Anybody Else Single and Attracted To A Married Woman?

[GimmeTheBall!]

I don't understand this sort of situation to be perfectly honest with you.

So lets say something does happen between the two of you....why? What good will that have done you? Are you seriously going to look to take it from the casual screwing around and go to actually dating?

I mean if she's a married woman and she starts messing around with you then how would you ever trust her to have any sort of actual relationship with her? If she cheated on her husband with you then it's pretty much about as sure a thing as there is on this Earth that she would cheat on you in the future as well.


It's just a bad all around situation that anyone and everyone should absolutely avoid at all costs. Find attractive single women to be talking to, flirting with, and messing with.


Then again maybe you're looking for something that means no strings attached for you and you're perfectly okay with potentially screwing up someone elses life, who did nothing to do you, so that you can have your fun and feel like you don't have to worry about ever having to have any level of actual commitment. If that's who you are then I'd suggest you take a good, long, hard look in the mirror and rethink your life and priorities.

You write like Dr. Baldhead on TV only you make more since.
You half a good heart and stuff, man.

 

[GimmeTheBall!]

I am surprised the mods of cowboyszone don't have an issue with this.

This is a "family friendly" forum and this is poor morals issue. Discussing/promoting unfamily like activity.

Gee, what a sourpuss. the man is suffering and in love. We need to be supportive and tell him where he is wrong and not reporting this to the principal.

 

[GimmeTheBall!]

Been there, done that.

Banged one of my subordinates for a while. She was unhappily married and I was unhappily engaged.

A jealous coworker found out and snitched, so I got fired.

Then, I beat his *** and left the relationship I was unhappy in.

Probably the best thing that ever happened to me, considering how much happier I am with my life.

You seem to be a man of action. We should all admire you for this story.

 

[sureletsrace]

You seem to be a man of action. We should all admire you for this story.

I wanted out for a while. The only reason I stayed in it was because I had a good job where we lived. When that fell through, I had no desire to be there any more so I got in my car and drove back home to Texas.

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

Tell me the CowboysZone rule it breaks and I will look into it.

Nah, it's cool.
I never said it broke a rule.

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

Gee, what a sourpuss. the man is suffering and in love. We need to be supportive and tell him where he is wrong and not reporting this to the principal.

Heyyyyyyy,... Is that you first complete sentence that is clearly understood? Lmao

 

[GimmeTheBall!]

I wanted out for a while. The only reason I stayed in it was because I had a good job where we lived. When that fell through, I had no desire to be there any more so I got in my car and drove back home to Texas.

You should write a novel: "Sure Let's Race: Lovin'Back from the Edgele

Heyyyyyyy,... Is that you first complete sentence that is clearly understood? Lmao

Redvolution, you misspelling and syntx and mine are troubling.

 

[jnday]

Been there, done that several times. I regret every single time. Too many lives get hurt and in some cases , destroyed. A few hours of totally mind-blowing , great sex is just not worth it. To be honest, it is not easy to live with and it is one of the most selfish acts a person can do. There is no future in ruining marriages. Even if she is open to the ideal , there is nothing to be gained long term. I didn't "love" the women that I was seeing. It was lust. I have to admit though that I loved to lust them.

 

[Hoofbite]

If something like that were to happen, you don't need to be the one to make the first move. That makes you a ******. If she pushes the issue, that's on her and she knows her marriage situation better than you do.

Meh, save yourself the headache. Any person who tosses away a relationship to be with someone else will likely do it again.

 

[Kevinicus]

I've been attracted to a lot of married ladies...women don't get ugly just because they're married.

 

[Fletch]

I wanted out for a while. The only reason I stayed in it was because I had a good job where we lived. When that fell through, I had no desire to be there any more so I got in my car and drove back home to Texas.

Damn! I'd call up Pat Green and ask him to write a song about your ordeal. Love how you jumped in your car and went home to the best state in the nation. Nothing like going home to Texas!

 

[sureletsrace]

Meh, save yourself the headache. Any person who tosses away a relationship to be with someone else will likely do it again.

That's not necessarily true. Maybe the relationship isn't the right one to be in.

Getting into the wrong relationship is a mistake, and it's not a mistake that people can't learn from.

 

[jnday]

That's not necessarily true. Maybe the relationship isn't the right one to be in.

Getting into the wrong relationship is a mistake, and it's not a mistake that people can't learn from.

I understand your point, but people need to get out of the wrong relationship before getting involved in another one. I know an old man that killed his wife and two men that she was seeing while she was still married to him. He told her and the two men that he would kill them and he did. They clearly didn't learn anything from their mistakes. Having relationships with married women, or men is serious business. The old man got the death penalty by the way. He got out of it just days before his execution date. He ended up a free man after an appeal. I doubted his story until I looked it up on the Internet. Is a relationship worth this?

