So sorry cowpolk...
Just read about your loss.
My 28 year old daughter passed away 7 years ago, so I know it hurts.
Will be praying for you and your family.
Their is a support group called grief share that really helped our family through our loss.
They are nationwide and I highly recommend them.
Later this month, first anniversary for our teenage son.
cowpolk, just remember you are not alone.
I also completely understand about people saying how sorry they are gets old very fast.
Also remember, people deal with grief in different ways, being that if your married, you need to work through everything together (something like this can either make a marriage stronger or whittle it down to the bones).
One of the best things I did was talk to a man who lost his own son some time ago. When you talk with people who have lost a child, they KNOW what you go through themselves. We were both kind of numb for about a month after our own loss.
My only words of advise is just remember it will NEVER leave you. Sad to say, the best you work for is to manage your emotions and it does get better. Remember that, and from my own experience, you manage the grief better. Thought I was doing good 8 months later, and it call came back due to an experience, and went back to sobbing like a baby in that moment. Hard to explain, totally different than losing a parent.