. by the way, one dude cracked his Fiberglas right front fender well hitting them suckers,,, you're fortunate you wasn't hurt hitting that one in the car,,,good post buddy,but it never was my intended purpose to dredge up bad times or memories,,, I guess I really didn't study this thing through enough.

 

[The Dark Bishop]

WoW!
Reckon I'll take into consideration those jousting jabs the Putty has given you the crash course insider info on then,ya Man! them women are heaven & hell conjoined,,, but I'm not gonna go there tonight.
10k is pretty light (+15k you were angling at for the loan on the E-cig vape shop)
My buddy has one, I was with him out in the garage the night he ordered his first 30k of startup Chinese casing-liner's while we were still trying to find a lock on a suitable store front to lease/ modify, I just hauled a 55 gal drum of that sex lube glycerin oil in the back of my pickup for him a few weeks back, that market is totally over saturated & you're probably ahead of the curve( idk, but with the states& tobacco co. wanting it shut down or tax revenues from it real soon,,,it's a tough game to play,)my friend started this before his divorce & now just pretty much employs gals( who are prolly screwing him over in more ways than one,it being largely a cash bizzness and he don't show up there daily) and man them deer play hell on anything other than military armor at 70 m.p.h.,,, I was mechanically enslaved into a brother in laws trucking co. at one time that had fleet status so it was a couple dozen rigs and would replace a $300 front bumper on a freightliner some driver would hit a deer with and damned if the ol' boy wouldn't come back in for servicing & maintenance a week to 10 days later with another bashed/ dented in front bumper from hitting another deer,,over in your A.O. by the way, one dude cracked his Fiberglas right front fender well hitting them suckers,,, you're fortunate you wasn't hurt hitting that one in the car,,,good post buddy,but it never was my intended purpose to dredge up bad times or memories,,, I guess I really didn't study this thing through enough.

Yes Sir it is over saturated at this point. Like I said it takes being first to build a fanbase, but also takes a quality product. Luckily for me this was long before the FDA was regulating new juices and making you copyright them as of today. I had 2 friends from China that could mill replicas at a 10th of the price in bulk but that bulk was at least 200 pieces. I see you already understand wholesale prices when dealing with Nic and flavor since you have a friend dealing with such. A corporate/wholesalers account can wield you those drums for pennies on the dollars but it is the flavors that really cost. Even the Nic on corporate accounts are rather cheap.

As far as the woman, man I really lost out. She was a tomboy at heart. With the looks of beauty and the mind and mouth of a sailor. lol I took her to a PPV showing of UFC and she out did me and my friends. Even knew more about each fighter than most. Explained the different belts in BJJ, called each move as it was happening, even those that had yet to happen. Then out drank most of us and was the most remembered thing about the night. Nothing like having your arm around beauty and brains. She will be missed, that's for sure. Anyhow enough of that torture.

Now we are at tales of deer..... I really do need to go hunting more. Maybe thin the population a bit. It is strange as many as we have, it is only 3 months for bow season, and a month for rifle. I guess the truckers do us a service but I dodge at least 2-3 each night on route 7. For the record, my 70 mph encounter, was met with zero brake. I was told if I were to brake my car lowers and it can go up through the windshield. Told best to try and dodge, but if you can't run straight through him. I ducked, I dodged, I swerved, and still he won. All I can think is he was attracted to my headlights. Anyhow I was lucky. I just wish the cop would have given me a few more minutes with his back turned to get another shot at him. Now I have a car payment each month of $270. Add that to insurance and I am paying $420 a month again.

 

[Melonfeud]

No there are 4 stores within 6 miles of my home. There are now over 50+ stores within 40 miles of me. They are like the newest fade. Eventually there will be nothing to be made unless the shop has their own mixologist or has a Chinese supplier that can make knockoffs of authenticate mods for far cheaper because it is getting over ran by so many companies. Sadly longevity of many of these shops will really come down to who has the biggest following. Most of the Mods these days last over 2-3 years, so why keep buying the newest, biggest, greatest thing? Eventually it will come down to enthusiasts, better quality juices, and cheaper mods to enjoy the juices. Only other saving grace will be building a repour with your clients and being first gives you that chance like no other.

