That's a line of BS, you try to sell kindergartens on their first day of attendance, it's not how adults are treated. If you haven't figured that out yet then it's likely because you are one of those types that have always been best treated with kids gloves. I'm sorry to break that news to you but it's time to grow up. Be it in the military, private business or community involvement, I've been a leader of men for several decades and I know you can not and should not treat all people the same. Some folks don't need supervision/guidance/managing as much as others while some folks can't function without it. In a game of competition on the field, yes the same rules need to apply to all players but in the locker room, the staff's handling of players can not be even keeled because not all players respond the same way to the same management style.