LaTunaNostra said:
Yup, we all do have 'stories' of mistreatment.
All of us, but are they based on race?
I vowed to myself long ago to be intellectually honest enough to admit that all my life I have benefited from white privilege..the open door policy that afford me so many commonplace dignities, whether they be never having my credit card signature checked, walking into a department store with a handbag large enough to stuff a 9 inch tv into and NOT being obviously followed by store ***** (as opposed to when I'm shopping with a black gf...we know she has to take a wallet that I can stash in my purse or it's constant gumshoe tracking), having folks automaticaly expect that I 'earned" my lot in life, or just listening to me as though I had something to say worth hearing.
White privilege. Nothing special.
No big deal.
Lest you don't have it.
And those shoes are the ones we should ALL experience walking in for a few days.
sorry, i won't focus or limit myself to the trials and tribulations of any ONE race. i hate racism and i hate ANYONE being singled out for their race to either punish them or praise them for what in the end is soley a fact of birth that you will be ONE race or another.
and yes, i've been threatened by blacks while in "their neighborhood" as a child in austin and told my "white a** better be gone before the sun goes down". also in austin i had a group of black kids take my basketball (i was more of an icecube at the time) and begin to kick my arse and my mom had to literally come over (we were in a public gym just playing with friends) and get me outta there cause i was getting stomped.
as you can see, that stays with you when you're a kid of 6-7 years old. now i can either spend my life demanding revenge for the unjust treatment or i can realize that's how life works and i need to take some steps to work past it even if i go at it alone.
then 3-4 years ago leaving deep ellum with friends we passed by a group of black people outside a clud and we heard one of 'em say "you be some brave white boys to be here..."
wow. i left liquid lounge to go back to my truck and i'm "brave"? and i used to work with a friend who had to go before HR because he was accused of being racist because he had to fire a black lady who was in the end NOT doing her job and had MORE warnings than i could get away with and HR realized that and in the end all was fine. but he still had to go through all that crap of being called racist and having to defend his actions.
but those are isolated incidents, latuna. i'm sure they have their reasons for it both when i was a child and then 3-4 years ago when i was a much older child. and i'm sure there are people who use their race one way or another to be basically lazy - yes. all that is life and a part of living, not to be called out at every opportunity and the one who's in the "majority" race punished or having to be "defensive".
i don't doubt you've gotten some breaks for being who you are. i don't doubt i have also. just as i don't doubt there are those out there who are flaming racist that makes it tough for all of us to just "get along".
but sooner or later we're going to need to quit "handicapping" races and people are going to have to quit expecting a + here and there because of their race and not what they do and how they do it.
if you really want racism to end you gotta quit seeing races. that's a lot to ask of people and in our lifetime it won't happen. so while i agree with you on a lot of things i disagree that simply reverting to the other extreme is "helpful" in the overall problem.
i don't deny it's tough being black in todays world. i'm sure it was a lot tougher 30-40 years ago and brutal before that. what history has done we can either work to undo and come together or we can keep seperating ourselves and expecting differences in treatment that in the beginning we hated - those differences in treatment.
i also don't deny it's tough being a woman at times. or chinese. or the fat kid, or the gay dude in gym class trying not to stare. is there anyone over 10 years old alive who's not felt like they didn't belong in many social and other situations?
God made us different for a reason. i can only hope one day we get smart enough to realize it should be a good thing, not additional reasons to fight.
and who give a damn where terry glenn had to peepee last night unless it was on my tire after a steely dan concert, then i'd just want his autograph when he was done. : )