You are spot on in that assessment of the loyal customers & obtaining the cut rate CHI-COM junk( it's really not that crappy of crapatudial crap ,much anymore) my dude had a half brother than was the steady Eddie and ran it for 3or 4 years and pinched/ pilfered enough stock to start up his own vape shop, I'll swing by and buy a small bottle of black licorice from him and cut up with the laughs & latest stories now& then(I think I took a nap on one of his couches out in the vaping lounge waiting on the game stop to open one morning, his girl behind the counter thought it was oddly kinda cool,,,)
But when brother Bob split he took better than half of that customer loyalty with him,,,

 

[The Dark Bishop]

You are spot on in that assessment of the loyal customers & obtaining the cut rate CHI-COM junk( it's really not that crappy of crapatudial crap ,much anymore) my dude had a half brother than was the steady Eddie and ran it for 3or 4 years and pinched/ pilfered enough stock to start up his own vape shop, I'll swing by and buy a small bottle of black licorice from him and cut up with the laughs & latest stories now& then(I think I took a nap on one of his couches out in the vaping lounge waiting on the game stop to open one morning, his girl behind the counter thought it was oddly kinda cool,,,)
But when brother Bob split he took better than half of that customer loyalty with him,,,

Ouch my friend. Them are the brakes. You have to be there non stop. The loyalty is to those seen at all times..... You couldn't pry me away from my own business. Anyhow we live and learn. Eventually the vape shops being brick and mortar will barely sustain with internet pricing. Without a true savant as a mixologist with his head in the game long before the FDA stepped in, will dwindle down. It is what it is.

 

[The Dark Bishop]

WoW!
Reckon I'll take into consideration those jousting jabs the Putty has given you the crash course insider info on then,ya Man! them women are heaven & hell conjoined,,, but I'm not gonna go there tonight.
10k is pretty light (+15k you were angling at for the loan on the E-cig vape shop)
My buddy has one, I was with him out in the garage the night he ordered his first 30k of startup Chinese casing-liner's while we were still trying to find a lock on a suitable store front to lease/ modify, I just hauled a 55 gal drum of that sex lube glycerin oil in the back of my pickup for him a few weeks back, that market is totally over saturated & you're probably ahead of the curve( idk, but with the states& tobacco co. wanting it shut down or tax revenues from it real soon,,,it's a tough game to play,)my friend started this before his divorce & now just pretty much employs gals( who are prolly screwing him over in more ways than one,it being largely a cash bizzness and he don't show up there daily) and man them deer play hell on anything other than military armor at 70 m.p.h.,,, I was mechanically enslaved into a brother in laws trucking co. at one time that had fleet status so it was a couple dozen rigs and would replace a $300 front bumper on a freightliner some driver would hit a deer with and damned if the ol' boy wouldn't come back in for servicing & maintenance a week to 10 days later with another bashed/ dented in front bumper from hitting another deer,,over in your A.O. by the way, one dude cracked his Fiberglas right front fender well hitting them suckers,,, you're fortunate you wasn't hurt hitting that one in the car,,,good post buddy,but it never was my intended purpose to dredge up bad times or memories,,, I guess I really didn't study this thing through enough.

For the record, only info I was given by Putty, was in the beer drinking thread. I have read a few comments on those with loves lost and how they might have stayed with a few headaches at the time, but that was more them saying their own piece. While I enjoy Putty ribbing on me and several others, I also see where a few I truly got along with have not said things to me in some time since I played along and ribbed the whole userbase of the thread. Not saying Trouty is mad at me, but have yet to see a direct message to me since I made the picture gram of many. Truth is I don't know your story, though I doubt it belongs here....

 

[Melonfeud]

Ouch my friend. Them are the brakes. You have to be there non stop. The loyalty is to those seen at all times..... You couldn't pry me away from my own business. Anyhow we live and learn. Eventually the vape shops being brick and mortar will barely sustain with internet pricing. Without a true savant as a mixologist with his head in the game long before the FDA stepped in, will dwindle down. It is what it is.

