Divorced hurts, being dumped by new girlfriend hurt worse

[Runwildboys]

It’s so weird because she absolutely adored me in the beginning, she looked at me with puppy dog eyes constantly but i wasn’t ready for a long term commitment but she was absolutely falling in love with me, then all of a sudden dumps me and already has another boyfriend, im way too old for this crap lol

She may have been seeing both of you. When I was online dating, I found that the women there say they want a relationship, but in reality, they wanted attention, sex, and free meals.

 

[HeavyBarrel]

She may have been seeing both of you. When I was online dating, I found that the women there say they want a relationship, but in reality, they wanted attention, sex, and free meals.

She would have had literally ZERO time to spend with him as she was always at my place lol, but I do think it only took her a couple of weeks afterwards to start dating him

 

[Tabascocat]

She may have been seeing both of you. When I was online dating, I found that the women there say they want a relationship, but in reality, they wanted attention, sex, and free meals.

If I suddenly became single, I would be for all this

 

[Runwildboys]

If I suddenly became single, I would be for all this

If they were up front about what they wanted, yes.

 

[Vtwin]

It’s so weird because she absolutely adored me in the beginning, she looked at me with puppy dog eyes constantly but i wasn’t ready for a long term commitment but she was absolutely falling in love with me, then all of a sudden dumps me and already has another boyfriend, im way too old for this crap lol

That behavior is a major red flag. I would consider myself lucky to have dodged that bullet.

 

[jwitten82]

It’s so weird because she absolutely adored me in the beginning, she looked at me with puppy dog eyes constantly but i wasn’t ready for a long term commitment but she was absolutely falling in love with me, then all of a sudden dumps me and already has another boyfriend, im way too old for this crap lol

Lol damn that sucks. But she definitely had that dude as around as a backup

 

[HeavyBarrel]

Lol damn that sucks. But she definitely had that dude as around as a backup

Yea, I KNOW for a fact she preferred me over all of them, but no doubt when she figured out I was not going to be husband #3 she moved on and probably hit one of them back up.

FUN FACT: she was in a NIKE commercial with Kevin Garnett, she was the only girl in the commercial and she got $6500 from Nike and was shown for only a split second but a full face shot

 

[HeavyBarrel]

That behavior is a major red flag. I would consider myself lucky to have dodged that bullet.

You are probably right, it hurts because before she became "damaged goods" she was probably my soulmate

 

[RS12]

If you had all the kids you want at your age why are worried about being single? Here is the thing, you sound kind of needy, women don't generally like that. My advice is don't worry about it, focus on yourself and your happiness, you are more than half way through your life, don't you deserve to be happy? You need to find that in yourself not others. As far as women, your age group has lots of single women, just take things as they come and hopefully somebody good comes along. Good luck.

 

[Creeper]

Not so sound glib, but I loved my divorce. Other than the money it cost me, half, I was sorry I didn't do it years before.

 

[Runwildboys]

Not so sound glib, but I loved my divorce. Other than the money it cost me, half, I was sorry I didn't do it years before.

I was lucky. No alimony, and we split everything ourselves, including the money from selling our house. The only lawyer we used was just to do the paperwork.

 

[speedkilz88]

I was lucky. No alimony, and we split everything ourselves, including the money from selling our house. The only lawyer we used was just to do the paperwork.

Man she either really liked and respected you or was willing to do anything to get away from you.

 

[Kevinicus]

Easy...if you're not in a spot in your life where you're ready and willing to make a long term commitment to someone (should things progress accordingly), then don't date.

Focus on yourself, and your family...and I would also suggest God.

 

[Runwildboys]

Man she either really liked and respected you or was willing to do anything to get away from you.

In our 5 year marriage, we only had 3 "shouting" fights. We just grew apart, and mutually wanted out.

 

[HeavyBarrel]

If you had all the kids you want at your age why are worried about being single? Here is the thing, you sound kind of needy, women don't generally like that. My advice is don't worry about it, focus on yourself and your happiness, you are more than half way through your life, don't you deserve to be happy? You need to find that in yourself not others. As far as women, your age group has lots of single women, just take things as they come and hopefully somebody good comes along. Good luck.

I just re-read through some of my posts and wow, I was still under that witch's spell -I am definitely not needy (quite the opposite) but I admit it did come off like that lol

 

[Creeper]

I was lucky. No alimony, and we split everything ourselves, including the money from selling our house. The only lawyer we used was just to do the paperwork.

You were lucky. My ex didn't work after we had our first child. That cost be big, but I am still okay with it. I am a much happier and more relaxed man now. I am pretty sure I will live longer too.

 

[nobody]

This is just a guess, but I would assume that the nastier divorces are when one feels betrayed or blindsided by the other. If it's a mutual parting of ways, it's usually more amicable?

 

[rags747]

Not so sound glib, but I loved my divorce. Other than the money it cost me, half, I was sorry I didn't do it years before.

Do u think she was deserving of Half of your money? Some are and some are not I imagine!

 

[rags747]

Maybe the OP needs or wants to spread out his likes and desires beyond the Female persuasion?! Many many choices out there these days! Ty…

 

[Creeper]

Do u think she was deserving of Half of your money? Some are and some are not I imagine!

At the time I thought not. Now I don't care.