 

[sureletsrace]

I understand your point, but people need to get out of the wrong relationship before getting involved in another one. I know an old man that killed his wife and two men that she was seeing while she was still married to him. He told her and the two men that he would kill them and he did. They clearly didn't learn anything from their mistakes. Having relationships with married women, or men is serious business. The old man got the death penalty by the way. He got out of it just days before his execution date. He ended up a free man after an appeal. I doubted his story until I looked it up on the Internet. Is a relationship worth this?

I understand your point as well, for sure, and agree that people should leave one before starting another.

Sometimes though, people get trapped in a situation. I was stuck supporting three grown adults, two of which were disabled and could not work. I felt obligated to stay and pay the bills and keep food on the table.

Looking back on it now, they have made it work without me and I wasn't truly trapped. But in the moment, that's what it felt like.

 

[65fastback2plus2]

Been there, done that several times. I regret every single time. Too many lives get hurt and in some cases , destroyed. A few hours of totally mind-blowing , great sex is just not worth it. To be honest, it is not easy to live with and it is one of the most selfish acts a person can do. There is no future in ruining marriages. Even if she is open to the ideal , there is nothing to be gained long term. I didn't "love" the women that I was seeing. It was lust. I have to admit though that I loved to lust them.

at least you're honest about the issue.

 

[LittleBoyBlue]

Been there, done that several times. I regret every single time. Too many lives get hurt and in some cases , destroyed. A few hours of totally mind-blowing , great sex is just not worth it. To be honest, it is not easy to live with and it is one of the most selfish acts a person can do. There is no future in ruining marriages. Even if she is open to the ideal , there is nothing to be gained long term. I didn't "love" the women that I was seeing. It was lust. I have to admit though that I loved to lust them.

Not sure if seriously regretting?

Serveral times
Mind blowing, great sex
Loved to lust them


Sounds more like reminiscing in a very fond way... Not so much regretting

 

[TellerMorrow34]

Not sure if seriously regretting?

Serveral times
Mind blowing, great sex
Loved to lust them


Sounds more like reminiscing in a very fond way... Not so much regretting

I think it was more of him describing how people tend to feel as they're doing these things, or the things they tell themselves while it's going on, in order to justify it in their minds.

More so then how he would actually feel about those situations right now. He seems to feel differently about this situation now that he's not in them.

I do see where you're coming from though as it was something that happened multiple times.

 

[jnday]

Not sure if seriously regretting?

Serveral times
Mind blowing, great sex
Loved to lust them


Sounds more like reminiscing in a very fond way... Not so much regretting

If you knew the lives I ruined and hurt, you would see things differently. I learned my lesson , but that doesn't change the fact that I had a good time before I did. Those affairs was really fun until reality slapped me in the face. I realized it was a selfish thing to do. There is nothing wrong with appreciating women, but crossing that line leads to misery. I know firsthand. If I didn't regret it, I would be visiting one of my old flames that sent me a couple text today. I told her no thanks . I am not that person now. When I remarried, that stuff stopped. It has never happened again.

 

[jnday]

I think it was more of him describing how people tend to feel as they're doing these things, or the things they tell themselves while it's going on, in order to justify it in their minds.

More so then how he would actually feel about those situations right now. He seems to feel differently about this situation now that he's not in them.

I do see where you're coming from though as it was something that happened multiple times.

There was multiple women . That only made things worse. That was just more lives destroyed and hurt. I made stupid decisions that I will always regret. I learned from those mistakes and don't put myself in those situations anymore. I still admire a beautiful woman , but not enough to go down that road again . It was some if the lowest things I have ever done.

 

[Hoofbite]

That's not necessarily true. Maybe the relationship isn't the right one to be in.

Getting into the wrong relationship is a mistake, and it's not a mistake that people can't learn from.

Anyone who's leaving an established relationship after having already started another one likely hasn't learned a thing. If they had, it wouldn't have taken a knight in shining armor to end the poor relationship they were previously in. They would have recognized they were in a poor relationship and presumably would have ended it long before prince charming came along.

There are exceptions of course, but generally speaking..........people are who they are.

More importantly, being in the "wrong" relationship doesn't give someone a free pass to be deceitful and dishonest because there are plenty of reasons for why a relationship can be "wrong". Additionally, it's not like people get married without having some idea as to whether or not their relationship can work.

If you were to ask couples who started their relationship on a lie, would more than 50% ultimately stay together or would more than 50% ultimately split?