Copy that! As the true 'oddity' is my home boy has enjoyed basically ZERO online sales & it's been Duely set-up & set into motion by none other than his big brother BoB since day #1,,,
my,brother! the scammers r gonna scam! Man,woman,blood-kin or blood- feud foe,,the folks very soul is of question,?,
As much now as in days of old long ago

 

[The Dark Bishop]

There are 4 sites that offer different 120ml for $4.99 a piece each week just to get you hooked on their product. With the FDA regulations the pricing is actually far beyond marketing value. Hell might barely be breaking profits to be honest. They will take a loss just to get you to try their product. Not gonna lie, thesaucela has at least 2 favors per week at $4.99 a 120ml. I could say that about 2 other sites as well. If they did not just start off, they would have a better following. Yeti does a 120ml for $50. Buy 2 and get the 3rd free. Trust me, they do one of the best custards out there, but every once in a long while, they do buy a 1 get 2 free. Meaning $50 for 3 120mls. Their name sells and really doesn't need such, but it helps with new buyers.

 

[Trouty]

No there are 4 stores within 6 miles of my home. There are now over 50+ stores within 40 miles of me. They are like the newest fade. Eventually there will be nothing to be made unless the shop has their own mixologist or has a Chinese supplier that can make knockoffs of authenticate mods for far cheaper because it is getting over ran by so many companies. Sadly longevity of many of these shops will really come down to who has the biggest following. Most of the Mods these days last over 2-3 years, so why keep buying the newest, biggest, greatest thing? Eventually it will come down to enthusiasts, better quality juices, and cheaper mods to enjoy the juices. Only other saving grace will be building a repour with your clients and being first gives you that chance like no other.

I have a Smok AL85. Had the M80 before that. I love vaping!!! Reason I quit smoking cigs.

 

[Trouty]

For the record, only info I was given by Putty, was in the beer drinking thread. I have read a few comments on those with loves lost and how they might have stayed with a few headaches at the time, but that was more them saying their own piece. While I enjoy Putty ribbing on me and several others, I also see where a few I truly got along with have not said things to me in some time since I played along and ribbed the whole userbase of the thread. Not saying Trouty is mad at me, but have yet to see a direct message to me since I made the picture gram of many. Truth is I don't know your story, though I doubt it belongs here....

I'm not mad at you!!!! Sorry, I've been sick and aloof some, lately. Bishop, we are buds!!!!

 

[kimrose]

I do have regrets in life, but the way I see it....we can have no growth or "rebirth" without them, you know what I mean, brother? It is our lessons in life that teach us to be better and stronger and more intelligent in our next endeavors of this life and hopefully the beyond. We must embrace them and ride the wave of pain and shame, and let that wave take us where it may, to another shore of wisdom and reality, that we need to survive, to a brighter sunshine and a place we can be proud of, that we got here, man!

And we got here in our way and in our time. No time is better than our own personal now; regardless of age or experience, we are all living in our own "now". And now we make a new plan, a better one, from what we have learned in our past. This is something I have learned over my time. Our own now and our own place is where we are supposed to be at our moment in this time, and we are supposed to build on it and make it better, regardless of where the tide has taken us. Sometimes forward, sometimes back. We are all living on an ocean of currents and tides, and we either go with it or against it, but it all leads back to the same place. Our reality. We make it, we break it, we correct it...or not. It is our mistakes and our regrets and our re-growths, because of them, that make us who we are today. And for that, it is okay, my friend. I know you know what I mean. We have traveled some of the same paths. Of that I can guarantee you.

Happy New Year to you, Melon.

 

[waldoputty]

For the record, only info I was given by Putty, was in the beer drinking thread. I have read a few comments on those with loves lost and how they might have stayed with a few headaches at the time, but that was more them saying their own piece. While I enjoy Putty ribbing on me and several others, I also see where a few I truly got along with have not said things to me in some time since I played along and ribbed the whole userbase of the thread. Not saying Trouty is mad at me, but have yet to see a direct message to me since I made the picture gram of many. Truth is I don't know your story, though I doubt it belongs here....

wait, you were asking me for all the dirt on everyone by private messaging...
and you wanted to know how to get under melon rind...
naughty bishop
now everyone hates you
and no one is going to play with you!

