Longtime Girfriend Is Moving Away

[jimmy40]

Sigh. My girlfriend is going away for 5 months at a time for the next few years. She will be back for a few months, then she will go again for mission trips.

Any suggestions on how to handle the distance and to pass the time?

you might start by changing from NeonDeion21 to RogerStaubach12. maybe my wife can go with her to keep an eye on her.

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

We are both 20. We have been dating for 3 years now.

Do you know how much more dating you will have done by the time you are 40?


Unless, it is the end all, be all of relationships. Prepare for it being a great memory with GREAT times/experiences with that person and thats it.

5 months away - you interact with someone, she interacts with someone. Feelings grow.... then.... well... you know....

Its more natural than you understand.

 

[basstapp]

You did that all over 5 years w/ 5-6 month seperations at a time before getting married? Really?

She came to Atlanta for school and we became friends for about 6 months and started to date for about two months and she graduated and moved back. I would go up there or she would come down here every 3-4 months for about two weeks for about a year and half. We got engaged and went through immigration which took around a year and a half back and fourth. So maybe not 5 years but around 3-4.

Its not easy, but when there is a will there is a way. However, I would not recommend a log distance relationship because of the strain it puts on both the people. Not to mention you must be able to trust your girlfriend/boyfriend 100% which is where most relationships end.

 

[NeonDeion21]

Well today I got some bitter sweet news. My girlfriend will only be gone for it looks like 3 months at a time. However, I do feel bad because she wont be able to go on a few trips she was really looking forward to.

 

[casmith07]

Honestly, and I don't mean to make you feel bad but this just screams of not working out. I would honestly prepare myself and would seriously consider your lives at w/e age you are at and would just move on. It seems you both are in different stages of your lives right now.

It's painful to lose someone you truly care about but you can always remain friends. It really depends on how mature the both of you are and how realistic you think your relationship truly has of "making" it in this extreme situation and distance.

From my experience w/ my friends and myself, it never does work out in the end. Usually its just broken off or someone finds some other person to take up that time while the other person isn't there. Im not saying she would cheat on you or you her, but lets not kid ourselves, we are humans, and it's typical to do those things. We seek to fill the void so to speak, and 5 years and months apart regularly, is very difficult on both parties.

Hate to be a harbinger about it but it's a very difficult situation and the emotion of being apart truly isn't worth it as far as I am concerned.


Sorry to hear about your situation. It sucks.

This is terrible advice. If this were the case, then nobody would ever marry a servicemember since we get to leave our families for a year at a time every other year.

Listen to some of the other people in this thread: communication is key. Prepare to make some sacrifices - if your girlfriend was home, would you do x, y, or z? If not, then you shouldn't do it when she's away, either.

 

[jubal]

Most here may be overlooking the possibilty that you two have pretty strong life-style choices. Just a hunch seeing that she is going on so many mission trip at such an early age....you are very possibly both very strong Christians. That and the fact that you have already been together since you were 17 ups your odds of survival some.

It's still going to be tough...like everyone is saying. But if you're not planning (or wanting) to play the field some, you have a better shot than most.

I had pictured covert or black ops missions or the services, not missionary missions.
Also plan her five months away from Sep. to Jan. then you can watch the Boyz! Just a thought.

 

[Aikmaniac]

Well today I got some bitter sweet news. My girlfriend will only be gone for it looks like 3 months at a time. However, I do feel bad because she wont be able to go on a few trips she was really looking forward to.

You've probably already said this, but how long will she be in town in between trips?

 

[NeonDeion21]

I had pictured covert or black ops missions or the services, not missionary missions.
Also plan her five months away from Sep. to Jan. then you can watch the Boyz! Just a thought.

Well it happened to work out that way anyways. :laugh2:

 

[CanadianCowboysFan]

Sigh. My girlfriend is going away for 5 months at a time for the next few years. She will be back for a few months, then she will go again for mission trips.

Any suggestions on how to handle the distance and to pass the time?

yeah, have another chick on speed dial for booty calls OR just get used to phone sex/skype sex etc

 

[CanadianCowboysFan]

One last thing. Women stay loyal to their soldiers for long periods of time.

They can do it but we as men can't? Says something about our gender doesn't it?

I don't know about that, I am sure there are quite a few soldiers who come home to women who have not been totally faithful.

As for men doing it, not our fault, we are programmed differently based on 4 million years of evolution.

 

[Stautner]

I don't know about that, I am sure there are quite a few soldiers who come home to women who have not been totally faithful.

As for men doing it, not our fault, we are programmed differently based on 4 million years of evolution.

Give a woman a ***** and see how dam loyal she is!

 

[DFWJC]

Unless, it is the end all, be all of relationships........

I think this is the assumption. Time will tell for them obviously.

 

[DFWJC]

I had pictured covert or black ops missions or the services, not missionary missions.
Also plan her five months away from Sep. to Jan. then you can watch the Boyz! Just a thought.

:laugh2: Nice

 

[TellerMorrow34]

I hope it works out for you. I really do. It sounds like one of those situations that is going to be extremely tough though and I'll say that I honestly don't think it will work out.

But I still hope for the best for you two.