 

[waldoputty]

I'm not mad at you!!!! Sorry, I've been sick and aloof some, lately. Bishop, we are buds!!!!

r u going to show him how much u really feel?
show some bro love!

 

[Ranching]

I guess friends, fans & fellow members, that for most in life , more is said than done and this is pretty much the entire gist of this thread, yes! a post about the one that got away and/ or you escaped from (which really shouldn't be a regrettably memory) and/or passing up on that smoking, screaming deal when you took a pass on that classic muscle car back in the day or that (at least) 22lb. lunker large mouth bass you almost brought up to breaking the waters surface before it 'tinked' your line and was gone!,,,

Mine would be at this stage of the game in life would ,in all honesty,,, passing up on an offer of 65 acres 3 miles north of the Canadian river in Oklahoma for a flat 40k, I was hooked immediately, but didn't have that kind of capital it would've required to even 'lock' it down at the time right around 1990 or 91, it was owned by an older friend of mine who would've even carried it a little while, who ran construction 'iron' and well,him getting old,fat& lazy developed a bad habit of standing on top of the road grader blade he'd operate and reach in the cab, push& pull a couple of levers to alleviate that undue effort of properly mounting the equipment
Anyway he'd slipped while pulling this bone head maneuver, grasped the wrong levers and ended up losing his left leg in the process, he'd lived& died in a wheelchair after that
But that's when the ol' boy had shot me that deal,,, and I've pretty much been kicking myself over it ever since & every time the mention of the Canadian river is brought up in movies and such ,dredges up that faint flicker of "what if"

I'd love hearing any & all input you regretful fans might harbor,,,

I've been very fortunate in my life, not many regrets. I've made my share of mistakes, but have never really dwelled on them. The one thing I do regret is not being there when my mother died. The whole family was at her house the morning she passed. We knew she was not doing well, but she was having a good day. I decided to go to the weight room to check on my team even though I was on vacation and had 5 coaches assigned to be there. I left abruptly to get there in time for the 11am workout. I just waved at her from across the room and said, see you later mom. Not 10 minutes after I got to the weight room my dad called. I rushed home and saw the ambulance leaving. I followed it, but she had passed by the time it got to the hospital. Her last words were, where are the boys? My dad and three brothes were there, I was in the freaking weight room! Never forgave myself, and honestly, I was never the same coach after that.

 

[Melonfeud]

I do have regrets in life, but the way I see it....we can have no growth or "rebirth" without them, you know what I mean, brother? It is our lessons in life that teach us to be better and stronger and more intelligent in our next endeavors of this life and hopefully the beyond. We must embrace them and ride the wave of pain and shame, and let that wave take us where it may, to another shore of wisdom and reality, that we need to survive, to a brighter sunshine and a place we can be proud of, that we got here, man!

And we got here in our way and in our time. No time is better than our own personal now; regardless of age or experience, we are all living in our own "now". And now we make a new plan, a better one, from what we have learned in our past. This is something I have learned over my time. Our own now and our own place is where we are supposed to be at our moment in this time, and we are supposed to build on it and make it better, regardless of where the tide has taken us. Sometimes forward, sometimes back. We are all living on an ocean of currents and tides, and we either go with it or against it, but it all leads back to the same place. Our reality. We make it, we break it, we correct it...or not. It is our mistakes and our regrets and our re-growths, because of them, that make us who we are today. And for that, it is okay, my friend. I know you know what I mean. We have traveled some of the same paths. Of that I can guarantee you.

Happy New Year to you, Melon.

Awesome & thanks,Kimmy!
I've kinda been ,if not stuck in a rut,coasting in neutral for quite awhile here lately, we got a brand new year ahead of us & I intend to change up some thing here going forward.
( bet I haven't drank more than two beers total, on a new year's eve in over 5 years now & that's something I'm not regretful for,,,)

You Rock!
@kimrose